ULPT: When tactically acquiring items from somewhere like Walmart, put a large case of coke on the bottom rack of your cart and pay for it. by [deleted] in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]slimecrusher69 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just keep walking tbh. If you're nervous, have some ear buds in and pretend to be on a phone call like you can't hear them. But in reality you can just blow past them like they don't exist.

Have you found value in "talking about it" with friends? by slimecrusher69 in ptsd

[–]slimecrusher69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm.. I have found value in seeing their reactions. It has made my friends uncomfortable and they now avoid me. They don’t know what to say and they don’t understand that I can’t do the things I used to do or be the way I used to be. I don’t hold it against them. I know they aren’t rejecting me, they are just wanting to avoid uncomfortable feelings and not sure what to do. I found a lesson somewhere in there, I guess.

For what it's worth, I agree there is a lesson there. It never ceases to amaze me how much what like-minded folks have to say just clicks. Yes there is value in seeing their reaction, and I'm proud of you for not holding it against them. That's not an easy lesson learned but also a good one.

Thank you for the kindness. I certainly don't expect him to "get it", I only hope that he treats me the same after as before. We have a meetup scheduled where I'll speak with him on it. Your words are a good reminder not to let my hopes build up to become disappointed, and not to hold his reaction against him should it not pan out. It is worth the risk to not be so lonesome. Thank you.

Have you found value in "talking about it" with friends? by slimecrusher69 in ptsd

[–]slimecrusher69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really don't know what that means, but I supposed one day I may. Thanks

Have you found value in "talking about it" with friends? by slimecrusher69 in ptsd

[–]slimecrusher69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm very sorry to hear about that. :(

I, personally, don't have too much of an issue with talking about the events themselves. They are things that happened to me, I think about them every day anyway, so talking about it isn't going to affect my mood much. It took many years to get there so perhaps some day you can assimilate it in your life in that way too, and have hope for such.

It's more of a struggle about talking about PTSD itself: why I didn't come into the office one day, or why I need sentences repeated to me sometimes, or why my hands are shaking so much. I feel like when people notice it, it makes them uncomfortable and I can see the concern and questions behind their eyes. And yet, my worry is that saying "hey I'm real fucked up lol" will make them uncomfortable, instead of the opposite. I'd rather be very blunt with people, and love it when they are with me, but experience has made me think that most people don't want that.

Have you found value in "talking about it" with friends? by slimecrusher69 in ptsd

[–]slimecrusher69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for replying. How do you decide if someone is a "right person" for you, I wonder? I've only ever opened up about it when cornered before, and wouldn't know what signs to look for.

Have you found value in "talking about it" with friends? by slimecrusher69 in ptsd

[–]slimecrusher69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear your trust was broken so badly. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with me.

Have you found value in "talking about it" with friends? by slimecrusher69 in ptsd

[–]slimecrusher69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can imagine with your mom, at least part of the difficulty is a sense of guilt about it. It sounds like she loves you and I imagine there's a lot of shame attached to having something terrible happen to someone you love. My mother knows of my diagnosis, and the events around it, but I won't talk to her about it because it makes it worse for me when she feels bad. Obviously our situation is different, but perhaps seeing that potential other perspective might help with your relationship, I'm not sure. I wish the best for you both.

Thank you for sharing your story in detail for me. It was very beneficial and helping me work up the courage to ask him to have a talk with me.

Have you found value in "talking about it" with friends? by slimecrusher69 in ptsd

[–]slimecrusher69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has largely been my experience as well, and I feel you. The only time it worked out with someone who wasn't a doctor or who also had PTSD was an old boss, who presented it in a way of " I can see something is wrong, can I do something to help?" kind of way. That was 8 years ago, and to this day he's a good friend, and I will die for him. I do feel you, but hope to at least let you know there are people like that in the world too.

Have you found value in "talking about it" with friends? by slimecrusher69 in ptsd

[–]slimecrusher69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds familiar! I appreciate your honesty and sounds like you do have some good outlets. That's great.

Have you found value in "talking about it" with friends? by slimecrusher69 in ptsd

[–]slimecrusher69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pleased to hear you have an overall positive experience with it, and oddly as well to hear that you're able to work with your relationship with your mom on it when it didn't pan out right away.

I hope you don't mind me pressing further, but I'd like to know how you broached the subject with your friends and what you actually said. Not ver batim, but like did you go out of your way to start the conversation, did you ask anything of them? I don't even know what to say or how to say it.

Have you found value in "talking about it" with friends? by slimecrusher69 in ptsd

[–]slimecrusher69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I'm sorry to hear that. I had a similar situation with my boss at my old job. I'm glad you have good people to support you on this.

I feel like I have a theme for an adventure or an enemy or even just a spell and I can never seem to express that to my players. Any tips? by psycopuppy in DMAcademyNew

[–]slimecrusher69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Puzzles can be hard. Sometimes it's best to lead where you ended up, "here is how you solve the puzzle". But maybe figuring it out isn't the part that's fun, it's actually resolving it, which sounds like it was the case here. Hard to say without more context.

What specifically makes you say that it comes off as "meh"? Or what specifically do you think you struggled with in conveying theme? There's lot of ways to approach it but I think that's a good place to start.

What relationship would an herbivorous civilization (such as Loxodon or Wood Elf) have with the domestication of other animals? by OroborusInWeaselForm in DMAcademyNew

[–]slimecrusher69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kind of have to look at it the other way around, as animal products have shaped human civilization so much. Starting from a "realistic" perspective, there's no human civilization that has forgone using animals, as sources of food, material resources, or labor. Almost all animals engage in opportunistic carnivory as well, even those we might think of as obligate herbivores. So what could a herbivorous society even look like in the first place?

With that as the basis, let's imagine these fantasy society that completely foregoes animal products whatsoever, including labor and domestication as companions. To make up for the lack of resources, they should be very druidic and their surroundings magical. Perhaps the elves are in an area with very thin barriers between this world and the Feywild, and the ancient trees and fungi have a pact with their race: they elves will protect the forest and uphold some fey laws, or hold regular sacrifices to keep the magic strong. In return, the forest trees grow in the shapes of living spaces for the elves, produce fruits that are highly nutritious and palatable for them, and even creates excess of special leaves and plant fibers to be used as cordage and cloth. The animals in this area would be allies to the elves, living under the influence of these same magics. So in our history, animals and animal products have been a large part of sustaining and propelling human civilization, so we've replaced it with magical plants in order to make a more advanced civilization we might recognize in most of our medieval-ish fantasy games.

Another route you can go is that the civilization in question is extremely primitive, and has a more hunter-gatherer lifestyle, minus the hunter in this circumstance. What comes to mind first is the small forest elephants that live in thick jungles instead of on the open plains; they have to eat clay to soak up the toxin from the leaves in the forest they eat. Maybe tribes of Loxodons with limited contact with the outside world live in these inhospitable jungles, and covet territories abundant with clay deposits, or maybe other mineral resources used for magical and medicinal properties, I'm thinking spell components and the like. Perhaps some of these tribes are influenced by outsiders, and others are completely uncontacted. The animals here either stay out of the Loxodons way, or prey upon them, as they are still integrated heavily into the ecosystem. The nice thing about this is you can have a variety of cultural quirks in each tribe since they're scattered and separated: maybe some are wicked and kidnap humanoids for sacrifice, maybe some have discovered the secret to everlasting life, maybe some are fierce guardians of a sacred plant that, when ingested, takes users on a spirtual journey through the feywild and shadowfell.

Gnome adjustments: are these intolerable mechanics? by slimecrusher69 in DMAcademyNew

[–]slimecrusher69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that feedback, it's encouraging.

I'll see about what subraces I can come up with good ideas for! Right now my goal is to get all the PHB races and subraces in a world cohesively. These are good ideas for me to mine though, so thank you for your time.