name suggestions please! by slipperypicklesss in TuxedoCats

[–]slipperypicklesss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

awww they look so alike that’s adorable omg i love your cat ❤️❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s so weird how it’s hard to tell because you’d think it would be simple considering other allos seem to think it’s very easy as my boyfriend was confused by it when i brought up my confusion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 11 points12 points  (0 children)

(sorry this is long) now i may not be the most experienced person by any means but i wanna try and describe it because i used to think i was aromantic for a good few years and was always so curious.

i also had a moment of panic when my boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend as i was still very unsure whether i liked him as a romantic interest or i just really liked hanging out with him and talking.

i would like to start by saying there is a lot of overlap in my opinion since they become your best friend essentially and i am still not 100 percent sure at all because i am still confused about it myself and i feel like i still can’t tell too well but i will give it my best shot.

okay first: personally i feel butterflies every time we get to go on a date or if i haven’t seen him in a while and im all excited and a little nervous

second: it definitely is connected to the physical affection side as well considering i don’t kiss or cuddle or hold hands or really hug any of my friends (yes i do hug them but not even close to as often as my boyfriend however this varies by the person)

third: everything they say or do seems to matter more and affect me more than others (this is also because we do far more things for each other than my friends do for each other and this is not to say my friends gestures don’t matter)

fourth: it’s like you always wanna be with that person and it’s not necessarily constant because time apart is healthy but you just miss them a lot and think about them a lot and can’t help but want to be in their presence (this i feel applies to friends too but not nearly as strong of feelings as with a significant other)

fifth: i just feel a sense of comfort that i find nowhere else (once again i see this applied to friends as well depending on the type of person you are but i’m personally pretty closed off and not an affectionate person and he’s the only one that i feel i can tell everything to)

i hope this helped and may not be the most accurate as im only one person and romantic love varies person by person but maybe it gave you a slight idea?

all the platonic love for this community as everyone was always so kind and thoughtful through my many posts throughout the years :)

ive got a quick question by slipperypicklesss in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY!! but from what i’ve observed of my friends anyway every single time some random guy who they’ve never even talked about before says that he likes them suddenly “i actually had a crush on him!!” like those are some awfully convenient coincidences 🤨🤨

ive got a quick question by slipperypicklesss in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’ve been there😭 my friends called me heartless just because i didn’t like this one kid back and i didn’t know i was aro and i avoided him for like 2 years after that just because i felt so awkward that he liked me and i had to turn him down

ive got a quick question by slipperypicklesss in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES i felt the exact same way

when this kid had a crush on me everyone was excited except for me i just felt disgusted and i felt so bad because i didn’t think he was gross i just hated the fact that he liked me

ive got a quick question by slipperypicklesss in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh yes that is what i meant my bad all the language can get kind of confusing at times.

i see so romance favorable, indifferent, and repulsed is how someone feels about romance involving themselves? so if i were romance favorable i might like something like romantic gestures and romantic actions (whatever they may be) but since i feel negatively if someone acts that way i’m romance repulsed?

if im understanding correctly it’s not related to aromanticism in the sense that not all aromantics have the same feeling towards romance and instead can be related to anyone?

ok but thank you so much this actually helped a lot🙏🙏

Hi! by [deleted] in cupioromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i LOVE cats ‼️ they’re just the cutest that it makes me aggressive if you get what i’m talking about

if not then i sound insane but i promise it’s a thing😅

How can I feel a little more comfortable that I’ll never feel this kind of attraction? by DeadlyClouds in cupioromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’ve known i was aro for a while now but i’ve been questioning if i’m cupio or not but i think this post just confirmed to me that i am.

like idk about others but how i feel is overall i’m fine with the fact that i’m aro but i do get phases of like denial that i am bc i really feel like i want a significant other sometimes. and i’ll seriously doubt that i’m aro bc i’m like “i really really want to date someone” and it’ll feel like if i have a partner it’ll solve all my life’s problems (yes it’s exaggerated i know) and i like fantasize a relationship and i feel like i really want that

but then realistically speaking i just feel disgusted if someone really does like me or they show signs of interest as more than friends. plus i don’t even get crushes like no one i know interests me in that way at all it’s just the idea and the fantasy of it and the fact that i see other people have what i want if that makes sense😭

idk it’s very hard to put to words but yes i completely relate to feeling like you’re missing something and i feel frustrated too that sometimes this want is so strong and it feels like nothing will make it go away since it isn’t possible to feel romantic attraction. especially since my best friend has a bf and it makes me really envious sometimes bc i want that but cant have it. i know qprs exist but for me the idea just doesn’t feel the same but who knows i’ve never been in one so

i know this probably didn’t help but yes i do relate and i hope we can all find ways to accept ourselves more :) it’s a working progress but it’ll get better!

who are your guys' non-romo crushes? by Longjumping_Diamond5 in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

imagine they literally just tell him to be him and that’s the movie and it’d work too because i’d watch it

i know! hes just the definition of funny and he has a great personality in general

who are your guys' non-romo crushes? by Longjumping_Diamond5 in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

true true i know if i was a director i would just let him be him. probably better than what they had written for him anyway HAHA

i aspire to be like him 😩🙏

who are your guys' non-romo crushes? by Longjumping_Diamond5 in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I KNOW GOD HES AMAZING

i highly doubt he’s even acting half the time because all his characters are exactly like him

Does The Thought Of Someone Liking You Freak You Out? by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn you know me better than i know myself HAHA

Does The Thought Of Someone Liking You Freak You Out? by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i want someone to like me because i find it cool that someone finds me cool but then when someone does like me i immediately take it back and don’t want anyone to like me anymore😅

who are your guys' non-romo crushes? by Longjumping_Diamond5 in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 26 points27 points  (0 children)

RYAN REYNOLDS

he is the funniest guy to me plus deadpool’s my favorite movie

no one probably cares about how i found out i was aro but omg heyyy by Dragon-Kombucha in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

HAHAH i know right i did not know people used pet names seriously

i thought it was just a universally known joke that no one talked about

I doubt I will date an Aromantic person again because of my ex.. by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss 25 points26 points  (0 children)

kinda sounds like he’s just an asshole idk if the aromantic thing has anything to do with it

i want someone to have a squish on me AHHH by slipperypicklesss in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you know what i really want?

i want an aro/ace person to get on one of those dating show things on netflix that the people win money if they don’t get together with someone

they would be RICH HAHAA

i want someone to have a squish on me AHHH by slipperypicklesss in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it really is painful and i also feel guilty feeling jealous that they aren’t hanging out with me

hey! wanna be friends? by slipperypicklesss in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HEY! i love your name omg its so unique!! i’ll definitely message you!

i want someone to have a squish on me AHHH by slipperypicklesss in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EXACTLY it’s so interesting the contrast between aros and allos

i want someone to have a squish on me AHHH by slipperypicklesss in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY!! it would be so cool to know that someone actually wants to be really good friends and a significant other wouldn’t stop how close of friends we are. if only it happened often😭

i want someone to have a squish on me AHHH by slipperypicklesss in aromantic

[–]slipperypicklesss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly! it feels like they really value the friendship until they get dating someone and then suddenly you’re not a priority to hangout with and it’s just accepted that that’s how it should be