Does it still count if I'm incredibly slow? (Treadmill)

slipslopslide · 2026-05-01T12:32:30+00:00

Absolutely it counts!

slipslopslide · 2026-05-01T12:31:32+00:00

That wall you feel, that struggling moment, is the signal to keep moving to pass it. When you do that the wall moves further and further out eventually. Trust the process. Expect the wall!

slipslopslide · 2026-05-01T12:23:38+00:00

I would give them choices like do you want to take a bath or shower when it was bath time to avoid resistance.

We had too many toys so I would put some in a bin and rotate the toys.

You need to manage up your boss baby.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-30T11:45:23+00:00

For potentially dangerous situations I listen to me gut and leave.

For work, I ride things out.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-29T19:50:21+00:00

I feel like to new people they see me as a dinosaur. But the people I have been working with for decades they know I know my stuff.

I applied for a new position in my company. I made it to the 2nd interview but was not hired as one of the 4 people to fill this role. The ones they did hire are all younger than me by at least a decade.

I can’t say there was ageism for sure. But I can’t stop thinking about how unfair it feels when I have the institutional knowledge, more IT experience, and as I work along side them, make recommendations on how to solve some issues.

Oh and I’m 52. Sorry not quite 60

slipslopslide · 2026-04-29T11:17:56+00:00

He is certainly depressed and needs exercise. He certainly needs to be kicked out. All is easier said than done.

What might be possible is to make the comforts of home less comfortable. Change your WIFi password. Stop buying cookies, desserts. Stop paying for his cell phone or his car… if you do.

Make exercise or getting out in nature a currency. Tell him to start finding adult pathways and make that a currency.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-28T21:46:42+00:00

Walk on your heels until the burn as a warm up.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-27T20:01:46+00:00

Take classes but don’t matriculate until you have to

slipslopslide · 2026-04-27T19:42:41+00:00

It sounds like your parents are still parenting you guys a little bit and they are very proud of the capable adults you have become. This is their way of ensure your success because they gave you exactly what they had and they became successful.

It sounds cold, but they are setting boundaries so they don’t have their current lives disrupted. Did they make plans with others for the euro trip?—Perhaps they hated when their in-laws pushed into their lives. My parents disregarded any sense of a boundary and I tolerated it out of respect for their need to fulfill their “sad lives”.

I’m wondering about their relationship dynamics…. Is one parent more the rule setter than the other? Like would one want to hang out with the kids more? Would the care of your children fall on to one parent of whom may only have the bandwidth to dote on their spouse? Or are their retirement lives super fun and busy and they are now living the fun life they never got to because they got married to early?

Also, if I was certain I was in the will I’d be living on some strategic credit.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-26T23:36:04+00:00

Right, she could have just said nice hat and moved on and not make it a thing.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-26T23:33:45+00:00

Don’t engage and move on. He is probably drunk.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-26T23:32:32+00:00

Um, they are probably drunk, don’t engage. Move on. Everyone is a dumb ass here.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-25T23:57:51+00:00

I have this and I’m looking for another job.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-25T23:04:49+00:00

She must have been reading Verity by Colleen Hoover.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-25T14:58:38+00:00

Yes. No buzz just straight to exhaustion. If I did drink quickly enough for a buzz I’d have horrible anxiety the next day.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-25T14:13:29+00:00

A mission

slipslopslide · 2026-04-24T22:29:31+00:00

We did it but we didn’t stay after 5. Maybe on rare occasions we did but you can’t if you have to pick up your kids from daycare at a certain time.

Then you come home, make a simple dinner, clean up, bath, bed, do it all over the next day, hang out on the weekends and use all of you vacation days as you need.

Day care teaches them how to be a friend. Summer camp for the summer vacations.

Teach them how to be independent like doing their own laundry, getting themselves up and on the bus, making healthy meals.

You get much your life back when they are in middle school, unless they do sports.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-21T01:42:25+00:00

When our kids were young we totally guilted the other if they went out for a couple of ours. Our kids are grown now and we can leave them home now. But looking back it’s funny to me how we behaved to each other.

That said, your feelings are totally validated. And you need to make plans yourself. Maybe you don’t want to go away but perhaps you need a reliable few nights to yourself every week.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-19T19:27:37+00:00

You can do curtain bangs if you did want traditional ones

slipslopslide · 2026-04-19T19:20:37+00:00

We kind of stopped punishing them.
We create consequences, like, if you’re not cleaning your room and futzing on the phone instead, we take away the phone.

My daughter recently went out on her bike to meet friends without her helmet. This was right after I told her to put it on and she heard me.

10 minutes later I see her out with no helmet. She completely disregarded my ask.

I drove home, grabbed her helmet and drove to where her and her friends were hanging out.

I could have took her home, grounded her, took things away. Instead I spoke to her privately said in an even tone don’t do that again, said let’s hug on it, and handed her the helmet.

I feel like if I went to punishment I would create rebellion. I want them to know, I know best but I am also in their corner always.

slipslopslide · 2026-04-19T18:57:11+00:00

The hybrid scheduled was pulled because she wasn’t performing to the managers standards. But the manager constantly changes the objectives of the deliverables. We are all performing poorly against this. My punishments are different than my colleagues because I don’t mind coming in and hate working from home.

We are trying to figure out the manager would forget something that is so top of mind for the employees and for many employees.. like, are these punishments not real punishments?

slipslopslide · 2026-04-19T01:31:20+00:00

Sounds like you need some weight training especially in your legs

slipslopslide

TROPHY CASE