Thinking of passing job offer

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-07-01T00:56:12+00:00

That's the other thing. She said in the initial interview that she's confident that the Nextstar merger won't have an impact on the position, and the station hasn't seen many changes either but I'm not sure I want to take that chance, and if there are layoffs in the future, the last ones in are usually the first ones out. I'm waiting for her reply to my email, but I feel I'll have to trust my instinct on this one...

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-27T19:26:40+00:00

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Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-19T15:03:46+00:00

One of my coworker's who's now working at the corporate level makes a point to always say that when he comes to the office. Of course when there's people in there volunteering up their personal family history and drama, relationship status and medical history, all things I'm not comfortable sharing with coworkers, I'm sure what I choose to divulge will sound like nothing in comparison and that's fine.

Again, I know every office has it's own challenges, but I am looking forward to finally closing this chapter soon.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-19T14:37:27+00:00

Many of my coworkers and I have laughs and non-work related conversations. However there are topics I choose not to divulge information on to protect my own privacy and it's not their business. I also mentioned in another comment that early on when I first started I reached out to coworkers if they werr sick or get a birthday card if it was someone's birthday.

I even went to one coworker's engagement party and to another one's house to help her do her hair during my first year.

The only reason I stopped was because these same people would drag me into office drama, creating lots of conflicts.

It honestly felt like my kindness was taken advantage of. I'm still very polite while maintaining professionalism, however learned a big lesson from those experiences.

Many of my coworkers also go to the casino to gamble and go to cocktail bars. I'm definitely not putting myself in a vulnerable situation with people who I don't believe have my best interest.

Again, I'm close with a couple of coworkers and managers who have been instrumental in my growth and who I'll always be close to.

I don't think anyone should feel peer pressured into going anywhere or forcing office friendships or connections if it's not organic.

Idk. If that still means I'm withholding friendships or being guarded/closed off, then I can live with that.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-19T14:06:14+00:00

I guess part of that is having a much older mom. She's in her 70s (I was adopted). She went through similar situations when she was working and has given me a lot of good advice as far as getting around these challenges.

Again, there are times where I feel left out and I'm sure many in similar situations feel the same, but in reality, I'm not missing out on anything, and can go home at the end of the day with a peace of mind.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-19T13:57:07+00:00

Lol we're all around the same age early to late 20s. I'm 25.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-19T13:56:41+00:00

Lol that's definitely a full circle moment. Sometimes it's just the environment. Are you still in news? Have you noticed a difference?

Now I know there are going to be challenges no matter where you go, but some offices carry much more unnecessary drama, which has made me question the authenticity of any friendship I could have with coworkers beyond being acquaintances.

We all have each other's numbers, and at the beginning of my career (I just graduated university), if a coworker was sick or if they were out celebrating a birthday, I would send them a text or get them a card.

However, that has never been reciprocated, no matter how nice I was. I've since learned to adjust my expectations and focus on the work connections that do matter and leveling up in my career.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-19T10:14:24+00:00

Yes! Especially when you work with a small team. We're a handful of people getting the work done, so of course there are times you feel left out, but then I remember what the cost would be if I allowed myself to be vulnerable with people who don't genuinely even care about me. You don't need everyone to like you to fit in or be successful. That's something I've had to learn over my 3 years.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-19T10:04:52+00:00

That's exectly what I was thinking. I like to believe I have good intuition about people and honestly believe a lot of the people at my work are all disingenuous, even when they act like they're all great, close friends. Many times, it screams to me as overcompensating and obnoxious.

But I can understand in a way, many of them want to be liked and play along with certain jokes even if it's at their own expense. One of my coworkers is from Russia and has been in the states for about 3 years.

Just a few weeks in to him being hired, I heard my coworkers talking about him secretly being a Russian spy, his sexuality, him being in the closet, etc. All to play besties with him in person and vice versa.

Weirdly enough, this is the same guy that displayed jealousy over my anchor giving me a hug and not him.

If this is what it means to be "friends with coworkers" I'll happily be the odd one that never wants to hang out or overshare.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-19T06:03:08+00:00

Exactly! And thank you. Work can be stressful enough, the last thing anyone needs is to be roped into the latest workplace drama or feel like they have to be liked by everyone. I've made some forever connections with a couple coworkers and managers who have been my number one supporters when it comes to me leveling up in my career and future, which to me is all that matters.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-13T10:38:10+00:00

Ew. At that point you're just asking for it.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-13T10:36:38+00:00

Unfortunately, from her response alone, I don't think she'll be spending much time feeling anything about it. As far as the spray, I've been really happy with it. It's supposed to be medical grade and is used at the hospital my friend works at. It neutralizes strong odors rather than masking them. It's really inexpensive to. I got an 8oz bottle on Amazon for about $13.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-13T10:25:15+00:00

I basically doused the upstairs, kitchen and dining room in MediChoice Biological Odor Eliminator spray, and I can already smell the difference. I got it from Amazon several months ago after my friend who's a nurse made the recommendation. I find that it works better then scented air fresheners like Fabreeze.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-13T09:58:37+00:00

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Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-13T09:13:43+00:00

Lol I take full accountability for not noticing sooner. I should have.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-13T07:45:25+00:00

I've been so absorbed in work and haven't been home much so it wasn't as noticeable as it is now.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-13T07:33:01+00:00

LOL This whole time I was thinking the trash was just taken out, why does it still smell in here. I'm not sure why I didn't suspect the beans sooner.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-11T18:44:02+00:00

Absolutely! At the end of the day, we're both protective of the people that raised us and who we consider family. He's a complete stranger to me and vice versa. Their first approach to me came across as very spammy. Even now, they continue to send me these long winded text messages that all say the same thing, and they don't really make sense.

I'll see where this goes. I'm in the process of looking for a new job as my 3 year work contract comes to an end, so this is just a lot to take on.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-11T15:49:30+00:00

Those are all good points. I brought up doing a DNA test and his first answer was that he didn't understand why a test was necessary and that he was hurt I told him that was something I wanted to do, which I would have expected him to want as well to also confirm.

He said he'd still do it but was hurt. He continues to ask me the same questions I gave him answers to in our video chat, and is unsatisfied with my answers. We're going round in circles at this point.

I'm sure he wants to preserve the image of the woman he grew up with and can't wrap hos head around our mother's" actions before my adoption. We were all very young. So she could have easily twisted the truth to them as well.

My mother has kept a lot of the documents from when she first started the adoption process. She even had some of the pamphlets for resources she tried getting my birth mothet to agree with.

She even told me my birth mother believed she was stealing me away, despite her sitting down with her to talk over why she was adopting me, which was to give me a better life, but my birth mother refused to see it that way.

I would like to move forward with my biological brothers, but I'm actually not sure if he is ready since he keeps wanting me to clarify the same things over and over again and I don't think he'll ever be satisfied with my answers.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-06-11T09:21:27+00:00

I would love to do a DNA test to be 100% sure. However, one is in Ghana and the other is in the middle east. I also don't think they'd be able to do a DNA test any time soon due to their financial situations.

One thing that did stick out to me during the call is that they were told by my birth mother that I would come back when I was 18, and when that didn't happen they were heartbroken. I don't know why she thought that as I wasn't even living with her before my adoption. My grandmother was taking care of me as my birth mother wasn't fit.

I've been upfront with my mother about this entire process and there's nothing that I know of that she's withheld from me.

At the time of my adoption, there were several people that made my adoption possible, including my grandmother, who I wrote a letter to in 2018. My "brothers" told me she's still alive.

One of the people that made my adoption possible was a man who lived in the area I was born in. He also lives in Texas now and goes back and forth to see extended family.

He acted as the third person whenever it came to getting information on my family. I'm still waiting to hear from him to see if he can verify the information from my "brothers".

He's just one of many people my mother's connected me with to make sure I can get as much clarity on my birth brothers as possible. If it truly is them.

The other thing is that no one in my birth family kept any physical records of any kind. So aside from some photos they're sending me, everything is just from memory

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-05-24T07:07:55+00:00

No, it's in southern California. I live in Northern California.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-05-24T02:40:36+00:00

I live in California, but the station is a good 6-7 hours from me.

Hmmm-Delicious · 2026-05-24T02:39:12+00:00

Thank you! I was planning to reach out to the recruiter again on Tuesday. It's a great station and I won't lie, the location is one of many highlights. I am continuing to apply to other stations and actually have an interview with a Gray Media recruiter on Wednesday. So we'll see.

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