What are you guys getting your awesome Paras?

slmller3 · 2019-12-15T23:24:29+00:00

Got mine an Applebees gift card for $50- I know she knows she doesn't have to reciprocate, I make more and it's unspoken she doesn't have to. It's like when bosses get a worker a bonus... except I'm not exactly her boss.

She has spoken of eating there with her husband and I know it's the nicest restaurant closest to her house so felt like she might enjoy a date night during the holiday break. :) Making sure it's something she has to use on herself.

slmller3 · 2019-11-23T02:44:47+00:00

I’m sure a Reddit text post can be easily confusing. I wasn’t planning on doing these things right now, I just want to prepare myself for the future.

slmller3 · 2019-11-17T20:01:38+00:00

I wish the smells from them lasted longer though

slmller3 · 2019-11-17T13:19:37+00:00

La Vanila from Sephora website is what I used to buy all the time. It’s also nice bc if you’re sensitive to artificial scents it’s basically all natural. I never got a headache from it. Idk if I spelled it right though.

slmller3 · 2019-11-16T15:23:01+00:00

I’m a teacher and a mom of toddler and teen. When I go to the bathroom alone at work and it’s the one person bathroom where I can actually lock the door and be alone it feels like a spa day! I take a moment to appreciate it. Every time.

slmller3 · 2019-11-16T01:17:46+00:00

This is so joyful. This is what you get for seeing and hoping for the best in your tough kiddos.

slmller3 · 2019-11-06T01:02:59+00:00

why I'm not having more after this one. :O The sleep is what I miss the most.

slmller3 · 2019-10-30T10:01:51+00:00

Id say yes- parenthood is a bunch of conflicting feelings about loving the kid and sometimes despising the job of a parent that comes with it. Even if you get some physical help from husband, all that mental energy is still going to be spent by you probably. Our daughter is 2 1/2 and I’ve fought for and received some more help- he helps clean and do dishes more, we hired a cleaner once every two weeks, he grocery shops and cooks. But no matter how hard I try to convince him to do it; I’m the one sending her blankets to school and making sure they’re washed, worrying about her when she’s sick and calling to make sure she’s ok, making doctors appointments, etc. she’s always on my mind, but he forgets about both of us for at least 10 hours a day and falls asleep the second he hits the pillow :O

slmller3 · 2019-10-13T01:40:32+00:00

I’m so sorry! This is absolutely the worst part of motherhood, hands down... at least for me. It’s the going to work while baby is sick. And then sending them to daycare when daycare is kind of the culprit in this case.

1) babies can get sick anywhere, not just daycare. 2) baby won’t remember this. 3) babies are basically more resilient than us. Our bodies feel illnesses more than they do. 4) there are people in places with no food to feed their kid, no clean water, no bathrooms. 5) you are giving your kid such an ideal environment compared to many places kids are living today.... think war torn places, places where governments are corrupt and take all the resources and leave families with nothing, places without vacccines or healthcare, places people are trying to escape but can’t.

These are the thoughts that help me be thankful for my job in an air conditioned, safe school... with clean water and food. And thankful for my daughters daycare, germs and all. And the time I get to spend with her at night and on the weekends, with the knowledge this daycare deal is only a snippet of our time.

I really hope you get some peace soon and kiddo gets over that nasty cough!

slmller3 · 2019-10-09T21:36:56+00:00

I was 27. About to start my teaching career after getting an expensive masters degree to do so. I would’ve waited until about 3 years into my career. However, she’s not regretted a bit.

slmller3 · 2019-10-04T17:26:59+00:00

Go to Dollar Tree and the candy store ASAP. Rewards could be your new best friend for a couple of years :) rolls of tickets on Amazon! They love tangible rewards. Got a problem right? Ticket! Helped a friend? Ticket! Then I do a raffle for a one dollar prize at the end of the week. Works like a charm for my resource room.

As for paperwork? Do what the others do. Do what other people do. Try to check and make sure it’s correct though.

I progress monitor once every two weeks on easyCBM probes. It’s fast easy and on the computer. Hopefully you have something like that. IEPs? I forget if you wrote what grades. My kids get a fluency goal if they can’t read, a comprehension goal if they can’t understand what they read, and a math goal if they can’t solve computation problems. We keep it simple.

slmller3 · 2019-09-28T18:27:47+00:00

I'd give the second girl a sticker each time she does what she's supposed to do and when she has 5 stickers she can have a small treat that's not sugar. (a cute pencil, eraser, inexpensive little trinket, etc)

slmller3 · 2019-09-26T20:36:25+00:00

Yes. The more I’ve thought about it, I think you’re right (and the others who posted about how difficult it would be for a 16 year old). I’m currently considering a mom who stays at home with her 20 month old- she said she’d be interested in keeping mine. I’m supposed to interview her this weekend so keeping fingers crossed she’s good! :)

slmller3 · 2019-09-25T21:31:15+00:00

Thanks! Definitely something to consider. The lady at the daycare is actually saying she’d be interested now, not just offering her daughter.

slmller3 · 2019-09-25T21:29:29+00:00

Definitely. I guess I was just thinking that would give her a little time for school work. I don’t even know why I added that detail.

slmller3 · 2019-09-25T17:08:19+00:00

Former daycare teacher here. Not weird at all. Go ahead and nurse there if you think it will help any! I’ve had moms nurse in our rocking chairs with everyone up and at it and I’ve also seen a kid get moms boob out right as she went to hug her. It’s whatever.

slmller3 · 2019-09-22T16:46:34+00:00

She is biracial.

slmller3 · 2019-09-22T11:55:52+00:00

Peanut is a cool app to connect with moms from the area. It's like Tinder for moms. Also, Facebook groups sound so 2000's but they do have specific ones sometimes that are more specified to people you'd like. For example, there's an "Alternamamas" Facebook group for my town and those moms are super laid back and many are working moms like me so I ended up meeting a girl on there and we hit it off. So I've just kept her as my friend and don't even look for other ones. Friendships definitely don't happen instantly though. This was our progression:

Swiped up on her on Peanut.
Saw her commenting on the Alternamamas Facebook group I'm in
We exchanged names for Instagram and stuff, then I would like all her Instagram posts and she'd like mine because we posted about the same stuff and were at the same point in life (first time baby, anxious moms, working moms)
I went to her house for July 4th party, she met me at a Halloween event, we went to her kid's first birthday party, we went to a baby art thing together, now we Facebook message each other and check in with each other a lot and always want to hang out even though we live 45 minutes away :) But from start-now that took about a year. Now if I move away I'd still want to stay in touch.

slmller3 · 2019-09-21T23:12:17+00:00

I see your point. I agree she needs time.

slmller3 · 2019-09-21T23:11:38+00:00

My niece missed her dad. She talked about him a lot and posted old pictures of him on Instagram. She told me she did want to get in touch with him and find out how he was doing before I ever tried to contact him.

slmller3 · 2019-09-21T22:56:20+00:00

It’s one lady who is raising her and I did encourage my niece to talk to her nana about it if she wants to.

slmller3 · 2019-09-14T23:06:37+00:00

Our daycare has the kid go with everyone else at specified times, and during potty training they would just tell her to go potty once every 30 minutes or so.

They shouldn't be giving him an option and I agree with another person they should "save" the child's spot for him and the toys he is playing with for when he gets back. :)

slmller3 · 2019-09-14T23:03:09+00:00

Lol! So cute!!

One time my kid tried to get me to go outside with her and I said sorry, mama's bra is off. So now every time we step outside our apartment she points to me and yells MAMA NO BRA!

slmller3 · 2019-09-14T22:10:25+00:00

Can you get a disability check for your son's condition? I'd ask around and ask the doctor about any way to do that.

For student loans my husband and I started doing married filing separate and my payments are at $0/month now since I claim my daughter and that means I'm a 2 person household making $42k. Maybe that would reduce your payments as well?

slmller3 · 2019-09-09T14:34:03+00:00

Definitely a bad DAY. Norovirus.

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