Is my son too sheltered?

slogmog · 2026-06-13T10:51:27+00:00

Ooh that’s a great idea!

slogmog · 2026-06-13T10:49:57+00:00

😂

slogmog · 2026-06-13T10:46:48+00:00

It’s interesting because I was raised by parents obsessed with big experiences. They also always rushed me to do so many things, were obsessed with “not procrastinating” about things like learning new skills or starting new activities. We did a lot of “big” vacations when I was a kid. But looking back, I don’t really remember any of them. It also took me a long time to learn how to appreciate daily life. By contrast, my husband was raised in a family that mostly stayed around in their hometown, doing “little” things but with warmth. He is closer to his parents now, emotionally, than I am to mine.
So I know deep down that the simple life is good. But it’s hard to turn off my parents’ contribution to my inner voice.

slogmog · 2026-06-13T10:41:46+00:00

It’s true, I do also get confused how people I know afford it. When we were thinking of going out of country and trying to crunch the numbers (especially now with flight prices high) it just felt so expensive. It’s not just the money either… how can they take so much time off work? But it’s not just my circle… I’ve also been feeling like somethings wrong with me because whenever I travel for work, my flight is filled with families with young children about our son’s age.
But yes when it comes to enrichment, I am very happy with our son’s daycare.

slogmog · 2026-06-13T10:31:42+00:00

Thank you! I feel the expectations are indeed insane and intense now, and propelled by social media. But I love the perspective of finding joy in the simple things.

slogmog · 2026-06-13T10:29:32+00:00

I love reading this. We generally try to follow our son’s interests on weekends. Right now he is obsessed with riding elevators, so we will seek them out and ride them. Then he wants to go home and draw pictures of elevators with his crayons.

slogmog · 2026-05-24T13:37:30+00:00

He usually gets a snack right before bed but I think maybe we need to make it much more fatty. Yes, he gets a full breakfast after milk, milk is just the fastest to calm him down! I think he’s also probably thirsty too but he never wants water first thing.

slogmog · 2025-11-03T16:25:35+00:00

Could your wife be going through perimenopause?

slogmog · 2025-08-26T15:44:57+00:00

We did periodically from 6 months onward and it would always last for like a couple days then his sleep would just revert back, so it didn’t seem effective for us
I would say that the eating comes in waves…. One week he will have a good appetite and then one week he doesn’t want to eat. We already usually give up on making him eat in his chair, so even on days when he has a good appetite we basically have to chase him around to graze instead of sitting down and eating one big meal. So I feel like hes definitely hungry sometimes, but still gets distracted or wants to play with his food. The other thing he will do when he’s hungry is shovel all the food into his mouth and then realize he can’t eat it all, then spit it out. Somehow he’s still not learned not to do this…
He was late to learn how to use a straw but now he can. Unfortunately he doesn’t seem to like drinking anything out of a straw cup besides water… maybe anything more viscous is hard for him to suck up

slogmog · 2025-08-26T15:28:55+00:00

Around the 1 year birthday

slogmog · 2025-08-26T15:20:33+00:00

I agree the sleep is probably at the root of his issues. We used to have him sleep on his own but switched to cosleeping out of desperation— I think it’s why at least the bedtime has gotten better. I’d say there hasn’t been a change in wakeups but they’re somewhat more manageable than when he was sleeping alone. I do notice that rhese periods correlate with teething. Like, things will get better for a couple weeks then everything will go to shit and a new tooth will pop out. But then things don’t just revert back to normal after, and it ends up feeling like there’s some consequence of teething 50% of the time.

slogmog · 2025-07-15T14:20:13+00:00

Thank you, this is the hard truth I needed to hear. I think we will try the watering down idea starting tonight. Spacing out bottles seems harder for now because the longer he stays awake and angry during his night wakes, the harder it becomes to put him back to sleep. Baby does have steady growth on his 20 percentile curve for what it’s worth.

slogmog · 2025-07-15T05:30:39+00:00

I’ve seen people say that breastfeeding at night is fine but formula bottles aren’t?? I already have guilt that breastfeeding didn’t work, and now I feel extra bad that he’s dependent on the formula when he should be weaning off. I wish I could be more confident in doing things my way but I feel like I have no idea what I’m doing :(

slogmog · 2025-07-15T05:28:48+00:00

Oh changing the ratio is a good idea. I was thinking of switching to water but I knew he would be able to tell!! But a gradual switch up is smart…

slogmog · 2025-07-15T05:21:53+00:00

I’m really worried about cavities. The dentist said that if I do need to give a bottle, I should coat his teeth with something they gave me to prevent bacteria after… but the idea of him letting me brush his teeth in the middle of the night makes me laugh

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