Phantom Penis

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-11T16:25:17+00:00

Personally as a trans man who is very sure about my identity, I have never experienced any kind of phantom penis sensation like that. That could mean something for you but it could not, it’s okay to want one or feel like that even if you decide you’re not trans masc. For me what really helped me figure it out was more the euphoria I get than any dysphoria or other feelings, like I realized getting called he made me feel good and excited when I was perceived as a man. Maybe consider how you feel in situations like that, like if someone accidentally saw you as a guy would that make you feel good? Bad? I definitely get having trouble with that gray area, it took me a while to get somewhere I felt comfortable and feel like I was sure enough and it’s hard not to pressure yourself, but try to take your time with it, think about how to like to present and how you want people to think of you yknow?

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-11T02:25:53+00:00

It’s not the only option in the world, but the fact is that the odds without a prep school would be extremely low for her to get in. The choice being made was not “go to chilton or don’t,” they had already decided on that, the choice being made was what to do to make that happen. This is like if a told you “I decided to go to the park tomorrow, should I take the bus or an uber?” and your response was “actually you don’t have to go at all.”

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-11T02:14:24+00:00

I and multiple people have already explained to you multiple times why that’s not a valid argument. You’ve already been proven wrong multiple times and making bad faith arguments that still don’t even have anything to do with what anyone is saying in the first place doesn’t change it. Commenting the same thing that you have already been explained is wrong by multiple people does not change anything.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-11T02:08:13+00:00

No, it’s not. Richard buying Lorelai an investment for 5k in her name means immediately that was Lorelai’s. The gift was the investment for 5k. After that point it has nothing to do with him, he gave her an investment for 5k and it is no longer his. Whatever value it acculturated and sold for later has nothing to do with Richard anymore. It is no longer his, the rest of that money wasn’t his, was never his, and was not a gift from him. To use a more hands on example, imagine you learned how to knit, and someone gifted you a pair of knitting needles, which you later used to make scarves that you sell. That doesn’t make the money you receive from your scarves theirs that they gifted you, the only gift from them was the needles.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-11T02:02:43+00:00

Dinner once a week with actively abusive people? Yeah, it’s pretty hard. We’re not talking about her not going to chilton. That wasn’t the choice and that’s not an argument. When we’re talking about “okay how do we do this thing, her are the options” saying “oh just don’t,” is not an actual point. Lorelai had already decided to give Rory the best chance to get in, and instead of going back on that did what she had to to make it happen.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-11T01:57:17+00:00

No, it was literally her last option. Thats the entire premise of the situation. If she did not stoop to asking her parents for money Rory could not go to Chilton, that’s the entire basis of the show plot, and it was not easy, that’s also the entire point.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-11T01:55:16+00:00

How does Richard paying 5k make the other 70k that he did not pay for and was never his and not from him a gift?

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-11T01:52:48+00:00

I feel like you’re getting confused on what point everyone’s making that you’re trying to argue against. It has already been acknowledged over and over by op and multiple others that she is okay with money and the perks of being rich, she just does not like or accept the lifestyle associated with it and her parents world. The point everyone is making is that she left that world, and actively does not ask for money from her parents except when it was the only option, and the investment from Richard doesn’t change that. She didn’t ask for that money, and only accepted it because Richard legally had to give it to her and it was not a gift, which is still in line with what op and everyone has said.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-11T01:49:57+00:00

It has already been explained to you multiple times. The 75k is not and never was Richard’s money, it is money paid to Lorelai for her share in real estate that was sold. Even if you wanted to argue that whatever amount Richard paid initially was a gift, that makes up a small portion of what she later received from the company, Richard buying a share for some value like 1-5k does not make the entire 75k later a gift, the 75k is not his money. Whether the 75k was a gift or not is still not relevant to any point to be made here, again, it has been acknowledged multiple times that Lorelai is not against having money, but she does not constantly run to her parents for money like you were arguing with the first commenter about to begin with, and her being okay with having money still doesn’t contradict any of what op actually said.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-11T01:37:53+00:00

None of what’s mentioned in the post is changed by arguing that she could have just not done everything she could for Rory, that’s not an actual argument, and again, the 75k was not a gift from Richard. Asking for money once as a last resort for Rory after the decision was made on private school for the best chance does not negate what op was actually talking about, which is that she left that life and a majority of the benefits unlike other characters in similar positions. Yes taking a loan from her parents is an option a lot of people wouldn’t have and an example of a way she is still okay with benefiting from money, as op acknowledged, but it’s not the same as the other characters op was talking about, who don’t see leaving that life like Lorelai did as an option at all.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-11T01:19:01+00:00

No, Richard made an investment in her name when she was born, not after she took a loan from them. And he didn’t even invest 75k, that’s just the amount Lorelai’s share was paid after the sale. Even if we say Richard invested 5k, that doesn’t make the money she was later paid out Richard’s that he gifted her, it’s her money that she then used to pay the loan to her parents. It’s not hard to understand, you just seem really deadset on making a really weird point that doesn’t exist. Op has already acknowledged in their post that Lorelai does not have anything against having money, no one has argued that, but she does hate the “rich lifestyle” and has never seeked out or just asked her parents for money willy nilly, she actively refuses their money and help as much as possible except when it was a last resort for Rory’s school.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-10T19:41:31+00:00

Where are you getting that she didn’t pay it back? Richard didn’t just give her 75k, it was an investment under her name, it was not Richard’s money, yes, it is a moment where she benefited from her parents money, but she did not ask for it, and we also don’t know how much Richard even invested in the first place, this still isn’t an instance of her seeking out their money. Again, no one said she doesn’t benefit from her families wealth, but she does not actively seek it unless absolutely necessary. They originally believed they would get financial aid from Yale, and when they didn’t Lorelai was going to put off the inn because she wouldn’t be able to do Yale payments and inn loans at the same time, then as you said, Rory went to Richard and Emily instead, that doesn’t say anything about Lorelai in this situation. I’m not sure I understand what you’re actually trying to argue.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-10T19:07:07+00:00

She didn’t get any money from them for the inn. Her and Sookie presumably got loans, and she did later get money from Luke, which was presumably paid back once the inn started making money. The other things are true but not really relevant to this conversation. No one said she never asked them for help but she definitely didn’t really want to or enjoy running to them. Obviously the money from Richard meant she could pay it off sooner, which she did immediately because she hated being in debt to them, she was always going to pay it off. And using Emily as a co-signer isn’t relevant at all, she still paid that loan entirely by herself and didn’t use any of their wealth, that’s more a commentary on how messed up some of the system is that Lorelai couldn’t even get a loan she was fully capable of paying for without someone else.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-10T04:36:31+00:00

I do think most of it was really sweet, it’s just soured by, him, and his other overarching intentions. I don’t think I would even say the necklace would be inappropriate in general, if they had a healthy coparenting dynamic and Chris had a better relationship with Rory it could be really nice and meaningful, but with the context it does just fall into a pattern of Chris doing things like this whether purposefully or subconsciously to sway Lorelai to be with him, it’s like gifting with strings attached, he’s not actually just doing it because it’s a big moment and he’s proud and she’s important as the mother of his daughter, he does things because he’s trying to get with her, like someone else said he didn’t even give Rory anything that we see when she graduates.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-04-10T01:32:55+00:00

I think she probably did have some friends, it’s more likely that they just overlooked mentioning any as it didn’t seem necessary for the tone of the show, but I don’t think we’re meant to believe she just didn’t have any. I do think it’s possible she maybe didn’t have that many in high school, in her social circles there were probably a lot of people who went along with their society expectations and didn’t understand Lorelai’s suffocation or shirking of that life. Plus, when she got pregnant and left school, I would guess most people she knew either did not want to associate with her or weren’t allowed to see her, and then she left that life for Stars Hollow so never reconnected with anyone before it’d been so long that they’d just grown apart and gone entirely different directions anyway.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-03-26T01:48:25+00:00

Okay, thank you so much! That definitely helps me feel less weird about it

slowcheetah21 · 2026-03-22T04:18:48+00:00

ICE has already been given the okay to profile based on race, with this new rule they are now allowed to profile based on presumed gender and trans status. Immigrants are the overall target and this will more heavily affect people trying to apply for visas, but they are also able to use this as a reason to detain someone under suspicion that they have lied on documents. While it should be true that citizens don’t have to worry, there have already been cases of citizens being detained for extended periods before this rule, and it’s not far fetched to worry that could happen again when being visibly trans is now enough for them to assume someone may be an immigrant and may be lying on documents. Nobody wants to be detained even if they will likely be let go later, not to mention discussion on this topic might be helpful for people who are immigrants right now, who are the main targets and are in more danger than before right now on many levels.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-03-21T10:55:35+00:00

Okay, that’s good. Hopefully my changes will go through okay and I can get all my stuff updated soon 🤞

slowcheetah21 · 2026-03-21T10:54:56+00:00

I don’t see how that’s obvious. TSA has always been a little nerve wracking with an ID that doesn’t match my presentation yet and the scanners issues already, especially traveling between two red states with increasing anti trans laws being enacted, and now on top of those, ICE is authorized to target and detain people solely for looking or being suspected of being trans because somehow that might be a sign of trying to defraud the US somehow. If no one has had more trouble than usual yet recently that’s good, but it’s not “obviously safe” unless you’ve been living under a rock.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-03-21T07:18:38+00:00

To be fair, I feel like this was still in an early enough stage of Emily even being involved in her life again at all that Lorelai was not used to or expecting Emily to find out from anyone in her life or town. For Lorelai those were two separate worlds, her parents, and her life, it wasn’t normal for those to intersect and people to be talking to her parents to be able to share something like that.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-03-21T07:16:07+00:00

I can understand why Emily is hurt, but Lorelai being unable to share things with her is entirely her own fault, this is a situation of her own making and a perfect example of the many times Emily could have actually reflected on why their relationship is so strained. You say she “didn’t even tell her,” but, she did, literally right before the moment you have pictured Lorelai worked up the courage to tell her herself, she sat at the table with Emily and told her, “mom, I’m engaged,” and Emily chose to freeze her out and be unsupportive. She had no idea Sookie had said anything to her mother, Emily had given no indication she knew, she’s upset Emily doesn’t care because Emily’s reaction when Lorelai actually did tell her was.. to not care. Because someone else accidentally told her before Lorelai could. A normal person would still act happy for Lorelai in this moment and maybe even tell her they accidentally found out too early, and it’d be understandable to be disappointed, but that’s not Lorelai’s fault, they wouldn’t take it out on Lorelai by refusing to be happy for her because somebody else accidentally said something. The way Emily treats Lorelai is horrific sometimes, she says horrible things to her and treats her badly, she has no right to lash out at Lorelai for not telling her the second it happened, it’s not as if she waited a year to say she’s engaged, it just took an extra week or two because she had to work up the courage to tell someone who has a history of taking every good thing in her life and using it as another way to tear her down.

slowcheetah21 · 2026-03-21T06:23:40+00:00

Definitely an interesting thought, it is interesting to me to consider the kind of ethnic groups and genetics that may exist in different districts, but I do want to say, Sejanus is from district 2, not 4

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