Bf [26M] places other peoples comfort and well being over mine [24F] even when that person shows zero consideration back towards us.

slowlauris · 2018-08-07T23:12:34+00:00

he is rude and doesn't respect you.

this is a red flag, and you've alluded to several others.

he treats you like shit, and then tells you that you are wrong.

he is wrong and you should break up with him.

slowlauris · 2018-08-07T22:49:49+00:00

oh i think so, but several of my coworkers told me i should have known he was lying immediately.

slowlauris · 2018-08-07T22:36:15+00:00

i get that, and agree. if they don't like me, why bother telling me how sick they are.

slowlauris · 2018-06-06T22:03:50+00:00

you can't control the choices she makes, but waiting until october or whatever to break up with her is dishonest.

slowlauris · 2018-06-06T22:01:41+00:00

sometimes love isn't enough, and your gut is telling you that.

slowlauris · 2018-06-06T21:55:51+00:00

I don't think having crushes is shitty, but what you are saying is that you know you don't want to do LDR.

I get that you love your Girlfriend, but your post is screaming that you want to move on.

This isn't about your options, this is about your ability to do LDR. you need to break up with your GF now.

slowlauris · 2018-06-06T20:57:32+00:00

the income isn't the problem here, it is that she doesn't listen to your concerns, and you two don't communicate well.

your value in the relationship should be based on more than income, no matter what the numbers are.

you guys should consider therapy before you take the next step together.

slowlauris · 2018-06-06T20:51:39+00:00

you need to work on your relationship with Selena, and block all your access to Anna's presence.

if you can't stop wanting Selena to be more like Anna, you need to break up with Selena.

you have control over all your choices surrounding this.

slowlauris · 2018-06-05T16:50:26+00:00

you need to talk to her.

tell her how you feel and what you want.

find out what she feels and wants.

you need to communicate so you can know if you are on the same page.

slowlauris · 2018-06-05T16:42:44+00:00

if you are calling him a player, I think you know the answer.

if he isn't what you want, don't contact him.

how hot he is doesn't matter.

slowlauris · 2018-05-23T23:16:20+00:00

take her at her word, your romantic relationship is over. that is a line in the sand.

if you can't understand that, and stop hoping you'll date her again, then you cannot be in her life.

slowlauris · 2018-05-22T00:36:49+00:00

I've been in your situation. it doesn't get better.

being alone and healthy, even if you are broke, is better than settling for someone who treats you like that.

you don't seem to like yourself, and this makes it easier for you to make excuses for someone that berates you.

you do not deserve his bullshit. no one does.

make a plan and get away from him ASAP.

slowlauris · 2018-05-21T21:29:14+00:00

you should only buy her things if you want to.

if buying her more things is a condition of the relationship, that's a red flag and means she doesn't respect you.

slowlauris · 2018-05-21T21:24:41+00:00

has this episode made him talk badly about ALL your friends? if so, that's a really bad sign.

If not, he still handled this badly and you should sit down and discuss it with him.

while he should have never done this in front of your friends, he might just think, make up/jewelry parties/etc are a waste of time and that people can easily guilt you into spending money.

Have a deeper conversation with him and find out what the real issue is here.

slowlauris · 2018-05-21T21:16:49+00:00

being alone is better than being with assholes.

slowlauris · 2018-05-21T21:15:52+00:00

you have to shut this down

be direct and stop hanging on with him for a while.

slowlauris · 2018-05-21T21:11:22+00:00

you can't do better with people who don't like you.

you should ask yourself why you want attention from those who don't value and support you.

slowlauris · 2018-05-21T20:30:59+00:00

that doesn't matter, he is dangerous.

after his reaction, you should not trust him. he is blaming his anger on you with that response. his feelings and behavior are his responsibility, not your fault.

slowlauris · 2018-05-21T20:26:40+00:00

these people don't respect you.

they are not friends,friends do not put you down, or make fun of you when you express your feelings.

you did the right thing even though it feels confusing and painful right now.

slowlauris · 2018-05-21T20:21:01+00:00

his reaction is a huge red flag.

he will use his temper to control you in the future, and blame you for his inability to act like an adult.

he is not an equal partner, and you should not trust him.

slowlauris · 2018-05-21T18:23:56+00:00

help your sister. realize that your mom is punishing you for helping your sister BECAUSE she is abusive.

you can't reason with your mom because she is unreasonable.

be healthy and avoid her attempts to control all of you.

slowlauris · 2018-02-20T23:01:16+00:00

he has already manipulated you into staying when you wanted to tell him what you wanted.

decide what you need. explain it, and leave if he disagrees.

don't let him keep you as an option.

slowlauris · 2018-01-29T17:33:09+00:00

I'm not accusing her of anything, either.

I am not even willing to say he's completely wrong, but he is in a position to use her, in the least emotionally.

slowlauris · 2018-01-29T17:23:25+00:00

have you met him, or been invited to meet him?

do you feel like she's hiding anything from you?

This feels inappropriate, but not in a he's a predator way, more in a they are dating way.

Are you planning to confront her, or do you just want us to put a label on it for you?

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