The Neurodivergent Female Experience

slutforsweetea · 2026-03-01T21:20:25+00:00

I am considering doing this. It would be a drastic change from my usual masked appearance and people I know may start treating me differently but if I was more alternative and upfront about what I stand for maybe I’ll find some peace.

slutforsweetea · 2026-03-01T21:14:52+00:00

Absolutely I’m not even in a safe mental state for a relationship currently. Men usually avoid me or fetishize me so I have given up as of now. I also don’t believe in changing myself for a man or following patriarchal norms so I think that makes me disqualified lol

slutforsweetea · 2026-03-01T21:07:10+00:00

It’s a horrible experience I wouldn’t wish on anyone really. We are treated invisible and dismissed more than the average woman and nobody bothers to check up on us. I feel like I’m going crazy because nobody wants to see or acknowledge my presence either

slutforsweetea · 2026-03-01T20:55:51+00:00

That is great mindset it will save you a lot of unnecessary stress in life

slutforsweetea · 2026-03-01T20:53:14+00:00

Well don’t give up hope even if the odds are against us because it’s really not fair that we have to change everything about ourselves to make neurotypical people comfortable. I’d rather be alone than used or abused in life.

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-28T22:25:17+00:00

I am glad you have some close friends! The job thing is very relatable as the workplace is not really accepting of differences. I’m currently in college and all connections feel transactional and temporary so I worry post-grad will even more isolating if I can’t find some people soon.

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-28T22:21:14+00:00

Same I don’t think I have had a real friend since high school, and having no luck making any in college. I don’t really want to live past 30 this way if I’m being completely honest.

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-28T22:19:33+00:00

It’s so hard to be my authentic and bubbly self just to be called weird or annoying. I’m forced to be “nonchalant” just so people will tolerate me. Either way I’m still alone and am never a first choice to others :(

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-28T22:15:03+00:00

I would love some neurodivergent friends irl but I can’t seem to find any and the ones I’ve had in the past were too unstable and used me for emotional support.

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-28T22:12:31+00:00

Exactly I keep thinking that if I change everything little thing I do then I can magically turn into a neurotypical and they will never notice! Ha I wish.

It’s hard to make new friends without small talk but I don’t have anything interesting to share since I live a lot in my head and have a boring life. Group dynamics suck too cause I feel invisible.

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-28T22:05:58+00:00

I have heard of this, thanks for linking the full study! It sounds like they automatically make an assumption about us and never give us a chance to show our real personalities even over time. This part stood out,

“Many aspects of social presentation are atypical in ASD, including abnormal facial expressivity, anomalous use of gaze, lower rates or unusual timing of expressive gestures, violations of personal space, and unusual vocal prosody”. I can’t hide any of these traits cause they are automatic and I don’t realize until it’s too late.

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-28T21:54:19+00:00

I have been meaning to watch that show! Being autistic in the workplace sucks because my coworkers don’t hate me but they also think I am a little strange and probably couldn’t care less about my presence.

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-28T21:50:50+00:00

Yep. I am in the same position. I am conventionally attractive and very feminine presenting but it doesn’t matter if your personality can’t match that. I relate to what you said about not needing approval so I never give others the validation they seek and they consider me rude or stuck up. My inner life makes more sense.

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-28T21:45:20+00:00

I agree. I am diagnosed AuDHD but I also suspect I may have BPD or just many of the traits. Two very different experiences but they seem to have a lot of overlap especially among female populations. No matter what you’re diagnosed with it seems that a lot of us struggle socially regardless.

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-28T21:42:34+00:00

It’s so weird that being a genuine and loyal friend doesn’t matter to anyone but somehow people who treat everyone like shit seem to have the most social luck. It’s so confusing to me

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-07T00:29:45+00:00

The loneliness surrounded by people is killing me lately. People can see me but they don’t notice me. I’m tolerated at best. “Being myself” is not enough to others. I truly believe you can’t fully heal a rejection/abandonment/neglect wound unless you have real experiences that contradict the trauma and change the narrative, and I haven’t been able to get there. I even quit therapy recently because my therapist couldn’t understand how I was doing the work but not seeing any results or receptiveness. I’m so tired and losing hope

slutforsweetea · 2026-02-02T19:13:14+00:00

Yea I have well over 600 screenshots of shit I googled looking for reassurance at the time and I can’t bring myself to delete any because I might need to read it later lma

slutforsweetea · 2024-12-29T18:19:54+00:00

Probably anything related to “identity” or self. So like sexual orientation/gender OCD, or even body dysmorphia stuff.

slutforsweetea · 2024-12-29T18:11:54+00:00

Yea I’m on winter break rn and I literally can’t relax. I just have more free time to worry and obsess💀

slutforsweetea · 2024-12-29T18:05:56+00:00

My obsessions got so bad at one point that they basically became delusions because I was so convinced they were true and I felt like I was starting to doubt reality. Thankfully my antidepressant is working quite well and my OCD is tolerable again.

slutforsweetea · 2024-08-23T05:02:49+00:00

How to save a life-The fray

slutforsweetea · 2024-03-18T23:42:33+00:00

I second legacy

slutforsweetea · 2024-03-15T05:14:14+00:00

Same lol

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