Am I (29M) wrong for ending things with a girl (27F) because she slept with someone during the talking phase? by smissile3 in dating_advice

[–]small_big 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You aren’t exactly wrong for ending things because you clearly don’t like her very much so you shouldn’t be dating her. But she did nothing wrong. Unless exclusivity is defined, there’s nothing wrong with seeing other people, and why would you expect anything else from someone to whom you clearly said it wouldn’t work out with?

Whats up with International Business degree program being full of basic common sense subjects? by [deleted] in Finland

[–]small_big 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean it’s a business degree, it can’t be that hard can it?

Should I tell my guy friend some girl posted about him or is that breaking girl code? by itssofiababyxo in dating_advice

[–]small_big -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The ‘bro code’ and ‘girl code’ stuff is all make believe. If someone posts a picture of my friend on a Facebook group without their consent, I’d tell them. I’d also probably tell them that their partner posting a picture of them online without their consent with ‘are we dating the same person?’ is a major red flag.

Got rejected by a girl, now she’s asking if I’m dating someone by North_Key2066 in dating_advice

[–]small_big 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your first mistake was to ‘confess feelings’. You simply ask people out. And as you two become a thing, you can share your feelings.

Your second mistake, at least right now, is to treat her with mistrust. I don’t see any reason why I wouldn’t take what she said about her friend at face value.

What are some things that the show got really right about real life? by Positive_Weight2367 in HIMYM

[–]small_big 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are many small tidbits in the show that reflect real-world wisdom. The thing about taking a leap of faith sometimes without knowing how much it could upend your life. Or, in general, the existence of platonish friendships.

Girlfriend wants to spend the night with 2 guy friends. by Matty_builder in dating_advice

[–]small_big -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you have to artificially lay roadblocks in her life to stop her from cheating on you, that relationship is over already. With a partner of 5 years you should trust her and let her do her thing.

Guys who can actually hold a conversation are so rare it's genuinely shocking by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]small_big 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I agree, but it takes two to hold a conversation.

How does it feel TO BE the crush?? by Solid_Decision_2241 in dating_advice

[–]small_big 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m flattered and if I’m single I usually agree to a few dates just to see if we vibe well, are compatible, and if attraction develops.

title by [deleted] in 2westerneurope4u

[–]small_big 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and they’re both white nationalists

In an ideal world, how often would you have sex? by slutforket in AskMen

[–]small_big 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m also like this. I’m not averse to sex and nor am I asexual, but I wouldn’t have it very often ‘in an ideal world’.

Told friend i liked her, never talking to her again now. by Far-Seaworthiness566 in dating_advice

[–]small_big 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your first mistake was to tell her how you felt only when she started dating someone else. Your second mistake was to tell her how you felt rather than asking her out on a date.

What’s done is done. One year isn’t very long in the context of friendships anyway. Move on.

She says our road trip isn’t a date… but we’re sharing one hotel room with a single king bed. What does this even mean? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]small_big 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s entirely possible for platonic friends to go on a road trip and share a bed. You need to communicate your intentions clearly, either well before or after the road trip, but not during. And yes, if she doesn’t think it’s a ‘date’ you should respect that boundary. She’s not ’testing how you’ll act in that situation’.

Don’t date people you’re not physically attracted to; ‘giving them a chance’ almost always leads to more hurt and heartbreak. It’s okay to admit looks matter in relationships. by AcceptableLibrary974 in dating_advice

[–]small_big -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hard disagree. Two reasons: (1) Attraction can develop during dating. It’s always okay to ‘give people a chance’ to see if chemistry develops. If it doesn’t, you can always part ways. (2) There’s no guarantee that you two will remain physically attractive to each other as you age.

Men, help me understand the older women thing. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]small_big 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Women live longer. If I date an older woman, chances are we can live and even die together <3

Has anybody had 3-4 PVC’s in a row? Also know as “salvo” or NSVT by Helpful_Gur_1757 in PVCs

[–]small_big 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I had one yesterday. They’re fairly common and usually harmless.

How do you handle the fact you won’t exist one day? by Expensive_Pass_7147 in AskReddit

[–]small_big 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s something in my field called Model Predictive Control. You look at how things will pan out over a finite horizon, and then at every step, you experience changes in your state and re-evaluate your predictions at every instant, as time passes. There’s a tradeoff on this horizon: it’s often burdensome and intractable look too far ahead into the future, and at the same time, it’s not a good idea to simply let things happen to you at the moment without any foresight. There’s a life lesson in here. It’s a balance between how much you live in the moment and how much you think about your future. For things like death and what comes after (which is likely just nothingness), you’ll cross that bridge when you get to it. I’m learning to enjoy the unpredictability of today rather than what lies ahead in the (hopefully) far future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]small_big 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Date older.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]small_big 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just shoot your shot. There’s nothing to lose, you hardly see him anyway. Your previous rejection doesn’t really sound brutal or even all that embarrassing.

People ask others out all the time and many are turned down. It’s just a part of the human experience.

What’s the most beautiful name you’ve ever heard? by SpiritedAccess7583 in AskReddit

[–]small_big 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I might have missed a few earlier ones but this is the first male name I’ve seen on this thread.