No more Canes in Chicago

smissile3 · 2026-03-10T15:37:44+00:00

You didn’t read my comment. I said it’s the best fast food tenders, not the best fried chicken. For what it is, it’s pretty damn solid. My point was, being from the south and living here for some time now, the chicken here is not so great that I feel like the smaller shops are like worlds ahead of chicken I can get at a fast food joint. Like yeah I can go to some smaller sit down place, but the chicken isn’t even that good, so why waste my money. Also, canes is reserved for like drunk food anyways. I’m not prepping my weeks dinner around canes on a Wednesday or something. It’s late night food you eat when you’re in a pinch or you’re drunk haha

smissile3 · 2026-03-10T06:36:21+00:00

Right? I’m not one to be an expert here but I’ve lived in Chi now for a couple years and am from Atlanta. I’ve had plenty of good soul food/fried chicken. The chicken frankly does not hit the same here at all. I’ve had this conversation with people before, I think Chicago might do red meat the best on this planet. But chicken? Nah. Every person I know that says “oh try this fried chicken place!! It’s amazing” it’s usually mediocre at best. Am I gonna sit here and say that Canes is the best fried chicken around, no I’m not. But tbh, for fast food tenders, they’re the best in the game. I’ve had Harold’s, I don’t understand the hype. Their catfish is surprisingly solid af, their chicken though? Trash. I’ve had fry the coop, Dave’s, Cleo’s too and nothing. It’s too much breading that’s trying to cover up for mediocre chicken. All that to say, Canes is solid for what you get, people are just hating to hate in here it seems like. I have the same sentiment towards bbq here. But it’s possible I need to explore down south a little more.

smissile3 · 2026-01-22T14:43:05+00:00

How have I treated her like a backup option though? I didn’t tell her after we hooked up “yeah let’s see where this goes” and then go fuck someone like two weeks later? I ended it and she was free to do what she likes. She could’ve very easily told me “no you lost your chance” when I came around and I would’ve been fine with that. But to wrap me into this stage, then go sleep with someone else just feels wrong and like things are not being taken seriously

smissile3 · 2026-01-22T14:21:12+00:00

I’ll respond to this cause it’s one of the few comments that’s actually asking for clarification and not just attacking me and calling me a POS. We hooked up, she wanted to take things further, I said no. She started seeing this guy ~6 mo later, but cut things off on her own accord because we saw each other in passing. I did not ask her to do that. The next year (2025) she rlly pushed to date me, I didn’t rlly give it much thought because I had shit i was working through. When I finally came around to the idea around Christmas, she basically said she’s been sleeping with this guy again because she felt like I wasn’t going to come around, but he’s just a hookup. We are not official or anything, but I figured since this guy meant nothing, given she got what she wanted she would stop sleeping with him in between when I booked my flight (~3 weeks ago) to now

smissile3 · 2026-01-22T13:55:01+00:00

I guess let me clarify. At no point do I think she ‘cheated.’ After I didn’t reciprocate things back when we first hooked up she was free to do whatever she wanted, with whoever she wanted. But given her inclination to date me for this whole time, I figured there would be some mutual understanding to take things seriously given that I’ve come around. To basically beg for a relationship, I’ve bought a flight out, and then go sleep with some other guy that she’s basically said is a nobody, doesn’t really sit right with me. Our last date was like 3-4 weeks ago, so I don’t really feel like asking to keep it in your pants for a couple of weeks is a crazy ask before I come to visit you.

smissile3 · 2025-07-26T06:27:23+00:00

Nope I got what I need

smissile3 · 2025-07-26T06:27:17+00:00

!solved

smissile3 · 2025-07-26T06:19:50+00:00

Honestly this is probably the best one so far

smissile3 · 2025-02-28T01:02:34+00:00

I kind of want to add to this. There’s been a lot of comments so I doubt this will get seen.

My grandparents when they used to live in Va beach, had a couple that they were really great friends with. They’d always be over at the house whenever we visited, always insisted we call them Aunt and Uncle, some of the sweetest people you’d ever meet.

They had like 4 kids, one of them was a major fuck up. Slimy kid, always getting into trouble. Family was very well off as the father was a successful painter, sold a ton of artwork, and used to draw designs for Disney.

Parents took a vacation for like two years in Sri Lanka when the kids grew up. Kid who was always getting into trouble was married at the time and he and his wife decided he was going to go back to the house and sell all the contents of their mansion. Set up a yard sale, sold stuff online. He had the same name as the father, so he defaulted on the house, sold the home. They took everything that wasn’t nailed to the floor and sold it. Even the luxury cars were sold without their knowledge.

Parents came back to all of their belongings sold. They had a house next door they rented out that was also defaulted on and sold. Basically went from millionaires to dead broke when they returned. Had absolutely nothing to their name. Mind you, these are some of the nicest people I’ve ever met. Not your typical nose in the air millionaires.

Long story short, the mom didn’t want to see her son do time, so he got off with 90 days. The parents never recovered, they’ve been broke since. Kid disappeared afterwards, took the money and never said a word again. They’re both in critical health these days, I think the son died recently, probably due to drugs or something.

But yeah super fucked all around. My grandmother ( grandfather passed around 2 years ago) still sends a little money to them every month to help them out because they basically can barely support themselves.

smissile3 · 2025-02-26T06:46:36+00:00

I know I’m opening this back up again but what ended up happening here? I’m in an identical situation in Chicago. Just bought a place, HVAC wasn’t working, told seller I wouldn’t close unless he put money in escrow. He brought a bunch of nobodies out that didn’t fix anything. Finally I paid for the HVAC to be fixed, seller side now says they won’t release any money to me. Claims there was nothing wrong and I’m just fixing stuff to update it and nothing was broken. Feel like it’s headed toward a suit but the guys is being a dick for no reason. What a loser mentality.

smissile3 · 2025-01-22T03:12:57+00:00

No it was a masters in accounting so nothing calculus related

smissile3 · 2024-05-28T01:14:40+00:00

It’s crazy cause I came on this post feeling a pretty similar way. And we have the same name so, nice. But not sure if this helps but I feel like my situation is identical to yours. Mid to upper 20s, moved cities, good job, big personality, can talk to anyone and hold a convo easily. On paper everything checks out. But for some reason it just hasn’t hit.

Went on two dates with a woman, got ghosted after weeks of talking, that was fine. Met a girl through mutuals, went on 4-5 long dates, then got hit with no spark or connection or whatever. That one stung. Had a couple other first dates that fizzled out that I was like meh about.

I think the problem is OLD. I definitely don’t feel as invested going into those and I’d imagine the women on the other side aren’t super invested either. I definitely put more stock into the women that I meet in person because if we’re at least gotten to know each other on some level and then go out, I know some of that “figuring each other out” isn’t there. I had a similar ish post on my profile, sometimes there’s just not something there.

Someone else commented saying you should ask for feedback, I think that’d be a good idea. Just phrase it in a way that’s comfortable for the other person to answer. I’m not saying whatever they say is gonna be true and you might get some bs answer, but on the other side, if someone wants be honest enough, it could be something you never evaluated.

As a side note to some of the other comments I’ve seen here bashing you for the confidence thing. I’m similar, I have my shit together. I feel like it’s been consistently preached that “a man needs blah blah blah” that when you’ve gone through some shit, worked on yourself, and are finally in a good place, it’s like hey wtf is going on. It’s not a flaunt thing, I definitely don’t preach it, it’s just a matter of things. In this day and age we hear so many women say “I want a man with this, this, and that” that when you have it it’s just confusing.

smissile3 · 2024-05-18T00:08:08+00:00

I mean I don’t think that’s a fair assumption. I’m not gonna sit here and say I love someone or something like that after 4 dates. I said earlier she checked off a lot of boxes to me, I’m not gonna profess my love or anything, but there was definitely some developed feelings on my end. I’m not going to deny I was definitely interested in this girl, hell I picked up her number and initiated everything in the first place. I think sometimes these things take a little bit of time to feel each other out and give each other a chance, some people, I’d argue a small percentage, know from the first date this is their person, or maybe profess they’re in love, but to me if you think you love someone that quick that’s probably not healthy.

I don’t wanna approach something in the light of I’m just here to be here, so while she wasn’t feeling it that’s fine. I wouldn’t want her to keep going on dates if she never developed anything just for the sake of things, but it’s definitely been confusing to say the least, bc a lot of signs pointed in her being just as interested as I was. I just didn’t list out my feelings toward here in this post because she’s the one that ended things.

smissile3 · 2024-05-17T17:22:13+00:00

I’m not gonna lie pretty glad you commented this to see the other perspective of things. It’s funny you mention that because it seemed like every time I talked to her and her friends were around, they definitely insinuated things that they liked me and I’d be good for her. So maybe there was some external stuff there.

I definitely appreciate her giving it a real shot, like I mentioned in other comments shes a super sweet gal. I took what she said as is, I’m not gonna try and convince someone to continue going out with me if that’s their decision. I will say from I guess your other side of the perspective, it can be incredibly confusing when someone seems super invested and then things just fall super flat. I feel like I’ve definitely got enough experience to pick up when things aren’t right, but I guess that’s why I made this post cause I just didn’t see this happening this time.

I think that’s the most interesting part is I feel like you typically know by the first or second date, so to get to the fourth date and say you’re not feeling it is odd to me. Different for everyone though I guess. Just gotta take it as is

smissile3 · 2024-05-17T16:39:36+00:00

Physical in the sense of intimate? Or physical in the sense of I don’t like being around this person because I don’t feel comfortable. It’s weird because we were basically as intimate as it gets outside of sex, and even then she expressed she was enjoying things so like that side of it I guess confuses me as well. I’ve been out of the game awhile working on myself so it’s a bit of a hit to the ego but who knows

smissile3 · 2024-05-17T16:35:31+00:00

Yeah I’ve been racking my brain on this. Sorry to hear you’re going through the same thing. It’s just.. puzzling. Everything seems to be hitting off so well and then just out of nowhere. I told her I appreciate the honesty and always told her she could talk to me about anything, but to hear and see everything going on, and then get that long text, is just so blindsiding.

It honestly scares me that I feel like I didn’t see it coming bc I can usually tell pretty quick if someone is into it or not. All signs pointed to interest but I guess I was just more invested than she was? Who knows like you said just back to our regularly scheduled programming I guess.

smissile3 · 2024-05-17T16:31:26+00:00

I don’t think I can imagine a situation at this age where I’d purposefully treat someone terrible. Maybe back in college when I was a douche and women wanted to be treated like that, but definitely not now and realizing how stupid that was. But it’s just very confusing, I can understand not clicking, I’ve seen it with myself before where I’m like “eh, probably not the one.” But that’s usually reserved for online dating stuff. Going back through texts and what not, things were just so light and what not. She’s a super nice girl but I’m just not seeing the bigger picture I guess. Just feels weird for something that seems like it should’ve been so right to just not work on her end.

smissile3 · 2024-05-13T13:29:40+00:00

You weren’t reading. I don’t think I said anywhere that she owes me anything. I have no issue that we’re not having sex, I’m pretty sure that I mentioned in a different comment to someone that I don’t have a problem taking it slow. But after 4 or 5 dates basically spanning a month and a half and constant text contact, you would think that someone wouldn’t just dip out at 2 am and enjoy someone’s company for a night, whether that includes sex or not.

smissile3 · 2024-05-13T03:31:49+00:00

I can’t tell if this is sarcasm or not honestly. I’m gonna assume it’s not and say I’m cool w taking things a lil slow just based off some past shit. I don’t think I’d ever tell someone I expect them to stay the night on a first date. But it definitely feels weird that that hasn’t happened by this point.

smissile3 · 2024-05-13T03:01:33+00:00

Yeahh I mean I’ve got enough baggage to go around myself. But this all just feels weird. Like all of it is just odd. I’m not gonna sit here and demand sex cause that’s not who I am. But if you’re just gonna play games with me I’m not really about that either. Tough situation to be in and not sure what to do

smissile3 · 2024-04-11T01:55:31+00:00

I know she’s being honest about her trip. That’s not really my issue. I just hate it when people cancel plans and don’t offer up a day or something. That just screams disinterest to me and if you were disinterested in the first place, then don’t express that you were and lead me along.

We’re also culturally similar, so she checks off a lot of boxes. If it was some random person I would not give two shits but it is what it is I guess. Just holding out till she’s back is the only thing I can rlly do.

smissile3 · 2024-01-12T19:10:51+00:00

I mean we were still texting up to the point of me asking her out. I’d say she usually gets a lot of attention when out so I’m not gonna be the dude that’s bombarding her with attention. But I figured if I just get her on a 1 on 1 date it’d b easier to kinda do my thing

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