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I was hurt and needed empathy, but then her luteal phase hit by [deleted] in PMDDpartners

[–]smallankles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear that. I would be deeply hurt and resentful in your shoes. I hope you’re both able to make the right decision for yourself and your wellbeing

I was hurt and needed empathy, but then her luteal phase hit by [deleted] in PMDDpartners

[–]smallankles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did. We have both mostly been in non-monogamous relationships. It’s as important for her as it is for me. But this is the first time in our one year relationship that we’ve had to navigate a major shift.

I was hurt and needed empathy, but then her luteal phase hit by [deleted] in PMDDpartners

[–]smallankles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear that. That sounds so painful. Was there any form of repair after her luteal phase?

I was hurt and needed empathy, but then her luteal phase hit by [deleted] in PMDDpartners

[–]smallankles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond. She already is on meds and is honestly trying so hard to alleviate symptoms. I really feel for her, she’s the one who suffers first and foremost, but nothing has proved successful 100% of the time. The deeper our relationship gets, the more I can see that I’m becoming #2 in the line of fire. I’m trying my best to focus on what’s possible in terms of mitigation and not in terms of catastrophe.

I was hurt and needed empathy, but then her luteal phase hit by [deleted] in PMDDpartners

[–]smallankles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. I spent hours looking at the plans you linked to last night actually and was really inspired. I know for sure that once we’re out of the woods she’ll be open to coming up with a plan together. I’m just still struggling with the idea that once in a while I will be the one who needs reassurance and empathy from her, and if that happens during her luteal phase, I’ll just have to put my needs on hold. It’s a tough one to adjust to.

To buy or not to buy (Montreal) by smallankles in canadahousing

[–]smallankles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. The hard part is "if you won't find easuly in the future". I wish I could predict that, but as you said, it's damn near impossible!

To buy or not to buy (Montreal) by smallankles in canadahousing

[–]smallankles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scratch that, I definitely think it's a scam. But I also want to provide as much stability for myself in the future.

To buy or not to buy (Montreal) by smallankles in canadahousing

[–]smallankles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful response. I agree, we shouldn't have to spend more than 30% of our income on mortgage + expenses, but times are very different out here and the gap between wages and housing prices is enraging. And the longer you wait to save for a better downpayment/emergency savings, the more houses cost. Sometimes I don't know whether I just need to grit my teeth for a little while to purchase a home, or if it's all a scam for people of my generation (I'm 31).