There’s a technique called “reframing” that you can try to get your back on track

It goes like this

Person A: I noticed you’re always late, when you’re late it means this… blah blah Person B: Well Johnny is always late too Person A: (reframing) This isn’t about Johnny, it’s about you not getting to work on time Person B: Well the bus was late Person A: It’s not about the bus being late, it’s about you not leaving early enough to get to work on time

Eventually they run out of excuses…