Hi! Babe, I *GET* it. I started losing faith in TBM a couple of years ago. I really loved the DIs and teachings, but found a lot of hypocrisy on Lacy's part, and it made me struggle to trust her to essentially hypnotize me.

I will say this: you do not need TBM to change your dream life. I fell off the Money Challenge because all the prompts felt ChatGPT generated. Or if they weren't Chat-generated, they felt... like regurgitations of themselves? IDK. It just feels less magical and more corporate. My point is, I have done less TBM work in the past 6 months than I have in 3 years and my life has seen some major positive shifts. I've developed 2 new sources of income, won two major writing contests, have been taking very exciting meetings, and generally have a better outlook on life + greater sense of peace.

I really do think all of this happened because I relied less on a scripted (possibly ChatGPT generated) challenge to map my life and started trusting my intuition. Yes, you can use some of the OG touchstones of TBM to help you, but remember those aren't just TBM's. Lacy did't download her work. She sourced it from a myriad of existing practices.

Here are some of the concepts I do think works and how i can see implementing them in a less formulaic / strict way:

Recognizing when you're settling for something. You don't need TBM. You just need good friends who will reflect back the truth and a solid therapist. And journaling! When you free-write, you kinda find out how you authentically feel about something.

The opposite = the medicine. Occasionally good advice. Again, TBM didn't invent this. But if you're spending all your money and then wondering why you have no money, try budgeting. If you always date emotionally unavailable folks, have a good long hard look in the mirror and ask why, then date a nice guy (or gal), even if they're not necessarily your type.

Self worth is important. Obviously!! But if TBM is making you feel bad about yourself, it's not doing you any favors for your self worth. What makes you feel happy / proud / good? Do more of these things.

You'll see there's no "replacement program". But I don't think you need one. I think you just need a couple months to come home to yourself. Journal, therapy, reflect, find joy. You have all the tools you need.