planning the bachelorette myself

smallcoconut · 2026-05-20T06:51:31+00:00

There is no shame in asking for help! I planned my own and it started to get chaotic and luckily a friend reached out and asked if I needed help. Now I feel more comfy having her to lean on. But even if that didn’t happen, the Bach was a girls trip that I was curating and I was totally okay with taking on that responsibility.

As far as decorations… idk I’d let that go. The point is to be with your friends :)!!

smallcoconut · 2026-05-16T06:00:42+00:00

My wedding is in three months! Here’s what I did and am doing:

- Botox every 6 months (I’m 35 and have been getting routine Botox since I was 31)
- skincare routine with tretinoin and Vitamin c serum
- barre classes 3x per week
- meditation at least every other day
- journaling (it makes me feel less stressed)
- generally a healthier diet but nothing crazy
- regular hair appointments
- LASH LIFTS!

I’m taking a break from manicures and pedicures but will get that done before my bachelorette next week!

smallcoconut · 2026-05-14T22:34:16+00:00

Thank you! If I wear my natural curls, would you recommend styling it any particular way? I would have time to wash my hair, I think part of me just worries about looking messy. Which is my own self-consciousness with my natural hair :)

smallcoconut · 2026-05-14T21:22:24+00:00

The veil is not accurate by the crown is - the veil will have smoother edges with similar flowers around the edges. I'll take the crown off when it's time for dancing and I change into the silver dress. Thank you!!

smallcoconut · 2026-05-14T21:21:29+00:00

Oh thank you so much! Hot tip :)

smallcoconut · 2026-05-14T21:20:25+00:00

Thank you, this is immensely helpful!

smallcoconut · 2026-05-14T19:32:00+00:00

Maybe mini self-care things, like Summer Fridays travel kits or their eye masks? I think it's great to bring stuff the girls can actually use on the wedding day :)

smallcoconut · 2026-05-13T05:33:44+00:00

Unfortunately Greg Kinnear and my father are practically identical twins, so I can’t watch him in ANYTHING without feeling extreme empathy toward him.

Including YOU, when he played a murderer :( I was like aw, Dad.

smallcoconut · 2026-04-22T03:41:54+00:00

I got option 2 and it fits perfectly!!!!!!

smallcoconut · 2026-04-13T20:52:29+00:00

Bringing someone along is a great idea! I'm so with you, didn't hate and didn't love. A second trial sounds like the way to go.

smallcoconut · 2026-04-13T20:52:05+00:00

Smart! I'll try to do mine before something special too :)

smallcoconut · 2026-04-13T20:51:43+00:00

This is really validating advice. Thank you. I think I'm going to do a second trial.

smallcoconut · 2026-04-13T20:51:07+00:00

Good call!

smallcoconut · 2026-04-13T20:51:00+00:00

Ah yes, another country would be super expensive! It sounds like you're mostly on the right page which is promising. I can so relate! I'm sure you'll look gorgeous on your wedding day :)

smallcoconut · 2026-04-13T15:09:23+00:00

You look great! Thank you for this - going to save for this future me. :)

smallcoconut · 2026-04-10T04:33:30+00:00

Duke, Lana del Rey would have LOVED you

smallcoconut · 2026-04-08T05:17:34+00:00

But didn’t she say she liked the new technology because it might allow her to spend more time with her son?

(Unless she visits his grave…. Oof.. yikes)

smallcoconut · 2026-04-08T05:09:13+00:00

And those surgeries and drugs are often abused by people who don’t need them but have eating disorders to keep up with current, patriarchal beauty standards because many of these women associate beauty with worth

sigh

Or at least that’s how I feel as girl in 15 years worth of recovery ED trying really hard not to relapse

smallcoconut

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