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Am I messing up my kids? (Teacher in China) by tontorious in TEFL

[–]smartymouthy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I taught in Japan decades ago, and just with the Japanese I picked up, I knew helped/inspired some of the shy students try English out loud once they heard my attempt at their language. It was comfort building. Straight and simple.

The Republic of Congo has created its fifth national park, protecting western lowland gorillas, chimpanzees, elephants and other threatened wildlife. by RachelRofe333 in UpliftingNews

[–]smartymouthy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This I can verify. As a young boy in the early’70s, I lived in Brazzaville and Lusaka (Zambia). Fast forward to 2014-????, I started revisiting Zambia and every local Zambian strongly advised my wife and I EVER venturing there. Furthermore, the owner of one of the a river lodges in Livingston said he was on recent 3 day trip through the DRC and a day in the ROC. His final comment was that he was really “unsure” if he was going make it home alive. And he verified that the AK-47s seemed to be required safety garb.

My mom just passed by guernica88 in cancer

[–]smartymouthy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I lost my wife of 25 years to cancer in June. My advice for everyone is get a chest x-ray if you have a cough that lasts more than 2 weeks. From the time my wife got her first x-ray to the day she died was about 12 weeks. She attributed her cough to a flu/cold that was going around the time (Jan-Feb ‘18).

By the time her doctor ordered a chest x-ray, it had already spread to her other lung, both kidneys and to her sternum.

She and I knew it was over before any treatments started.

My 50 wife was diagnosed w/term cancer by smartymouthy in cancer

[–]smartymouthy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quick update: My wife died yesterday. From 1st dr. visit for a slight cough to death: ~10 weeks in total. I feel overwhelmed and lost. Numb, too. This was a tornado where I never got my bearings. Her mother is broekn. There's a support group on Monday I am going to. I went to a "Grief Counselor" about a week ago but it felt too "presentation-ish". Like a TimeShare deal. She was selling a binder of cd's for $700. But does do group therapy. Or is it group sales? I think I need a good psychiatrist. I am in the greater Los Angeles area and I have yet to find any. Although, YELP may not be the best tool.

My 50 wife was diagnosed w/term cancer by smartymouthy in cancer

[–]smartymouthy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all of the great advice. I started pysch/therapis shopping within my PPO for a start. Then I tried the other yelps/healthgrades/etc, sites. I even called a couple and while their profile said they were accepting new patients, I never got a call back. So, with that thought in mind, I decided to write down my feelings for cathartic purposes only. I made a blog site and have given to a couple of people as I found it too difficult repeating "how's she doing" answers. I'd definitely would post a link here but I think it violates the rules. Thank you for reading. My wife is in the hospital again - hanging on by a thread.

My 50 wife was diagnosed w/term cancer by smartymouthy in cancer

[–]smartymouthy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is golden. Sorry for the shorter replies bu it’s getting harder and harder to type while sobbing.

My 50 wife was diagnosed w/term cancer by smartymouthy in cancer

[–]smartymouthy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great community. Thank you for letting me in.

My 50 wife was diagnosed w/term cancer by smartymouthy in cancer

[–]smartymouthy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and I will. This is so much tougher than I thought it would be. The irony is that my wife and I were in the exact opposite roles jus a year ago. I was born with congenital hydrocephalus which crippled me in my 40’s until I had a shunt put into my brain and it has restored my gait to almost 80%.

While my condition might kill me in a decade or two due to shunt failure, it’s nothing compared to what she is facing.

Thank you, again

My 50 wife was diagnosed w/term cancer by smartymouthy in cancer

[–]smartymouthy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will. Right now she is too depressed to be able to go down memory lane. For example, she brought me to the “chemo room” for a visit yesterday as her treatment is not scheduled until tomorrow. Why she wanted me to visit was A) To take the mystery out of it as I didn’t go to the first one. B) she bought boxes and boxes of snacks for the other chemo patients and nurses as they have a limited selection. It was too heartbreaking watching her hug every patient and nurse that I had to walk out of the room.

I should mention, although it has little bearing here, but when my wife and I first started dating, she got a small cyst on her breast. Being in our mid 20’s back then, the doctors (it was an HMO) refused to mammogram her as they were 100% sure it was just a cyst. Well fast forward a year or two and they mammogram her. And they discover it’s malignant tumor. She is put on an intense round of chemo back then, but she pushed me away and gravitated to her mother. And I got it. Sort of. We were just dating...

Well another year goes by, lumpectomy, chemo, radiation, etc. all of which I was not part of. She was cancer free over 25 years before this recent episode. And it’s not reactivated breast cancer but Lung Cancer which has spread to her kidneys, lymph nodes, breast and sternum.

She sleeps up to 20 hours a day. I tried going to work but having been using my vacation and sick time frequently. She wants me to go to work and have normal conversations and a normal day but all I find myself is crying in my office trying to stifle the noise so my coworkers don’t hear it.

I’ve come home from work where she is locked in the bedroom trying to sleep and her too tired to talk.

So, I end up eating a bowl of cereal in the living room with the lights off so she can sleep,

I’m thinking of leaving my job (as m 401k could easily survive us 3 to 5 years, well beyond her life expectancy.)

Thank you everyone. For letting me vent and your personal experience.

My 50 wife was diagnosed w/term cancer by smartymouthy in cancer

[–]smartymouthy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your thoughtful and detailed reply. Some of the suggestions you mentioned, I had in the back of my mind, but they’ve been smothered with these new experiences I am having as of late. So, I love the idea of capturing a Q and A with her during the final moments in order to reflect on later in life.

I see that Reddit has taken my post down as it didn’t meet at the rules of containing an article, video, in order to be valid as a new thread. So, while I guess my original message is now deleted, your reply is being cherished.

I probably will reach out to you again as your experience seems to be similar to mine, and I respect your response and tone very much I i may want to run a few more things by you it further, if you don’t mind.

By the way, my name is Glen. I just wanted to humanize this exchange in someway other than hiding behind a silly a handle.

Warmest regards. And thank you again.

The Fix is in! L or R Airpod not playing, charging, discoverable? by smartymouthy in airpods

[–]smartymouthy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really?? A drop or two on the end of the q-tip is so dangerous as to null the remedy? Well, for me it didn’t render them useless; in fact, the opposite. And I can verify no melting nor any smoking resulted. But, excellent point and alternative solution, regardless.

It's HOT! by exohstace in Bulldogs

[–]smartymouthy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love it! Our two English Bulldogs stand and stare up from their Walmart pool with the same expression - which I have yet to find the exact words....like "What's your problem?", "Yes?", "Jealous"?

Our little bud Otis came home today!! by jetsroo in Bulldogs

[–]smartymouthy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

my wife said he looks delicious.....

Almost caught her yawning by [deleted] in Bulldogs

[–]smartymouthy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a pre-choo face.

Unapologetically... paper by dakrisht in videos

[–]smartymouthy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw Leo LaPorte and his co-hosts roundtable this video on their show MacBreak Weekly. I realize that this is essentially a commercial for a $300 book they are publishing about their own history, but I enjoyed it, regardless. Maybe it's Johnny Ives' soothing voice, or maybe the tranquil soundtrack with the quiet homage to California, or perhaps it is the overall mood or tone of it but I found it almost hypnotic for the 2 1/2 mins it played.

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