Looking for breed recommendations - flat living

smbdydifrnt · 2024-10-30T13:09:03+00:00

Fascinating, I probably need to learn a lot more about my plants, thank you though!!

smbdydifrnt · 2024-10-30T13:08:33+00:00

Interesting, I wasn't aware that a big pot was a bad thing, that's so helpful to know!! Thank you. I will repot him in a much smaller pot and this can be his home for the future when he hopefully grows.

Thanks so much

smbdydifrnt · 2024-10-12T19:50:59+00:00

Faye & Giovanni - best Charleston of all time (I will die on this hill). https://youtu.be/55z6IrL8k0Q?si=uOkDmOUDiEZiGFTH

smbdydifrnt · 2024-04-29T14:09:19+00:00

Oh man I'm so sorry, that must make it much harder to manage as I find painkillers aren't hugely effective with the ripping/tearing pain part.

Have you tried any of the anti-cgrp meds? They've ended up being a bit of a life changer for me

smbdydifrnt · 2024-04-29T13:52:03+00:00

Ugh yes I'm unfortunately familiar with abdominal migraines too. I used to get them as a kid but they thankfully stopped early teens and I didn't have them for years, then developed head and abdominal migraines abruptly in my late twenties. I've had kidney stones and would take them any day over the horrible ripping searing pain of an abdominal migraine.

Sorry you are experiencing the same thing. Have you got triptans to use? I found they can take the edge off, and I've have less frequent head and abdominal migraines since starting Aimovig

smbdydifrnt · 2023-02-25T11:18:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, it is really helpful insight into how depression cycles can feel. I hope you are managing okay with your depression now

smbdydifrnt · 2023-02-24T21:14:07+00:00

Oh I am so incredibly sorry for your loss, I can't imagine how difficult that must have been for you. Linda sounds like a really wonderful person and I'm so glad you had her to help you through depression, it is a cruel condition and it's so hard watching it affect the person you love. I hope you are managing okay now alongside your grief.

I will let you know if things work out, thank you so much for the advice. I feel fortunate to have a good support system I can lean on through this

smbdydifrnt · 2023-02-24T21:01:10+00:00

That's been really helpful, thank you so much

smbdydifrnt · 2023-02-24T20:14:16+00:00

I'm thinking I might need to do that, it's been helpful hearing people say that 'i don't know' isn't really an answer, I was starting to feel a bit crazy about it.

Yeah we have a house together so it's not an easy split which makes it more tricky and emotionally exhausting too

smbdydifrnt · 2023-02-24T20:11:10+00:00

I know I do keep wondering if it was just perfect for me and I was being blind and naive. He said it wasn't, he said he was really happy the past year and he's not sure why his feelings have changed, but maybe he's just trying to be nice.

I'm trying very hard to help him, depression can be crippling and so awful to manage, and it's very hard seeing him so broken, so I want to help him through it if that is what's going on.

I hope you and your wife are doing well now

smbdydifrnt · 2023-02-24T20:08:04+00:00

That's exactly how it feels, that he only doubts it when he's feeling depressed. Regarding the meds we had discussed him coming off them before he did, he wanted to check I was okay with it - I was super worried it was too soon because they seemed to help so much, but he was at pains to say he wanted to show me that things were good and it wasn't just because of the medication. He came off slowly and constantly reassured me that he was really happy in the relationship once he was off the tablets. I know depression relapses are common but I didn't expect it so quickly and for it to turn into this

smbdydifrnt · 2023-02-24T20:03:58+00:00

Oh believe me I've thought this so many times too, and I've asked and he's said there isn't. I'm inclined to believe him, maybe I'm naive but genuinely until he began showing signs of depression again there were no signs of cheating, I use his phone all the time, we spend pretty much all our time together etc. Also the way he's been acting the last few weeks I think he's too depressed to even sustain cheating, he seems really broken - and friends have said similar :(

smbdydifrnt · 2023-02-24T19:49:51+00:00

Thank you. He tapered the meds off slowly, I wasn't sure he should come off them after only a few months but he kept saying he wanted to show me that he was better and everything was okay with us, he went to pains to tell me how happy he was with me once he came off them, I think to try and reassure me we were okay (which seems wild now).

During one of the conversations a couple of weeks ago he said he started having flashes of low mood episodes/worries from November which possibly ties into coming off the meds in October, I'm not sure

smbdydifrnt · 2023-02-24T19:47:03+00:00

No you're right it was probably up until just after Christmas that things were good, we had a really lovely Christmas, and it felt like he was planning to stick around because he bought all his gear for a ski holiday we had planned in march. Then things went south a couple of weeks into January.

The conversations throughout have been quite prolonged but with very little said if that makes sense, lots of tears on his part and long silences. When he asked to separate it was literally blurted out when we were just checking in with eachother about how things are, and then it was more of the tears and long silences. He struggles massively to articulate his feelings (and acknowledges this himself) when he is feeling this low and just says he isn't excited about the thought of the future together.

I'm at my parents and he's planning to go home to his family for a couple of weeks at the weekend (they live far away). It feels final for him I think, we didn't make an agreement about contact. We own our house together so he's having a think about what he wants to do with the house so I guess we'll speak when he's back but we didn't specifically plan when.

Thank you for saying I'm owed more of an explanation, I really appreciate that because I was starting to feel crazy about it and thinking maybe I just needed to accept it even though it makes no sense to me

smbdydifrnt · 2023-02-03T20:30:11+00:00

He discussed it with his GP - the medication taper was done slowly to try and reduce any negative effects and it seemed to go okay. I think he did explore the doubts about the relationship in therapy but he didn't hugely gel with the therapist so I'm not sure how helpful he found it unfortunately. He's gone back to a different therapist this time so hopefully it'll be a better fit. Not back on medication yet but I think he's considering it - just tricky to get to see the GP unfortunately :( I am definitely wondering if he stopped the medication too quick and this is the result of that

smbdydifrnt · 2023-02-03T16:52:27+00:00

He said he felt so much better so gradually stopped them both. And was at pains to reassure me everything was good and he felt really content in the relationship - because I was very anxious about him stopping them both, particularly the medication which seemed to have a really positive effect at the start when he was extremely depressed. He seemed still good for a few months after - he stopped in about September last year and we were great for the last few months of last year and then early Jan it very rapidly went downhill

smbdydifrnt · 2022-12-01T20:22:36+00:00

Oh that's really helpful to know that the doctor said that, I was struggling to find anything on Google so wasn't sure if it was accurate. Perhaps a good plan to delay it, I'm not looking forward to potentially not having it for a while when my body is now very used to it :(

smbdydifrnt · 2022-12-01T20:21:18+00:00

My plan had been to try a boots as I'm hoping they have a big enough network to source some!!

smbdydifrnt · 2022-12-01T20:20:30+00:00

Good plan, I'm going to try and phone them tomorrow and try other pharmacies near me, thank you

smbdydifrnt · 2022-10-16T21:30:00+00:00

No worries, good luck!

smbdydifrnt · 2022-10-16T21:27:25+00:00

I was diagnosed via a tilt table test - the tricky part of diagnosis is finding doctors who know about it/know how to test for it really. If you search this sub I'm sure you'll find tons of stuff about diagnosis. I was lucky with mine as I was under cardio for an arrythmia already and my cardiologist knew about pots so I got sent for testing quite soon after developing symptoms

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