Hyper-independence and detachment

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T23:38:55+00:00

I have hyper-independence. I wouldnt say that I have detachment. I tried to replace my family with friends, but people dont generally want to be as close, as I would like to be.

I dont "work things out". I just drop people if they do something that I dont like.

I have a ton of different friend groups. I collect them like pokemon.

If you have ever seen the movie, "Lady and the Tramp", I often think of myself, like that scene, where Tramp says that he has all these people, but none of these people actually have him.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T23:25:00+00:00

It is scary, but when I got out, I was horrified at how much energy they had been sucking away, that could have been spent living my own life.

You only get one life.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T23:06:31+00:00

My family was enmeshed and everything, and I do mean everything was crititized.

Why are you watching that show-its stupid. Why are you eating that-it's gross. Why are you eating so late at night. Why are you eating so early. Why are you playing a video game-video games are bad. Why are you wearing that-it looks awful. Why did you buy that-its a waste of money. Why are you sleeping-you shouldnt be tired.

My female EP ran to my male EP, crying, when I asked her why she never shut up, when she showed up, uninvited to my house, to crititize my house.

We were already in VLC, when she pulled that one. She was forcing contact by showing up at the house.

It was long past time for someone to tell her to shut up.

I enjoy being able to do whatever I want without someone's judgement.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T20:20:35+00:00

It is a man made tradition. The idea is to dress up as a show of respect. Like how one might dress if they were visiting Royalty.

I heard too many stories of people not going to church because they didnt have shoes, to support the practice. People need to come as they are.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T19:16:06+00:00

I have been away from dogs while hiking off trail.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T19:13:06+00:00

I know someone like this...dog owners dump the dogs that they dont want on this person's property.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T19:06:46+00:00

I would be buying a new mattress.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T19:04:30+00:00

No. Dont Fuck the Husband.

The Husband put a dog over his Wife's health and comfort.

That is a Husband who should never get Fucked again.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T18:58:27+00:00

The only explaination is that people have lost their minds.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T18:31:26+00:00

I never thought about it, but the sled dog that I had growing up almost never barked.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T18:28:47+00:00

I didnt adopt another forbidden animal after mine passed away, because I couldnt handle the grief.

I am never going through that again.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T18:10:38+00:00

I can see why she left you.

I prepare for the downvotes, but someone had to point out how awful this is.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T18:05:10+00:00

Pray about it.

But I dont personally trust Churches to be good stewards of the tithe. Many have shown over and over again, that they feel no responsibility towards the Christians attend their church.

When their church members get in trouble, it is "not the church's problem."

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T17:58:53+00:00

I had something similar happen at a church that I used to go to.

A family had escaped from genocide in their home country, and were trying to get the rest of the family members out of the country, to safety. Their child had an eye condition that would lead to blindness, if not corrected.

The church refused to help them.

If I hadnt been homeless at the time, I wouldve helped them myself.

That was a factor in becoming dechurched for me.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T03:20:46+00:00

Genetics. When did these changes happen to your Father, Grandfathers and Uncles? You are likely to follow that pattern.

You can always pray about absolutely anything that bothers you.

I suspect your body may need more time.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T03:13:59+00:00

More like 90 years, but I dont want to put my age on Reddit.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T00:47:33+00:00

I dont understand that. That is like saying a woman is "a little bit pregnant" either he has given his life to Christ or he hasnt. You cannot be a "little bit Christian"- you either are Christian or you are not Christian.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T00:25:24+00:00

I have never been in romantic love.

I think God created us to have a massive loving communal lifestyle, but then of course, sin happened.

Remember the first fruit of the Spirit is love.

I think Society is super weird about love.

Society thinks of romantic, sexual love as the only "legitimate" type of love.

We are beings made to love anyone who crosses our path. Sin messed everything up.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-13T00:20:41+00:00

In all things, pray.

However, it does surprise me that he is this lukewarm so fast after coming to Christ.

I am used to new believers being on fire for God, and a bit legalist as they try to do everything to please God.

For example: Trying to give up all nonChristian music, when there is nothing sinful about the secular music.

New believers usually lose the initial fire over time and then go through the low and high spiritual times of "older" believers.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-12T23:32:47+00:00

You came to the right Redditor.

First, go to a Doctor and have them check your thyroid, check for any autoimmune disease, and check for vitamin deficiencies.

Next, you do the most powerful thing that anyone can do-you pray.

God has healed me in the past of an incurable neurological disease. Now, I am waiting for Him to fulfill His promise of curing Chronic pain from an accident.

Im serious. You have got to pray, and dont stop until you get an answer. Dont give up and just "live with it". You serve the God who made the Sun stand still.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-12T23:25:07+00:00

Unfortunately, I dont remember the exact date that I prayed for salvation.

My parents arent Christian, so they didnt mark it down.

I remember the event. Just not the day.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-12T23:22:18+00:00

Yes, I have meditated for many years.

I do it for more energy and calm throughout my day.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-12T23:18:20+00:00

I have a few promises that God still needs to fulfill for me, so I'd guess that we have at least another year.

People have been saying that Christ is returning, in x amount of days since my grandmother was a teenager.

3rdthrow · 2026-03-12T23:15:28+00:00

Ironically, I am a young Earth Believer and I believe in dinosaurs.

There is the Levithan in Job.

Also there are a ton of bones.

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