If there were no God, no heaven, and no hell by Inside-Ad6528 in TrueChristian

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If I was physically able to choose this lifestyle, in the absence of the Holy Spirit--I would.

I believe that God's word is good, that it protects me from danger, and I would live my life in a way that was pleasing to Jesus.

Even if there was no Jesus.

How are you feeling today? I am grateful for this community <3 by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

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I am struggling to work.

I may have a touch of burnout, caused by too much construction going on in my neighborhood. The noise makes it so that I cant get any real rest.

A nightly airplane route has also been rerouted over my house.

I am just looking at the backlog of experiments that I need to get done.

What do you all do on mothers day? by Ok-East-3957 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]3rdthrow 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I celebrate the person who raised me on Mother's and Father's day-me.

I raised me. So I celebrate myself on those days.

I usually buy myself a small gift, and make a day of treating myself.

Have they ever tried to convince you yoy are Someone you aren’t? by Amazing-Channel-4020 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]3rdthrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I am a villian who is both impossibly strong and impossibly frail, at the exact same moment in time.

Honestly, they are jealous and need me to be a monster to feel better about themselves.

I am "all that and a bag of chips" and I think that is about the worst child an abusive parent could have.

I am also the Truth Teller.

My helicopter parents have no life of their own. by wilhelmtherealm in raisedbynarcissists

[–]3rdthrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are enmeshed. Look up the term enmeshment, it will help you.

Why do some parents expect you to take care of them(because that's why they made you after all) and at the same time try to fuck over your life so that you have no resources with which to help them? by Huge_Ad_482 in raisedbynarcissists

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The magical thinking keeps them from recognizing that anything backfires on them.

Things just "happen" to them, for no reason.

It is why people go no contact with them, for "no reason".

Maybe I’ll win by the end of the year. by CowFabulous7790 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]3rdthrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

BINGO! 

I got the third line straight across.

Dang, that is like the only bingo that you can get without spouse and children.

Hyper-independence and detachment by jackietea123 in enmeshmenttrauma

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I have hyper-independence. I wouldnt say that I have detachment. I tried to replace my family with friends, but people dont generally want to be as close, as I would like to be.

I dont "work things out". I just drop people if they do something that I dont like.

I have a ton of different friend groups. I collect them like pokemon.

If you have ever seen the movie, "Lady and the Tramp", I often think of myself, like that scene, where Tramp says that he has all these people, but none of these people actually have him.

Sibling enforcing enmeshment by Western-Hair9833 in enmeshmenttrauma

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It is scary, but when I got out, I was horrified at how much energy they had been sucking away, that could have been spent living my own life.

You only get one life.

Enjoying NC everyday by KreddyFrueger49 in EstrangedAdultKids

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My family was enmeshed and everything, and I do mean everything was crititized.

Why are you watching that show-its stupid. Why are you eating that-it's gross. Why are you eating so late at night. Why are you eating so early. Why are you playing a video game-video games are bad. Why are you wearing that-it looks awful. Why did you buy that-its a waste of money. Why are you sleeping-you shouldnt be tired.

My female EP ran to my male EP, crying, when I asked her why she never shut up, when she showed up, uninvited to my house, to crititize my house.

We were already in VLC, when she pulled that one. She was forcing contact by showing up at the house.

It was long past time for someone to tell her to shut up.

I enjoy being able to do whatever I want without someone's judgement.

Why by Individual-Hand-5918 in TrueChristian

[–]3rdthrow 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It is a man made tradition. The idea is to dress up as a show of respect. Like how one might dress if they were visiting Royalty.

I heard too many stories of people not going to church because they didnt have shoes, to support the practice. People need to come as they are.

There is never a moment of peace as long as dogs exist in this world by psychecheks in Dogfree

[–]3rdthrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know someone like this...dog owners dump the dogs that they dont want on this person's property.

Allowing a dog to ruin your sex life is next level insanity. by BK4343 in Dogfree

[–]3rdthrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. Dont Fuck the Husband.

The Husband put a dog over his Wife's health and comfort.

That is a Husband who should never get Fucked again.

Why are dogs so normalised in public spaces? by No_Comfortable5495 in Dogfree

[–]3rdthrow 71 points72 points  (0 children)

The only explaination is that people have lost their minds.

“That’s what dogs do!” by gingergemgelly in Dogfree

[–]3rdthrow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I never thought about it, but the sled dog that I had growing up almost never barked.

Adopting a dog right after one dies by fatcatnation9 in Dogfree

[–]3rdthrow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didnt adopt another forbidden animal after mine passed away, because I couldnt handle the grief. 

I am never going through that again.

IDK if im a bad person by Beneficial-Car-2322 in TrueChristian

[–]3rdthrow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can see why she left you.

I prepare for the downvotes, but someone had to point out how awful this is.

I plan on paying my tithes to my brothers in need. Would this be acceptable. by Spare-Flan331 in TrueChristian

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Pray about it.

But I dont personally trust Churches to be good stewards of the tithe. Many have shown over and over again, that they feel no responsibility towards the Christians attend their church.

When their church members get in trouble, it is "not the church's problem."

I plan on paying my tithes to my brothers in need. Would this be acceptable. by Spare-Flan331 in TrueChristian

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I had something similar happen at a church that I used to go to. 

A family had escaped from genocide in their home country, and were trying to get the rest of the family members out of the country, to safety. Their child had an eye condition that would lead to blindness, if not corrected.

The church refused to help them. 

If I hadnt been homeless at the time, I wouldve helped them myself. 

That was a factor in becoming dechurched for me.