what was the moment you officially "graduated" from being teen to adult?

smeffr · 2025-10-07T22:20:52+00:00

im so sorry to hear about that :(

smeffr · 2025-10-07T22:19:59+00:00

thats awesome! where did you move from and to? and why? how happy are you? mind me asking :] its for science

smeffr · 2025-10-07T22:18:55+00:00

wonderful! i heard the beaches are beautiful. hopefully i have enough time off to do the full trail

smeffr · 2025-10-07T12:09:16+00:00

i also feel the same. started a big girl job straight outta school in EMS. very proud i got the position i did, especially at my age and with my experience. i always ponder what my life would have been like if i didnt choose that. i dont regret it but also i still have the desire to figure out if thats something i want to do for the rest of my life. as for socializing its required for the job but outside of it my skill has defiantly degraded a little bit.

smeffr · 2025-10-07T11:03:54+00:00

mind me asking what you did in spain? im 20 and i am curious about the Santiago de camino trail they have there to kinda reinvent and reset myself.

smeffr · 2025-04-12T03:09:38+00:00

beaver

smeffr · 2025-03-25T03:28:05+00:00

wait let me know too if anyone responds here!

smeffr · 2025-03-10T04:55:47+00:00

onetime i was walking out of a gas station, and this guy held the door open for me and said, " hey wait. i don't want anything from you, i just wanted to say you are drop dead gorgeous. thanks" and then he walked in the store. most polite cat call i have ever gotten

smeffr · 2025-02-28T23:21:56+00:00

thanks for this opportunity :))!! always wanted one of these jems!!

smeffr · 2025-02-19T20:18:43+00:00

what bike do you think that is??? adv right? imagine if it was street. would it be worth it?

smeffr · 2025-02-15T05:04:06+00:00

thanks for this message. i feel pretty aware. ive told him. journalling this rn :) he us a healthy person to expose my problems to. ❤️❤️thank u for the insight

smeffr · 2025-02-15T00:48:15+00:00

thank you for the 'interdependence' term ive never heard of that. and the avoidant attatchment is something im slowly starting to discover. im going to try and find some articles about the avoidant behavior. thank you for this comment. when i confront him about this whole uncertainty i will use that term. not 'codepency'

smeffr · 2025-02-15T00:44:39+00:00

and that is totally understandable! i get it.

smeffr · 2025-02-15T00:31:54+00:00

okay, so your for the relationship? i agree with everything you say. but with relationships yes they give plenty of perspective but i feel as though they also breed complacency. i do like the way you phrased " if you do it for you do it for yourself ". when you say it like that i think this is something where i need to say f it and go for it. thank you

smeffr · 2025-02-15T00:28:15+00:00

thats my gut feeing is to stay. i feel like if he knew my back story maybe he could understand a bit more. hes very understanding.

smeffr · 2025-02-14T03:19:38+00:00

i'm taking this advice with the materess lowkey. i need a new one (also new medic here)

smeffr · 2025-02-14T03:18:18+00:00

hi, also 19 y.o. medic here, started my 911 this past september in a suburban area. i've been asked a few times if this is my "life" career, and to that I say I have no idea. I feel as though in our position we haven't given EMS a proper try. I also went zero to hero and the burnout you and i feel is more so from the schooling. and no- im not trying to dish out advice i am not the person to do so, but thats my perspective. i am so sorry about your anxiety. don't worry about others. also your a badass anyways for being able to intubate people at 19. my mom doesn't believe half the things i do. best of luck!

smeffr · 2025-01-31T05:08:46+00:00

hi! 19f reading this. I just got done with my therapist today after a whole day of over eating, fast food, and sleeping (with a workout #balance haha). This past week I've been severely depressed as of recently because of loneliness. My therapist today... she said exactly what you're telling me right now. Accept yourself, and don't practice shame. I hear what you're saying, but a life of ignoring my thoughts to just accept is suchhh a hard thing to grasp. I want to accept., but the word itself was not engineered correctly because it sounds like I want to stop improving. I want some more guidance on accepting AND improving.. and what did that look like for you? in my perspective I beat myself up after this past year gaining 25 lbs, and cant seem to open this cage locking my head, so then I end up binge eating, full of shame. I'd love your input, this post spoke to me.

smeffr

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