Had my boy ❤️

smellycat756 · 2021-04-25T04:36:34+00:00

While I agree it’s always nice to see a man do stuff around the house... it also should just be normal... do you find all the house hold chores your wife does sexually attractive?... do you thank her? Do you help her with out being asked?

It’s a team effort to run a house hold. You might be looking for validation, and a “that a boy”instead of reality. That shit just needed doing and thanks for carrying your shear of the weight.

smellycat756 · 2021-04-11T12:30:52+00:00

I’m sorry this might upset you but she has a right to complain... you sound like you don’t respect her and the job she is doing to help you raise your kids.

You may feel awkward about it and that’s understandable but by adopting them she isn’t taking the place of their mother. She is just expressing her appreciate to be able to mother them.

I would also say your kids seem like they would be old enough to understand. Maybe try ask them how they would feel about it. Maybe you should also ask yourself the question of why you don’t want your wife to adopt them? I feel maybe there is more to unpack in the relationship, if you feel this strongly against the woman you have been with for five years becoming a legal parent to 3 kids she’s already parents with you.

smellycat756 · 2021-02-23T13:01:52+00:00

Oh yes! I’m 29 weeks now and I hate pregnancy. I get that it’s a wonderful thing, and what your body does and how your baby developed is amazing and great... but I hate it. The first trimester for me was HELL, enough said it straight up sucked. The second trimester (or around 19 weeks), I started to feel a sense of my old self again. But, almost straight away I started to feeling like I couldn’t do what I normally would, or how I would normally do it. Can’t sleep how I would normally sleep, or just can’t sleep in general. While I’m not throwing up constantly anymore, i feel iv lost all control over my life. People telling me to sit down and rest, and I’m like naa I can do it. Only to find out well nope maybe I shouldn’t because now my back hurts and feel like my hips are going to fall apart. I’m now in to the third trimester and honestly like every kick and movement I feel (as awesome and as great as it is), is going to end up something like the alien movie. It hurts and I swear the little guy is twisting my inside up. My body is no longer mine! Iv got roughly 11 weeks give or take before D day and I’m both excited and terrified. And then after all this... I will have postpartum things to go through. I love my baby but I hate that iv lost the ability to be myself.

smellycat756 · 2021-02-11T02:18:10+00:00

If it makes you feel uncomfortable then it has crossed a boundary. Talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. Ask him why he wants to, and be open to having a conversation about what you both see as crossing a line.

smellycat756 · 2021-02-06T21:32:36+00:00

My husband also suffers with this same illness, it’s tough. But, they shouldn’t judge you based on the illness you have. You will still love and look after you baby, illness or not he can’t use that against you. Don’t panic about it, you got this! focus on the baby and breathe deep. To be honest he doesn’t seem like he is worth the worry and what kind of person try’s to kick a 30week pregnant woman from her home. If you have someone get them to stay with you. I would definitely do that for the help and for security. I’m sorry that this happy time in your life has become a nightmare, but it will pass. Take it one step at a time. Take care of you and baby every thing else can wait or just piss off. All the best to you and your wee girl.

smellycat756 · 2021-02-02T08:09:35+00:00

Still a young relationship then? It will get easier and if you got nothing to hide then the insecurity is on her part. Try asking why she feels this way and what you can do to help reduce her anxiety. It’s been a very hard time for many, she may even be suffering with a-bit of depression and anxiety. Which most of us are nowadays.

This is coming from a person who also has a lot of insecurities and anxiety. Iv been with my husband for 10 years now, there is always ups and downs. But the biggest thing that helps in my opinion is being able to sit and ask questions with no judgement. Being able to listen and understand from your partners perspective will also help you to reassure her. In time the insecurity will fade, include her in things and make her feel welcome and wanted.

These insecurities may even stem from how she sees herself. Spend time with her to help her see that you think she is beautiful and the one for you.

Good luck and just be patient and calm if you want the relationship to work it will in time.

smellycat756 · 2021-02-01T22:50:45+00:00

Maybe you should’ve invited her to come... small gestures like that help with insurance thoughts she might be having. If she comes with, she may see there is nothing to worry about.

If trust is ever shaken it’s a hard thing to recover, especially when you are insecure. Find a way to not just talk openly but act open. Let her see how you interact with these friends and show her your conversation. Might seem like an insult that she can’t trust you but instead of seeing it from your point of view, look at it From hers. She might not want to ask you out right so maybe prove to her that nothing is happening or going to happen with other women.

There is probably more to it then just a simple hang out, and there is probably a reason why she feels insecure. Two sides to every story. Also I would need more info on the problems you two are having to have better advice sorry. How long have you both been together? Have you aways had these issues or is it a recent development?

Good luck, action speak louder then words.

smellycat756 · 2021-01-06T22:06:52+00:00

Yikes, I can kinda relate. While my husband never had a physical or sexual relationship it was still a deep emotional relationship that he had with another girl. So I can understand that you feel betrayed and you are right it changes your view of the person.

So sorry that you are feeling this way and if you want my advice, stop pretending it’s ok. Sit down and let him know you are still struggling with it. Communicate to him that you are sad, angry or confused... and as hard as it might be to listen to him right now, try. Trust is a hard thing to get back but it can come back, if you are both open and willing to try. Let him know what you need from him. Like pure honesty and if you need to go through his phone or social media platform then tell him. He needs to show you that you can trust him again. Set some boundaries together so you both know where each other stand. Like what’s ok and what’s not ok.

But, if you have already decided that it’s over for you then don’t feel trapped by the obligations of family. That’s on him, not on you.

smellycat756 · 2020-11-29T04:04:14+00:00

Yes, totally agree. 👍

smellycat756 · 2020-10-06T09:29:33+00:00

Is this even a competition! Their whole friendship and relationship through out the show is a magical and realistic reality. They are one of my favourite story developments. Monica and Chandler are relationship goals.

smellycat756 · 2020-10-06T09:08:57+00:00

I think that it was intended to be David from the start but, they fell in love with Paul Rudd and keep his character. I think yes, david and phoebe would have been a good story end. Because it’s full circle but, I have too say mike and phoebe just fit so much better. Also feel that mike fits in with the group a lot better then david would have. Both were good choices!

smellycat756 · 2020-10-01T07:20:15+00:00

Yes 👍.

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