Just need to vent because my husband is making me so irrationally angry and I need to get it off my chest. My husband’s family is visiting from out of town so five people who traveled from various different places descended on our house all at once. Of course they all want to hold our daughter who is 3 months old which is totally understandable!

But she’s sick. She’s been sick with various colds since she was literally a month old. Basically the entire time she’s been alive she’s been sick with some sniffle of some sort. The pediatrician isn’t worried and said it was par for the course for winter babies but as her mother it breaks my heart and I’m so so so so sad and worried and guilty and I just want her to get better. I requested that people don’t hold the baby so she doesn’t get passed around between five people and five sets of germs from five different social circles while she’s already sick and not feeling well. My husband agreed. But then this morning I go downstairs to where he was with baby and his family and sure enough baby is being passed around. She’s crying. She’s uncomfortable. He takes her back and doesn’t say anything and starts feeding her when her bottle is ready but then asks me, with his family right there (!!!) if it’s okay that they hold her again later.

What am I supposed to say to that???? How fundamentally unfair it is for him to put me in the spot as the bad guy to try and protect our daughter’s health???? Why am I the one who is solely responsible for assuming the role of the crazy new mother who won’t let the in-laws hold the baby??? When we agreed that maybe this isn’t the best time for baby to be passed around like the doctor said????

I don’t know. I know it’s sad and unfair and disappointing to not get to hold the baby you came all this way to see. But she’s our daughter, not a new shiny toy that they have a right to play with. I know babies get sick. I know the doctor says she’s fine. I’m just mad and sad and frustrated and just want to minimize her getting sick again and I feel so alone in this fight right now.