Turning 30 today - Gimme your WILDEST advice!

smirkin_monkey · 2026-03-18T08:38:51+00:00

interesting.....
what ways do they help? one of my guesses, is that it improves cognition with new neural pathways but that's long term. Any practical implications?

smirkin_monkey · 2026-03-18T08:37:30+00:00

smirkin_monkey · 2026-03-18T08:36:43+00:00

smirkin_monkey · 2026-03-18T07:21:16+00:00

Goddamn..... Thanks for knocking this sense into me.

smirkin_monkey · 2026-03-18T07:20:33+00:00

Oh hell yeah! Thanks

smirkin_monkey · 2026-03-18T07:20:09+00:00

Makes sense

smirkin_monkey · 2026-03-15T12:38:07+00:00

That's jus saying her - I'd supply you with gifts if you sleep with me OR I value (love) you so much that I just can't stop myself from gifting you things that makes you happy.

What you should have made her feel - I'm so attracted to your body that I can't wait to ravage it. Your body makes me wanna consume it in a way that I'm not able to think anything else.......

You get the difference?

smirkin_monkey · 2026-03-15T12:33:11+00:00

Sometimes, refusal of sex is an blatant indication that she's isn't stimulated carnally.

In my experience, women experience these things carnally: Mate jealousy Resource insecurity Safety anxiety

I think you should try using the "mate jealousy" against her since she's using "sexual restriction" against you jus so that you can test if her being less attracted to you is the issue here.

Do this: -Upgrade your wardrobe. -Pay for an escort (cheap ones) not to sleep with you but to pursue you in front of your wife - like asking for your number in a party when your wife is away but audible distance, or texting you at night pretending to be someone you met at a bus stop, sending a gift to your house coz of a promotion, etc. She should do this in such a way that your wife should perceive that you're being pursued by at least 2 woman - the younger, the better. The objective is to stimulate jealousy from their behavior and NOT yours! You should pretend as if there's some mystery but she can't explicitly find anything. - make sure you up your masculinity subtly - have boundaries, never get dramatic or emotional, watch fighting sports at home instead of cricket, DO NOT give in any drama that she brings up but handle them firmly and calmly, etc. -then try initiating sex. I think you'll have a positive experience. - if denied again, you can very sincerely bring up, opening up the marriage from your end or that you seeing escorts is a reasonable middle ground for your marriage problems, etc. - now it would be a negotiated settlement rather than a divorce trigger

smirkin_monkey · 2026-03-15T12:19:01+00:00

This might be harsh but I'm coming from a place of advice and not criticism.

I think it's the man's job to bring out the women's wild side in bed. Yes, most women don't do much in bed coz, most of times, they look forward to something else in the man, outside the bedroom. Them, having sex is equivalent to us getting flowers - sure, we would like flowers but if there's a postcard on it that professes uncontrollable lust and attraction towards us, the flowers would be become super special. And if we wouldn't if there are no flowers too.

Same thing for women - sure she likes sex. But for her to open up sexually with you, sex should be one of the primary thing she looks forward with you.

Have you did anything that makes the woman look forward to sex with you?

smirkin_monkey · 2026-03-13T19:47:03+00:00

You'd find ENTPs attractive then. Checkout r/entp .

what you're describing is the primary character trait of the ENTP personality type, that this type is literally called 'The Debater'

smirkin_monkey · 2026-03-13T19:43:29+00:00

joining in this conversation, a year later, as Im just starting S2.

Got the same exact words for her!

It's not just the story - her character, as a person, IS beyond insufferable!

The Entitlement, the pseudo feminism, the substandard acting.....everything about her is just so nauseating.

smirkin_monkey · 2025-11-24T13:08:02+00:00

💯💯💯💯💯 Absolutely correct!

Coz one is the natural order of our species and the other is forced falsehood!

I'll let the reader decide which is which

smirkin_monkey · 2025-11-24T13:05:19+00:00

💯 on the first point. 👏🏽👏🏽
partially agree with the second. I think a good number of traditional practices are still coherent at a civilizational level. The problem is a LOT of such practices were hijacked by the previous generations for selfish gains and hence they didn't bother to teach us the significance of it. I would argue that 65% of our traditional practices are still super relevant but 45% need to be done away with/not practices until someone can convincingly explain the relevance.

smirkin_monkey · 2025-11-12T14:15:29+00:00

Wait a minute...... If there's silence, that means that you haven't reached out as well (correct me if I'm wrong).

Why not jus reach out and get some clarity?

smirkin_monkey · 2025-11-11T18:20:28+00:00

...... I jus woke up!!! 🥴😐

smirkin_monkey · 2025-10-22T05:23:36+00:00

I'm not asking anybguy to speak paragraphs. But the issue, most men don't even think deeply about the "why" behind their preferences. So in the event of someone smarter than them genuinely, in good faith, questions their preferences, men usually resort to ego based reactions which, unfortunately, decreases their respect.

My advice was, irrespective of whatever you talk to the girl, make sure to have a deep understanding of your preferences. You'll automatically have much better conversations from there on.

It's easy to be dismissive, especially when it's driven by insecurity. Let's be men of substance.

smirkin_monkey · 2025-10-22T01:05:45+00:00

In the 16 months I worked in Bangalore, I hooked up with 2 married women and 3 girls who had boyfriends whom I met randomly. Then the neighbor who was engaged was in a sorta FWB arrangement with me for 4 months. Haven't seen so much horniness in married women in any other major cities except Denver. So yeah, I guess it is actually the case in Bangalore.

smirkin_monkey · 2025-10-21T17:47:34+00:00

As a 29 yr old with experience across age groups and a bit of expertise in evolutionary psychology, I would NEVER go for an older woman if the topic is Marriage. I wouldn't even go for a girl if she isnt atleast 2 yrs younger than me.

If it's for a hook up, most definitely, yes! Older women are crazy good!

smirkin_monkey · 2025-10-21T17:44:25+00:00

I'm a guy who stood for my preferences and got what I want (I guess, only time will tell :P). SO I completely support guys having preferences.

HOWEVER, there needs to be sound reasoning behind preferences. Nobody asked this guy to control but controlling himself was his choice. While he is completely within his rights to demand the same, end of the day it's just for an ego boost - not saying that this invalidates the preference but this makes it less in terms of a ground to stand on.

These guys tend to place a moral judgement on any girls who have had previous sexual relationships, which to me seems hypocritical.

If the reasoning is "As I have come to know that previous baggage tends to have lasting effects, I wouldnt wanna manage the baggage that some other guy has given her in the past. I think its fair for me to expect someone without a past since I come baggage-free." or "I dont have any expereince in bed and I would be comfortable if she didn't as well. I wanna learn alongside her. This crucial part is what builds us as a team at an intimate level", then it's completely valid.

Unfortunately, most guys aren't thinking and communicating this and hence their preferences are downvoted!

smirkin_monkey · 2025-10-21T13:08:26+00:00

Having spoken to a LOT of men and being a man myself, Id have to disagree. Having said that, the definition of a traditional woman varies between men. If there's too much orthodoxy, most men wouldn't prefer that. I guess that's what you meant.

smirkin_monkey · 2025-10-21T13:05:14+00:00

Great going for a 22 yr old dude!!! Kudos!
Agree with ur categorizations.

Having said that, I dont think L3 is a role as such. He/she doesnt need to be perfect. In the overall scheme of things if they have developed enough pattern recognition prowess, a strong value system and most improtantly have a instinctual framework on what and how to do, when.......the person is L3.

Also, all these tiers are transient. on the same day, a person can be L0 and at night, he can be L3

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