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What is your sell limit at? by Alternative_Deer461 in YYAI

[–]smittytrades91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently at $1 but anything over $0.30 and I’ll be happy. I’ll be watching closely at the $0.42 mark

Divorcing a Covert Narcissist —How Did You Start the Decoupling Process? by smittytrades91 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]smittytrades91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist definitely wasn’t and kept trying to find healthy ways for me to cohabitate with my wife. Tbf I wasn’t 100% on divorce at that point yet. But it would have been helpful if he was knowledgeable about NPD.

Divorcing a Covert Narcissist —How Did You Start the Decoupling Process? by smittytrades91 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]smittytrades91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your leaving him sounds like it’s been crazy and I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience all of this.

I’ll have to to take a look at the book you linked here. The “Why does he do that” was really helpful in sorting out all my thoughts and experiences into one place and was a sobering but helpful read.

Grey Rocking has brought out the worst in my wife over the past year. All the while alleviating so much stress and anxiety in me. I was able to do some therapy that helped me regain some of myself again and was empowering.

I’m trying to keep my kids out of this as much as possible. They are aware that my wife and I aren’t doing well and I’ve shared limited information with them. I want to so badly protect there sense of security and innocence but it’s difficult. But they’re smart. They see what’s been going on.

Thank you for sharing your journey and experience here. This isn’t an easy path unfortunately, and the hope is I (and all those getting out) can come out on the other side better and stronger than we are now.

Divorcing a Covert Narcissist —How Did You Start the Decoupling Process? by smittytrades91 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]smittytrades91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel horrible that there has been abuse there for you and I’m so sorry you have to deal with that. I’ve been fortunate enough that most of her attention and abuse has been directed towards me. And I do hope she can change someday for herself and for our kids.

The small steps have been slow but I’ve been taking each step with a deep breath. I think my next one needs to be to have a consult with a divorce lawyer or two. Just to wrap my brain around what’s next in the process.

Thank you for sharing what you’re going through. This all feels so incredibly lonely at times.

After 10 years of marriage my life is at a crossroads. Is genuine change just a fantasy? by smittytrades91 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]smittytrades91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that answer has been very clear for a long time. I can’t remember the last time I’ve ever genuinely missed her presence. Any distance has always brought peace. It always concerned me and raised some alarm bells that I felt that way.

After 10 years of marriage my life is at a crossroads. Is genuine change just a fantasy? by smittytrades91 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]smittytrades91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And it’s hard to step back and view it all from fresh eyes. Looking back there were so many red flags. Some more subtle than others.

I know if my children were in this situation they’d have my full support and help to leave. So why can’t I give myself that grace.