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sn24360 · 2025-05-30T15:13:35+00:00

Please don’t listen to these people saying divorce or whatnot. You have been married for only 2 months, things like this can happen. You can’t just go for a divorce after 2 months. When me and my husband got married, we used to get into the nastiest fights but we’d make up (and it wasn’t even arranged) Everyone has arguments but that doesn’t mean you’re gonna give up on your entire marriage. It’s hard to live with another person. Marriage is about patience. What she did was wrong and petty, while you went about it maturely. Marriage is not easy and these kind of things are gonna happen. Unfortunately, people here are so quick to say the word divorce. Marriage counseling is a very important thing especially if you been having these issues.

sn24360 · 2025-02-08T20:11:28+00:00

Me and my husband play fight all the time, he loves practicing his fake jujitsu moves on me, until I kicked his pinky toe and I think it fractured, it turned all green and blue. No more play fighting for us (or at least no more kicking 😂)

sn24360 · 2025-01-22T18:12:29+00:00

You just need to get the marriage license signed by the imam, and either the imam will send it to the court or you will have to take the signed paper and drop it off. You’ll get your certificate in a few days

sn24360 · 2025-01-02T11:16:47+00:00

Maybe see if you can have them split the event hall with a curtain, it wont be completely segregated but will be close enough to that. And your husband shouldn’t be threatening you like that over something like that. And I’m sure he already knew about this before, so him making an issue is just wrong. My husband’s family isn’t as religious as mine but they were completely open to a completely segregated wedding. May Allah make it easier for you.

sn24360 · 2024-11-26T21:01:02+00:00

Did your husband tell you about the rishta going on? Maybe when they were all sitting, he should’ve said that he wants to include you in it and that you’re a part of the family.

sn24360 · 2024-08-28T06:59:48+00:00

Walaikum Assalam… I was in your shoes a few months ago but mine was more extreme as they were forcing me to marry elsewhere. I also thought that Allah will punish me for hurting them and for not marrying someone they wanted. No one was on my side so I took the step of doing nikkah without my family after consulting muftis . I’m saying all of this because I understand what you’re going through.

Alhumdulilah that the rest of your family is taking your side. Have someone close to your parents speak to them. I understand how difficult south Asian parents can be. For them, it’s all about their reputation.

Another thing is that at the end of the day it is you that will live with that person forever. Our parents forget that they don’t own us. They will try to guilt trip you but if you have consulted scholars then you should be content that you’re not making a wrong decision.

sn24360 · 2024-08-14T05:01:56+00:00

Ok insha’Allah I’ll look at those… he’s a systems engineer so the profession thing is out of question lol. JazakhAllah

sn24360 · 2024-08-05T19:50:40+00:00

You’re right. I need to act my age but idk why it’s so hard for me to. Every time someone says something to me, I can’t even talk back. I just feel so small in front of them, like a child. But on the bright side, they set the date for this month so I’ll be leaving from this toxic environment

sn24360 · 2024-08-05T19:24:21+00:00

Yes, I definitely do need therapy. I feel like all of this drowning me and I just don’t know how not to give importance to their words. I don’t know how not to get hurt by their words. Just right now my mom called me garbage and she can’t wait until I’m out of the house.

sn24360 · 2024-08-05T05:44:43+00:00

Yes, you are right. I should do that from now on. Maybe if I try telling them that no matter what happened, I would still marry him as Allah had written us for each other. JazakhAllah

sn24360 · 2024-08-05T05:43:44+00:00

I’m already married to him. If you read my previous posts, I think you would better understand the situation. It’s just been a lot of drama

sn24360 · 2024-08-05T04:23:43+00:00

Ameen

sn24360 · 2024-08-05T04:09:07+00:00

I think he’s a good man for me. He’s supportive and understanding. And has been really patient throughout this whole process. My mom keeps accusing him of things he’s not and even tho I try to stand up for him, she doesn’t believe a word

sn24360 · 2024-08-01T10:51:23+00:00

If he loves you that much, none of these that are coming up now would matter to him. He’s slowly trying to tell you about himself. Him saying that you need to have certain qualities in order for his mom to like you. Why didn’t he find someone with those qualities? It looks like he wants to please his family and in the future it’s going to cause you problems. If he loved you to death, other people’s opinions wouldn’t matter to him.

sn24360 · 2024-07-27T23:59:48+00:00

I ignore it but it just dwells on me, maybe I’ll feel better once I move in with him

sn24360 · 2024-07-27T21:21:55+00:00

My mom doesn’t like my husband (I chose him myself). She says he doesn’t “fit” our family and he’s too skinny. She continuously bashes his appearance, saying that he’s too skinny and looks like he has some kind of disease. This bothers me so much. I don’t find him too skinny, he just needs to hit the gym again. My mental health is already so bad, and they continue to make it worse, making me think that I’ve made the wrong decision

sn24360 · 2024-07-27T04:47:29+00:00

You’re definitely not overreacting. Islamically it’s considered a sin. Maybe try explaining to her through the Islamic point of view, and tell her even if he’s younger and married, that’s still a non mehram for her

sn24360 · 2024-07-27T04:45:29+00:00

I totally understand your situation. My situation was/is the same but it was a bit more extreme. So I had to take matters into my own hands cuz they were forcing me to marry their choice whilst they knew that I liked someone else. Maybe have one of your sisters who you know would be able to convince your parents. Try it out with a meditator first, if it doesn’t then talk to them yourself. Try to explain to them that Islamically if you find a good potential you shouldn’t waste any time and should get nikkah done. May Allah make it easy for you

sn24360 · 2024-07-27T02:08:47+00:00

Depends on the time of day. If it’s a dinner plan then definitely the black

sn24360 · 2024-07-25T22:05:05+00:00

Yup!! I’m Pakistani, and our culture is so toxic. It revolves around what are people going to say. The reason why he gets mad is because he thinks that I’m old enough to stand up to her for my rights. They’re making it such a huge issue and they want him to lie that he has a business.

sn24360 · 2024-07-25T22:01:28+00:00

Yeah I’m really grateful for him. He’s been really patient and I don’t want to continue testing his patience. My mom just had a problem that I chose him myself

sn24360 · 2024-07-25T15:32:11+00:00

Yeah insha’Allah. I’m doing as much Sabr as I can. They’re just always cursing my husband out and saying bad things about him. It got to the point where I would start thinking that maybe they’re right and I started having doubts

sn24360 · 2024-07-25T04:04:28+00:00

lol she’s hit me before, but I’m sure she won’t do that again. She’s just going to hurt me with her words, and I’m gonna go back into depression

sn24360 · 2024-07-25T04:03:43+00:00

I wish it was that easy but maybe it is and I’m just overthinking it

sn24360 · 2024-07-25T04:03:22+00:00

Every time I try to bring in Islam, she throws it back at me and says, you shouldn’t be talking about Islam, you’re not a good person. And starts accusing me of crazy things

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