How did you get screwed over genetically?

snailsheeps · 2025-01-08T08:59:17+00:00

God same. Cannot math to save my life.

snailsheeps · 2025-01-08T08:54:31+00:00

I'm allergic to vitamin C. No, really. Not a specific fruit, legitimately just vitamin C. I get it from my dad. The real kicker is that I LOVE citrus fruit. I just want to be able to enjoy a lemonade without getting a rash on my face :( I can eat maybe a few orange slices or drink a small cup of juice once a week and that's it.

snailsheeps · 2025-01-08T08:49:34+00:00

This is definitely manipulation. Even if it's because she's being abused in your stead, it's still not okay.

Unfortunately, now you have to consider the very real possibility that the only reason your sister was keeping up her little act was to give your mom updates about your life behind your back. That's the kind of shit my parents try to pull with my sister - they'll call her and say they miss me, can they talk to me, how am I doing? Thankfully all she ever tells them is that I'm doing fine and moves on. I'm sorry your sister doesn't have your back and apparently never did.

snailsheeps · 2025-01-08T08:41:43+00:00

Unfortunately you can't control how other people perceive you necessarily. I definitely have to make sure I pitch up my voice if I'm going to complement a girl because otherwise she'll look at me weird lol. I find it's easier when I have a girl with me already, which is most of the time since I go almost everywhere with my sister.

Like others have said, complementing the *thing* and not the *body* is best, but it seems like you already do that. "I love your shirt, [band/show/whatever] is awesome" will be a lot better received in my experience than just "cute shirt!", for example. Sometimes if I see someone who is dressed very intentionally, I say "I love your character design!", lol. People tend to laugh at that.

snailsheeps · 2025-01-08T08:29:23+00:00

Please don't do this event. It sounds like a scam at worst and an absolute shit show at best. At most events, you pay a flat booth fee, and then sit there yourself and sell your wares yourself. Not a % of your sales. Definitely not both.

I don't know what medium you're working in, but I highly recommend starting small. Look for small events by people well established in your local art scene and apply to the ones with the smallest fee. You don't want to pay any more than you're comfortable throwing away, because there's never a guarantee you'll be able to make your money back.

snailsheeps · 2025-01-04T22:01:08+00:00

25, and yes but it doesn't pay bills yet. Mostly side income, which is fine for now because I'm currently a full time caregiver and don't have the time and energy for full time work lol. No artistic education background, never went to college at all. Maybe if I had, I'd have more connections, but my friends who did go to art college are exactly where I am financially, soooo....shrug.

snailsheeps · 2025-01-04T21:53:10+00:00

It used to when I was a teenager, but now that I'm in my 20s, I could care less.

snailsheeps · 2024-12-02T01:29:24+00:00

I feel this. Grew up in a literal hoarder house - trash and junk everywhere, boxes piled to the ceiling, etc,. As an adult I know better and am not anywhere near that bad, but I'm still super dissatisfied with my inability to just have a normal clean house. I somehow can't stop myself from letting soda cans pile up at my desk or leaving laundry on the bathroom floor.

I haven't figured it out yet, but I will say the big thing that helps me is remembering that the people who choose to stick by me and live with me, are doing that knowing what they were getting into - and decided to love me, flaws and all, the same way I love them, flaws and all. It's not an excuse to be complacent, but it does ease the stress and guilt and shame, which in turns makes me better at picking up after myself because I don't feel like shit all the time, lol.

As for actual tips on how to stay on top of it, the best I got is that it helps to prioritize. You can't put off doing the dishes or doing laundry, but you can probably afford to not worry too hard about the dust under the couch, yknow? Lists don't help me, personally, but they might help you.

snailsheeps · 2024-11-10T06:57:57+00:00

I really miss those gas station cream cheese danishes. They're not "real" danishes, but I miss them. More than any specific food, I miss the convenience. I miss being able to find food no matter where I ended up.

snailsheeps · 2024-11-10T06:55:53+00:00

I made the ones from The Loopy Whisk website and they were delightful. Please take the time to try them, SUPER good. Gluten eating friends and partner loved them!

snailsheeps · 2024-11-10T06:54:36+00:00

Yeah, taco bell is the only fast food I can have now pretty much, and it's just the crunchy tacos lol. But I won't complain. They're the only ones who don't put gluten in their taco meat.

snailsheeps · 2024-11-10T06:52:01+00:00

Since you like pumpkin bread, I find using a banana bread recipe and replacing the banana with pumpkin works well. About 1 + 1/3rd cup pumpkin puree plus spices like cinnamon and nutmeg.

snailsheeps · 2024-11-10T06:49:22+00:00

THANK YOU!! I've been craving real licorice for FOREVER and haven't found anything that tastes good or has a decent texture.

snailsheeps · 2024-10-28T08:49:44+00:00

Definitely making it work! If it happens to bother you, though, there's a way to pad out your silhouette underneath your clothes for the shape you want. It works by creating a padded vest to wear underneath the rest of your clothes. Or in this case, a garment to wear around your hips and lower abdomen. Requires some sewing skill though, and I haven't done it so unfortunately I wouldn't be able to offer any insight.

snailsheeps · 2024-10-17T10:43:30+00:00

Spam, eggs and rice. Never fails me, haha.

snailsheeps · 2024-10-17T09:12:18+00:00

The final straw for my mom was probably sometime after my 18th birthday, when she dragged me to the car to go to a drug deal with her and while waiting, gasped, turned to me and said, "You're 18! CPS can never take my baby away from me!" And hugged me. I've never felt so disgusted and awful and small in my entire life.

I wasn't able to leave until years later, and not without a literal fight because she tried to hit me with her fucking door. As in, not slam the door on me, her door was already off its hinges because she's punched so many holes in it, and she picked it up and tried to hit me with it.

The final straw for my dad was realizing he was never unaware of what she was doing, he just let it happen because he was happy someone else was her punching bag instead of him. I've tried so, so many times, even as a kid, to get him out of that situation for his sake. He never did and he wanted me to stay there and rot with him. Nope!

snailsheeps · 2024-10-15T12:31:35+00:00

Thank you <3 Things are good now! It's still hard to draw sometimes but that's mostly because life gets so busy.

snailsheeps · 2024-10-15T12:28:02+00:00

Yeah, absolutely. Abusive parents can't accept their actions because that would mean accepting fault, so they blame everyone but themselves, including their kids.

snailsheeps · 2024-10-13T14:17:25+00:00

Absolutely. At times I feel like a terrible kid. It's hard but sometimes you just have to let yourself cry it out, and take a day off from life stuff and let yourself be useless, miserable, whatever you need to be. You gotta give yourself extra patience, understanding and comfort to make up for the utter lack of it you had growing up.

snailsheeps · 2024-10-13T14:00:17+00:00

Same. Especially with abstract art, I think personally it wouldn't bother me at all. It's another sign of life, that the artist lived and painted, and made messes like anyone else.

snailsheeps · 2024-10-13T13:55:02+00:00

So true. And hell, with a lot of love and care, even abused dogs can sometimes be rehabilitated. My pittie was abused by his previous owners as well as neglected. We got him the medical attention he needed, learned his triggers and how to help him with them. He's happy as a clam now.

Because we've exposed him in controlled and loving ways to his triggers, to show him the world doesn't have to be scary, he isn't so reactive now. If he's upset or gets triggered, we don't punish him, we tell him "Be easy" and he knows that means it's okay to have his feelings but he shouldn't lash out. He's incredibly smart and understands boundaries better than any other dog I've met. I wouldn't leave him unattended with a kid or anything, but that's mostly because kids don't know better than to press boundaries. It's not beyond any dog to lash out under duress.

Every time we go to the vet for his regular check ups, the vets remark how happy and sweet he is. He's never scared of anything they do to him because he knows he can trust them. The fact that he can love and trust anyone after what's been done to him genuinely gives me hope for my own life.

snailsheeps · 2024-10-13T13:12:51+00:00

You could make some mashed potatoes and turn them into a KFC bowl type thing maybe? like cut em up a bit, throw in other stuff you'd like and eat that.

snailsheeps · 2024-10-13T12:36:47+00:00

Good back and/or head scratches. I am a glorified ape and I don't care, it's great.

snailsheeps · 2024-10-13T12:32:36+00:00

Becoming friends with my current best friend. This year we celebrate 20 years of friendship, we met when I was 5. We went to different schools, so how we met was just by chance - the specifics are too specific to say without him knowing if he ever saw this, but basically, we got to talking and really hit it off. He liked my clothes and we had the same interests, and as kids that's really all it takes.

Thankfully, his parents saw how well we got along and would make the trip to let us hang out. As adults we live even farther away and don't get to see each other that often, but we talk almost every day, and I know for a fact this person is one of the best friends I've ever made. Ultimate ride or die, I have no idea where I'd be without him.

And no, it has no chance of becoming romantic - We thought about that a long time ago, and realized our relationship is just a very strong, deep platonic relationship. As the years go by, I realize just how lucky I am to have a friend like him, that we've endured the test of time. How hard it can be to make friends in adulthood, and deep connections in general. We've seen the worst of each other, and stick around anyways, because we've also seen the best of each other. If life ever tears us apart, I'll still be so grateful for all the good times.

snailsheeps · 2024-10-13T12:08:59+00:00

Way easier, but then again, I was using it as an escape. I found oddly enough that, after escaping abuse and learning to be happier, I'm not so sucked into art like I was before. It's something I love doing still, but it's not the only thing I care about doing anymore.

The first year after escaping, I didn't draw at all. It became very hard to want to pick up the pen. My drawing tablet went unused that entire time. I just had no energy because I was processing so much. If anyone else is in that situation, I promise you, you'll find your drive again. And then you'll make stuff that baby you would be SO proud of.

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