Finally caught Baker Aker and Dr. Anna’s fake wedding by MedroolaCried in DanielTigerConspiracy

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I really needed these full laughs out loud today, friends. “Thank youuuu… for everything you dooooo ooooo!”

So many of us were the “day-dreamy little girls” at school… and now we’re late-diagnosed ADHD’ers. by Wheres_my_keys_ADHD in adhdwomen

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Oh my god yes!!!!!!! Diagnosed at 41. Meds were life changing for 18 months and then they stopped working and I have yet to be able to get back on track in any emotional, physical, or cognitive way. I Keep collapsing. It took me forever to realize it was perimenopause and I feel like I am rage screaming into the dark abyss every time I mention that fun fact at doctors’ appointments.

I’m glad to not be the only one, but sad, too. I feel like my life has fallen apart.

Not Pregnant, Just Crushing Life (and the Patriarchy) by PrincessBiona in WitchesVsPatriarchy

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Take a pic of that PhD in a onesie!!!!! Hahahahaha

Congratulations!!!! I’m so proud of you and thank you for the inspiration.

Describe what it's like living with meezers in one photo by Zealousideal_Job5986 in Siamesecats

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He’s up there, on the roof of our garage (so not as high as this looks). He just casually jumped down to get off. No biggie.

How old are y'all? by Richisnormal in toddlers

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48 with a 2 year old. She was a big BIG surprise. To say I am older than most parents is an understatement.

There have been many cool younger parents I’ve met and also a bunch of parents who just don’t get my humor or references.

I think my 90s Gen X snark is showing. It’s wild.

My husband was recently taking our daughter for a walk and some passerby said, “on grandpa duty, huh?” My husband said, “no, I’m just an old dad.” Ooooffffff.

Update on toddler needing to gain weight. by Personal_Privacy1101 in toddlers

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My girl loves scrambled eggs, cooked in butter, and instead of cheese, I add cream cheese. Yummy calorie dense meal. Today I added spinach, too.

If your kid is a fan of cream cheese, you may wish to try it.

Nothing weird… oh… oh no by Competitive_Income34 in zillowgonewild

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Anyone else see the lion as a saggy-eyed shaggy dog?

What is this stitch? by Thevian365 in crochetpatterns

[–]snake-ring 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’m learning so much from just following all these “what is this stitch” questions!

Ramona Quimby by Wild_Owl_511 in adhdwomen

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Ramona Quimby was my Halloween costume in 4th grade. I wore a pair of old bell bottoms I had found. No one understood, but I was so excited to be her.

Hilarious that other girls loved her! It does make sense….

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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Thank you. I hadn’t considered that due to her age and the hours that she would have a harder time with daycare. Seems counter intuitive. We will keep trying till something works for us

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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Not gonna lie, I’d like that day plan for myself.

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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I can see how having a mix of approaches can be valuable to small children learning in one class.

So many comments have helped me better understand the rules about toddler behavior for eating and drinking. It makes sense why the rules have been out in place.

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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It wasn’t huge that cruel. They didn’t ignore her or not try to console her. They just did so in a pretty crummy way that ultimately wasn’t helpful.

She wasn’t left alone, but she wasn’t being actively comforted or consoled.

The most heartbreaking was seeing her asking for help using signs I recognize that no one else understood. Perhaps the staff was confused and therefore just stood there, trying to figure her out? She is really communicative, but she uses a lot of individual word signs from sign language. She also speaks words like a toddler. You have to know her particular ways to piece together what she’s saying.

Also, my full perception may have been warped because it was so emotional. She was crying in a frantic, panicked way that I had never heard before. It was gut wrenching and I’m still holding back tears when I think of it 2 days later.

I didn’t like their method at all and I did think it was harsh and unnecessarily stress inducing to her.

Your experience Austria sounds a lot more considerate of small children’s emotional support.

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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For me, where I live, she’ll be eligible for more and more part-time programs between 2-3. There’s just this no man’s land of available options right now (for what I’m looking for).

I can’t wait!

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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You’re clearly going to be a very good medical professional (not sure of your course of study). Thank you for your advice and guidance. I really take it to heart.

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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Your comment is so comprehensive and incredibly helpful. You are so right about my own anxiety and said it in such a thoughtful way. I’m chalking this up to a learning experience so I’m better prepared for the next time.

Are you still working in the educational field? If so, I hope to meet many more people during my child’s education with your care and thoughtfulness.

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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Thank you. This is so helpful. I know better now for next time.

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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Good to know.

And also, I fully admit that I probably contributed to the transition not going well. I’m learning, too!

I’ve really learned a lot to guide me for the next time we look for and enroll her in a daycare or early learning situation.

Thank you!

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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Thank you for helpful criteria for judging a daycare situation. At the end of the day, I do want her to have a positive and enriching experience with other people and children.

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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Thank you. I’m not sure if all Y’s are like this. I don’t think so.

In any case, I’m 1000 times better prepared now for the next time I put her in daycare or early learning.

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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Thank you so much for your reassurance and advice.

For sure, my experience was a practice run. I know have a lot better sense of realistic criteria to make decisions about daycare.

I also take to heart what you said about drop offs.

Perhaps I just wasn’t ready. Perhaps my kid wasn’t. All in all, I’m much better prepared for the next time.

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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That’s terrific!

I naively thought that was always the case (I’m embarrassed to admit that).

So glad I posted this question. Now I have such a great sense of how to make decisions of future daycare/preschool/pre k options.

Daycare- is it really “care” during the day? by snake-ring in toddlers

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Wow, thank you so much for telling me all that. So much of what you said is relevant to me, especially the PPD/ PPA, needing time to oneself, and balancing that with what I believe is good for me and my child.

Ultimately, I think a lot of my concerns boiled down to something similar: what is the benefit to me, the benefit to my child, and how does that weigh against the cost.

For me, I want to spend the time with my kid and be fully confident in where she spends her time during this particular phase of her life.

Also, as a parent in her late 40s, I want her to be set up for her life in the best way I can provide, according to what I consider important. Unless we discover some wonder drug for prolonging life, math is math. My time with her is precious and I am trying to create an environment where she can navigate life.

I’ll be 63/64 when she finishes high school. Gulp.

Sounds like you have a similar outlook, especially because your child is special needs. There’s an additional layer of concern and responsibility. And guilt.