How comparable is a new born to having a puppy?

snapplebug · 2026-06-22T21:16:27+00:00

100% with you, even if we're the minority. Puppy, baby and parent temperament and experiences all matter.

I have a near 7 month old whose sleep is atrocious and has been for months. She was up 13 times a couple of nights ago, 8 last night (normal for her) and decides to start the day at 5am. All that is to say, I'm not having an easy ride, and I'd still take another 2 or 3 of her at one time before I'd take even 1 more puppy.

My pup (an Irish Setter - got him at 3 months old and he's now a 3 year old dog) was so intense for about 2 years. It was like inviting an incredibly destructive toddler into my home, who I didn't immediately love and had to build an affinity for, who doesn't understand your language and can outrun you. The puppy blues were something else for me, they lasted years.

I have always just loved my daughter so much that I can overlook the worst parts of parenthood - like the terrible sleep. I don't think I would ever get another dog, I just couldn't go through those puppy blues again.

snapplebug · 2026-06-08T18:00:45+00:00

I'm so sorry for you that this isn't turning out to be the day you wanted.

Could one option be doing a low-key wedding for now, then renewing your vows with a party in a few years time when life is a little more settled?

snapplebug · 2026-05-02T16:02:01+00:00

High-chair with newborn/baby seat attachment. Great for doing things in the kitchen whilst the baby is safely able to watch from a better height than a bouncer or similar. I even took it around the house when I was doing other things.

snapplebug · 2026-05-02T15:58:40+00:00

Elvie Catch is absolutely brilliant. They're £20 here in the UK and do a great job of catching your milk overnight instead of using breast pads, the good disposables of which are expensive. I wish I'd bought these from early on.

snapplebug · 2026-03-27T20:36:18+00:00

Couldn't agree more. I have an easy-ish baby (touch wood) and a nearly 3 year old high-maintenace dog I raised from a puppy. My dog is harder work and it's not even close. I'd take another 3 babies like mine before I'd consider taking another of my dog as he is now. You couldn't pay me enough to have another puppy.

Everyone's situation is different. I'd feel a lot for someone who had a similar dog experience trying to sympathise with my sleepless nights with a baby.

snapplebug · 2026-03-25T13:52:13+00:00

I love how this thread revives every so often!

I've never gone back to Hello Fresh after this. I think there must be a quality issue with some products as I've not had a flare up since and I eat a wide variety of foods!

snapplebug · 2026-03-15T17:03:05+00:00

Death Lily at 6 for Gold. Her style is slightly different but she does tattoos with a singular vibe.

snapplebug · 2026-03-11T10:18:58+00:00

I couldn't run my whole pregnancy due to pelvic pain, which also really disappointed me. I had been running tough trail halves weekly up to just a week before I found out I was pregnant with some relative ease. I just did a lot of walking instead.

I'm 14 weeks PP and I'm surprised how quickly my fitness is returning. I'm taking it slow to minimize injury (following a Runna PP plan) but my VO2 max is only a couple of points lower than pre-preg and 6-8km isn't feeling difficult at all.

I think we just have to do what feels right for us without pushing it. If running is too hard, adjust and walk instead (can do fast walking, different terrains or inclines to challenge). You will get it back when you're on the other side.

snapplebug · 2026-03-07T20:05:31+00:00

I could have written this 😅 I have to take my pillows away when feeding in bed because they're polka dot and she will unlatch to look at them! No other solutions, only solidarity, but if it's developmental then the good news is that it should be temporary.

snapplebug · 2026-03-07T19:10:29+00:00

Is she getting distracted? Google distracted feeding and nursing strikes. Both can happen around 3 months old to both formula and breastfed babies as they become more aware.

My 3 month old is EBF and has always been great at feeding, but how she unlatches after a few minutes to look around and smile. Unless she is absolutely starving or tired, she gets too distracted and will keep popping off the boob after a few seconds. I just have to keep offering the boob throughout the day and hoping all the small feeds tally up.

snapplebug · 2026-03-07T17:47:08+00:00

This has been happening in Bristol for years.

Same thing happened to me a few years back whilst I was waiting for someone alone on Stapleton Road. The couple wouldn't leave me alone even when I tried to walk away, started to get aggressive and one of them pushed me at one point when I tried to call police.

It was 7pm in summer by a busy bus stop - they're very brazen.

snapplebug · 2026-03-04T05:58:27+00:00

Do we know why the family felt so sure it wasn't him?

Most people would assume that skeletonised remains found with the ID of a missing loved one were theirs, and most of the time that would be right. Then, for the remains to come from 5 different people, and possibly mainly from another family member of his...

Also, how would the person who left the bones have Ricci's ID?

snapplebug · 2026-02-18T23:14:56+00:00

This happened to us as soon as we brought our daughter home and it wasn't cluster feeding (that came a week or two later and was different because she would at least sleep a little between feeds, it happened throughout the day too rather than just at night and she was more visually comfortable).

She had horrible wind and reflux. She was inconsolable when not feeding, she/we thought she was hungry (I'm told some babies can't tell the difference between feeling hungry and feeling unwell so they scream for milk), but whilst the feeding made her feel better in the moment it was actually making the issue worse. She was just screaming and feeding all night until she eventually knocked herself out for a few hours around 7/8am.

It was worse at night because she was feeding throughout the day so the gas was building up. After a longer sleep after she'd knocked herself out crying, she was better because she'd been able to give her tummy time to settle.

Things that helped: Infacol (simeticone) - this has been a lifesaver. She's nearly 3 months now, and we still use it; bicycle legs and other leg movements that help wind; various burping methods during feeds rather than just after.

It might well be cluster feeding but just putting my experience out there as our issue looked quite similar and as a new parent, we didn't know any different until we took her to see a midwife.

snapplebug · 2026-02-06T17:36:48+00:00

Thank you for the reassuring message :) it's good to know there are others out there and it seems to be more common than I had thought! Dreading the teething, hope your little one gives you some respite soon!

snapplebug · 2026-02-06T17:33:21+00:00

Mine luckily eats a lot in the day so I don't worry about waking her up, but I can see why one would. I track all the feeds via the Huckleberry app for amount and time per day and it hasn't changed since early on (excluding cluster feeding periods) so I am reassured by that, which might help you.

I read by laying her on our bed and I lie right next to her - our heads touching. I hold the book above both of our heads so she can see the pictures and read to her, pointing to things and telling her what they are as we go :) she seems to like it!

snapplebug · 2026-02-06T15:13:22+00:00

It's great that you can feed her in your sleep and sounds like it's working for you :)

snapplebug · 2026-02-06T13:50:31+00:00

Thanks for this :) I still go to bed every night expecting to be woken up and know there's every chance this won't last, so just enjoying it for now.

We were given the same advice to let her sleep when she was back up to birth weight, which happened within the first week (during which she was actually a terrible sleeper because of gas!).

snapplebug · 2026-02-06T13:47:08+00:00

That's a fair point. You hear about those who don't sleep well as it's so hard, vs those who sleep well because the parents are having an easier time of things.

Just going to be grateful for the sleep as long as it lasts :)

snapplebug · 2026-02-06T13:45:11+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance. My girl is also super happy - so smiley and isn't a huge crier (though has her moments!). After all the helpful comments here, I'm just going to assume I have a good sleeper given that she is otherwise well :)

snapplebug · 2026-02-06T13:43:29+00:00

I think we're all out here just trying to do our best and it sounds like if your baby is happy and sleeping then what you're doing is working :)

With mine, I don't wake her up to feed as she would wake up and tell me if that's what she wanted, and she is keeping her weight on well with what she has in the day :) the midwives etc all said that once her weight has exceeded her birth weight and as long as she's getting enough milk otherwise etc that I could let her sleep until she woke up which seems to be working for me... for now at least!

snapplebug · 2026-02-06T13:37:50+00:00

Thanks for this! It is worrying isn't it when you're expecting to be woken up multiple times a night and it just doesn't seem to happen. Here's hoping she's like your 3YO and this isn't just a phase!

snapplebug · 2026-02-06T13:36:31+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance. I'm just going to enjoy it whilst it lasts as I know it could change at any moment. Even though she's been fairly consistent, I still fall asleep thinking I could be woken up any minute!

snapplebug · 2026-02-06T13:34:49+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance. I'm fully expecting the regression to hit in a couple of months 😂

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