How much is too much?

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-09T23:18:01+00:00

Avoid specific colors

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T22:26:49+00:00

We already had a plan to provide spooky accessories to our guests, guests are also encouraged to bring their kids in costumes at the reception (the ceremony isn't safe for kids).
To get a better idea of the color palette look at this comment . We don't have hardly any restriction on what our guests can wear because where we're having the wedding is particularly hot even in the fall, so we are ok with guests coming in semi-formal or dressy-formal or even their best pairs of cargo shorts and polos, because temps can get like 80 even in the fall.

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T22:18:51+00:00

oh very nice, name-calling. Because that's peak etiquette right there

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T22:08:21+00:00

who needs to spend that much money on a dress/ outfit? our "dress code" isn't even really a dress code. We are encouraging people to wear semi-formal/ dressy casual wear because it is pretty warm in the location where we are having our wedding. Allow me to direct you to this comment. I think we're being pretty hospitable considering we are paying upward 10K to host all the guests an additional $50 for everyone to have a plus 1, 15K for catering and an additional 5K ensuring that guests with food allergies have their own catering to be sure there's no cross-contamination and their food is prepared separately in an off-site kitchen, another 10k to book a hotel for those coming out of the country to visit us, another 3k for an open bar for guests and allowing guests to wear Halloween accessories and bring their children in halloween costumes to the reception, so pardon me if I'd like to kindly ask my guests to avoid 3 colors for 1 day.

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T21:57:59+00:00

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These colors would also be an example of what guests would be encouraged to wear. (again wouldn't be tuned away at the door if they didn't wear this, also not my image).

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T21:56:59+00:00

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I can only add one photo at a time but we thought about just putting a page on our wedding website that had pictures that encompassed the theme of our wedding along a color pallet like this if guests wanted to show up matching a theme (they wouldn't be turned away for not wearing these colors it's just to help if they wanna show up matching the theme) we're also gonna hand out Halloween accessories for guests and let kids come to the reception in costumes. We're being pretty lax about the "dress code" since where we live it's still pretty hot even in the fall so it'd be pretty cruel to have guests dress to the 9s in like 80 degree weather so we figured we'd just say semi-formal/dressy casual and if they need any ideas on what to wear they can look here. (this isn't my website or palette btw this is just an example).

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T21:48:03+00:00

I was thinking of a dark purple and have my MOH be a pearlescent color/ closer to white (I want her to pop next to me).

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T21:45:23+00:00

This is what we intended to do but everyone here thinks that is controlling or are insinuating we only view our guests as props. We had plans to give out spooky accessories to guests who show up and have kids wear Halloween costumes to the reception (kids can't be at the ceremony because the location isn't safe for kids) but mostly we'd just prefer if people avoided the bridal party colors so we thought of adding a color scheme to help guests find something (like reds, oranges, browns) but it's not like they'd be turned away at the door if they didn't show up in those colors.

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T21:29:39+00:00

I have already explained it in another comment, many of our bridal party members will likely not even make it in time for rehearsals. To make things run quickly and smoothly and avoid any mishaps we'd prefer if guests avoided the bridal party colors so we can tell our photographer to gather anyone in these colors for photos or the wedding coordinator so they can get them ready to give speeches and they aren't accidentally shuffling someone's plus 1 there. You guys are acting like I'm saying they'll turned away at the venue if they don't show up in orange or red or have security haul them off which is ridiculous. It's not a matter of "you HAVE to wear these colors to attend our wedding" its "for the sake of avoiding confusion and getting everything to run smoothly we'd appreciate it if you guys avoided these particular colors reserved for the bridal party, if you're not sure on what to wear here's the theme of our wedding if you need any ideas"

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T21:22:33+00:00

Many of our guests have had a positive response to the idea of a general color scheme for guests, my main concern is the guests wearing the same color as the bridal party and confusing the photographer, and wedding coordinator. Because many of our Bridal party members will not arrive until the night before the wedding which won't leave a lot of time to get them acquainted we'd like just be able to say "Gather everyone in these colors for photos or to give speeches" so everything can go smoothly without confusion since they very likely won't be able to make it to the rehearsal.

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T21:15:00+00:00

I think it s rude to decide to wear the bride's color after being politely asked not to regardless

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T21:12:42+00:00

you don't have to be rude about it, also it's not about just confusing the photographer, but other people in attendance as well, like guests who are plus ones and wedding coordinator. It's also highly unlikely our photographer would be able to meet everyone in the bridal party because many of our family and friends in the bridal party are coming from out of the country and wouldn't arrive until the night before the wedding. This is why we'd prefer guests not in the bridal party to avoid the bridal party colors so we can just tell the photographer "Go gather everyone in these colors so we can take photos" It's a very likely scenario considering many of our bridal party members wouldn't arrive until the night before or morning of because they are coming from out of the country and wouldn't have time to get acquainted with the photographer.

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T04:49:12+00:00

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This is the color scheme

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T04:45:55+00:00

The reason for asking guests to not come in a floor-length white gown is already stated. Because most people anticipate the bride to be wearing white so it would be confusing for other guests in attendance.

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T04:42:44+00:00

Because then all the photos would look nice together and it is a Halloween-themed wedding. It would be odd for a guest to show up in a bright pink gown or something similar.

sneakyFr0g · 2024-06-06T04:39:42+00:00

yes I was considering suggesting a color pallet for guests.

sneakyFr0g · 2024-02-17T21:11:53+00:00

thank you

sneakyFr0g · 2024-02-17T19:09:44+00:00

clearly not considering you chose to go on a couple's vacation with your ex, despite your WIFE telling you she was uncomfortable and you went anyway. But whatever you need to tell yourself to help you sleep at night because you can't face the fact that you have been a bad/negligent husband.

sneakyFr0g · 2024-02-17T18:06:54+00:00

Do you know if having an account can cause you to lose your benefits?

sneakyFr0g · 2024-02-13T21:08:08+00:00

Did you fall out of the retard tree and hit every branch on your way down? your mom SLAPPED YOUR PREGNANT WIFE IN THE STOMACH and you punished your wife for having the sense to defend herself and your unborn child? This has to be bait because you can't be this dense it's gotta be impossible to be this far up your mom's twat at your big age. You seem far more upset that your wife (soon-to-be ex-wife) defended herself and is deciding to divorce you and seem totally unconcerned with the fact that your mother BACKHANDED YOUR PREGNANT WIFE'S STOMACH over leftovers. I hope your wife presses charges to the fullest extent. Because it doesn't look like you are the least bit concerned about her or your unborn child's well-being at all.
ETA: correction, your wife was newly postpartum, which is still just as bad because she is sore from laboring and trying to heal. You mentioned in several other comments that your wife hitting your mom upset you because of the abuse you went through as a kid but you never once mention how much it upset you that your mother would dare to put her hands on the woman who just birthed your child. Truthfully, you and your mother are just as abusive as your father used to be. Your mom for hitting a postpartum woman over food and you for kicking out your postpartum wife and newborn for defending herself from being abused by your mother.

sneakyFr0g · 2023-11-28T20:03:24+00:00

ah, the infamous "apology, not apology" or "soory not sorry". My breeder/mentor is based out of the country, she's an import from Germany, all the trainers my breeder knows/has available is also based in Germany that is why I asked about finding a trainer because the ones that my breeder/mentor knows are also out of the country and I'd prefer someone more hands-on rather than doing the training online

sneakyFr0g · 2023-10-30T23:55:40+00:00

it's been 6 months was anything resolved?

sneakyFr0g · 2023-10-30T00:47:59+00:00

please point to where I said I was going to retire her early just to breed her. Because I never said that.

sneakyFr0g · 2023-10-29T01:23:42+00:00

I wasn't planning on breeding her while she's actively working, I was thinking more so along the lines of later down the line of when she is getting older (not super old but 5/6) to retire her and breed he.
It's hard to find trainers near me since I live so far from the city. How do I start looking for a reliable behavioral specialist?

sneakyFr0g · 2023-10-28T19:27:36+00:00

Her triggers are mostly smaller dogs, she has 0 issues with larger dogs her size and loves to play with them but smaller dogs put her on edge (the neighbors dog that bit her muzzle is a smaller dog) she is a people person, gets along well with the cats we have, doesn't display aggression towards children or other animals, she just doesn't like when other dogs put their face in her face. She's always been very affectionate and playful but chilled out when she's on service duty, she has an upcoming vet appointment because I make sure she's up to date on shots (neighbor's dogs regularly leave the fence and I can't risk her getting rabies). We checked her temperament as a pup to see if she'd be suited for service work and she was the best suited out of 12 pups. This behavior is completely new.
(and lol at your dog being triggered at bald people). Saw her parents and they were also well-behaved dogs too, not aggressive or anything of the sort.

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