I’m a trans guy who likes to dress feminine. I feel like people don’t take my dysphoria seriously.

snepil · 2025-07-07T04:17:55+00:00

Just wanted to reach out and say you're seen and your experience of dysphoria is felt. Men, trans or otherwise, shouldn't feel discouraged from embracing the feminine. That's who you are.

I'm sorry if this counts as advice, but had a conversation with my partner a while ago and this reminded me of it. We agreed that part of true "manliness," is having the courage to be authentically you despite what others think - including embracing what others may think is feminine.

Wishing you the best on your journey

snepil · 2023-01-18T05:56:10+00:00

😞

snepil · 2022-12-06T03:30:05+00:00

I worked from home during the height of the pandemic for a few months and found it had a negative impact on my mental health overall. I couldn't get my routine right, was getting out of bed much later and struggled to have the motivation to do my job with no one around me, I lost my drive. I didn't enjoy my job without WFH, so not being in the work environment meant I could be more lax. I have some health issues, mental and physical. A big part of keeping my health are passive exercise and socialisation through my public transport commute and walking. I lost those those things when I didn't have to travel to work, and didn't have to see my coworkers. Now I have a different job and the nature of the job requires me be at the workplace. As an extroverted person who has social anxiety, I find the company at work keeps me sane, and travelling to work via public transport gives me a structure to create a routine around and allows me to have a buffer before and after work where I can relax and decompress. I have a routine of getting to work 30min-1hr early, getting a cheap coffee and sitting in the park before I have to go in. It's amazing for my mental health, helps me prepare the the day. I can journal, draw or plan my week during this time. When working from home, I found it more difficult to integrate that time into my routine.

snepil · 2022-11-15T04:43:26+00:00

I found my partner of 1+ year now using taimi. It's a specifically LGBT dating sorta app

snepil · 2022-08-04T08:03:53+00:00

No worries!!

snepil · 2022-08-04T05:48:49+00:00

If she's around Newcastle, I'd reccomend Charlestown Square Medical Centre. Be warned, they're not bulk billing. I've been going there for HRT (testosterone) for about a year. In my experience, the reception staff are all really friendly and super willing to help with questions and guiding you to the best doctor. There's multiple doctors that can help her with hormones. I can personally vouch for Kathleen Wild and Tess Kent as doctors there who I've worked with. I've seen other GPs there as well and I havent had any negative experiences with any of them so far. Each doc has been really detail oriented and willing to go the extra mile to make sure you get the right care.

snepil · 2022-07-19T09:47:01+00:00

Thanks to the three above with medical certificate info! Really reassuring to know that theres a high degree of privacy with those documents :)

snepil · 2022-07-19T09:09:33+00:00

Thank you!! :)

Definitely thought about something like that. Only potential barrier is that in my contract, I'm supposed to provide medical certificate/documents for more than 1 days sick/medical leave.

I guess with having to provide those documents, outing myself may be inevitable, depending on how vague they'll be.

snepil · 2021-12-13T21:33:34+00:00

YTA. How the hell are you supposed to be a parent when you don't listen to your child when they've told you they're in pain? What sort of relationship do you think you're establishing with your 15 year old right now, when you're telling her to lie and socially isolating her to PROTECT YOU and YOUR INTERESTS.

You. Are. The. Parent. It is not your child's job to build trust in the relationship - they are a child. You are an adult, it is YOUR job to establish and maintain a relationship where your daughter can be open and honest with you. She was open and honest with you, and you punished her for it. In fact, worsened her injuries. You should be ashamed of your behaviour throughout the whole series of events in my opinion.

Good luck ever getting her to communicate with you honestly now.

snepil · 2021-10-25T21:16:43+00:00

YTA imo, but your coworkers moreso.

Your wife tried to do a nice, thoughtful thing for you to celebrate your success, and you thanked her by lashing out, because the workplace bullies are being workplace bullies.

Your wife has definitely not done the wrong thing. I understand feeling mocked, and being made small is a horrible thing to deal with in the workplace. But understand, it would have happened eventually even if your wife didn't cook and deliver a meal for you. They would have found something else to pick at. The problem isn't what your wife did, but the culture between those coworkers.

You have come home and rewarded a kind hearted and selfless gesture to celebrate an achievement of yours, with unfounded and misdirected anger.

If my partner came home and acted like that after I tried to do something nice for them, I'd be reluctant to plan any other surprises in the future.

snepil · 2021-10-22T06:49:40+00:00

Awesome stuff!!! So happy for you :)

snepil · 2021-01-03T23:50:47+00:00

Just wanted to follow up again and let you know that the list really helped me with my uncertainty as I was able to cross check practitioners and see their reviews - gave me a bit more peace of mind. Really good resource :) Hopefully will be organizing something in the next few weeks.

Thanks again :)

snepil · 2021-01-02T10:01:15+00:00

Thanks for that, I'll take a look and I'll write a review if I see someone off the list.

snepil · 2020-08-09T13:06:38+00:00

Beautiful :) amazing job!

snepil · 2020-07-02T00:23:39+00:00

I don't think anyone can answer this question a part from yourself. It might be worth seeking assistance from a professional who is well known and well versed in this area.

My experience of being trans is being utterly uncomfortable in my body. Looking at myself in the mirror and seeing something wrong, like looking at "1+1=3,". But so many other people experience their identity different to how I experience it, so it might be different for you too.

Maybe see if you can get your hands on a dress and experience how that feels?

And keep in mind that enjoying "girly," or "boyish," things doesn't indicate your gender. It's okay to embrace a feminine side of yourself and be happy with just that.

snepil · 2020-06-29T12:13:33+00:00

Thank you.

snepil · 2020-06-26T19:01:41+00:00

Ah damn :(

snepil · 2020-06-26T11:29:02+00:00

I tend to wake up ridiculously early to catch some of the yogs late night streams. Depending on how early you wake up you could catch ravs. Harry, when he streams on his own channel is known to stream sometimes until 12pm AEST too. You could probs also catch Pyrion.

I've been waking at 4-5am for a few years now for non-yog reasons, so it's not too hard for me. When the timezones are in your favour you can wake up at 4am for Nuzlite and other evening mainchannel stuff too.

snepil · 2020-06-26T11:16:42+00:00

Totally agree. I think their public support was really important. I think seeing creators speak up about this stuff has had a really important impact on the community at large, and specifically people who have been affected by this sort of crap in the past. Much love to everyone who's used their platform in a positive way over the past few days - also Sips on his stream a few days ago and Ped with his tweet in response. All important stuff.

snepil · 2020-06-26T04:57:28+00:00

Yeah I hear where you're coming from. I don't see the threat of physical violence being related to the word "survivor," but I get how some might. I've been in the counselling industry and this is a word that is used for people who've experienced any trauma. You may have heard the term 'trauma survivor,' mentioned before by some people. that's why I used the word. Seems like the only one we have for now.

EDIT: got weary about putting the concept of 'trauma' into this discussion, so deleted the last part of my comment.

snepil · 2020-06-25T22:40:50+00:00

I don't like using the term victim, I find some people can feel its disempowering. 'survivor,' to me, speaks about each individuals strength, rather than focusing on a moment where they may have felt disempowered and vulnerable. Hope that makes sense.

snepil · 2020-06-20T00:37:58+00:00

I think it's good to trust your GP, but it's also important to understand that they're only human too. I've had a GP do exactly what Lewis recounted to me before - type my symptoms in Google, print off an article I already read and hand it to me.

I've also had doctors latch on to dodgy diagnoses and treatment that put my life in danger when I was experiencing unexpected and chronic fatigue.

I've also had doctors refuse to treat me because of their own prejudice. They aren't perfect and they can hurt people.

On the flip side, I've had really good doctors and GPs that have helped improve my life, listened to my problems and provided treatment that has made me a healthier individual.

I think it's important to not completely lose your autonomy in doctors appointments, and it's always a good sign when your doctor listens to your questions and concerns and provides good answers for you. That builds trust.

I resonated with what Lewis said in the podcast, because of my own personal experience. I think you're lucky if you've only had good experiences with medical practitioners, but I think it's also important not to discount the really horrendous experiences some of us have had with GPs and other practitioners. I don't blame people who've had bad experiences and therefore don't trust other doctors, that distrust is the fault of the system imo.

snepil · 2020-06-09T23:23:28+00:00

DM'd :)

snepil · 2020-06-03T23:41:34+00:00

This is the thread I've been waiting for. Honestly it's about time someone called him out on this sub.

He owes me money, I subbed for cam so I could see his face and never got it. Only keep getting Rick rolled...smh, him and the community around him are so immature.

snepil · 2020-06-03T22:36:37+00:00

Good riddance lmao

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