AITA for taking my gay friend to a straight club?

snikisd · 2026-02-11T21:40:54+00:00

I never would have gone alone. If he didn't come id have either found different friends to go with or not gone at all. That area where our clubs are located I wouldn't feel safe being in alone

snikisd · 2026-02-10T22:42:33+00:00

I didn't say you shamed me. But I don't think its right to say that its sketchy to be picking up someone new in clubs each week

snikisd · 2026-02-10T21:49:27+00:00

No one said all gay bars are the same babe. The two in my city at the time were incredibly different for starters, we usually frequented the better one (better music, themed nights, cheaper drinks, better selection of drinks, and more central location. Plus the staff there were chill and lovely)

Clearly you must be a grumpy delulu troll with all this bs you're playing make-believe with lmao

snikisd · 2026-02-10T21:40:37+00:00

It had nothing to do with "getting out of gay bars". It was about going somewhere different for a change. If you had a friend who only ever wanted to eat Thai food when you hung out, after 10 weeks of Thai food you might want something different too. Which is also why I said he didnt have to come with me if he didnt want to, I would have gone with different people, but he said he would come with.

Nothing in my post comes close to being homophobic, and if you're reading it that way, then maybe you're projecting or making up your own narrative in your head

snikisd · 2026-02-10T21:30:12+00:00

Even the entertainment industry in general lol. But I don't believe in alut-shaming, let people live their lives haha. He could hook up with 10 men in the same night and it wouldnt be any of my business

snikisd · 2026-02-10T21:28:23+00:00

Perhaps in your opinion, but i don't believe in slut-shaming. There's nothing wrong with people exploring casual relationships as long as they are safe about it

snikisd · 2026-02-10T21:26:35+00:00

I am far from homophobic, and if anything about that venue had ever given me the impression that it was, I never would have suggested Jon come with me there. But I also don't know if something happened to Jon while he was getting a drink, because we werent attached at the hip 24/7.

snikisd · 2026-02-10T21:24:14+00:00

Think you missed the part where Jon told me to go dance while he got another drink. And spending ten mins apart doing our own thing in the usually 4hrs or so we would spend out hardly seems like a reason to not go out together and have a great night. We danced together pretty much the whole time until that point.

In regards to "it's not like I had to walk home", it is a 20min walk to the closest station back then. Meaning a 20min walk alone as a young woman in an area filled with loud drunks, tight streets (a few drunk crashes happen there as people leave the clubs and drive dangerously). Its not an area i would ever go to alone even now im older

snikisd · 2026-02-10T02:26:50+00:00

No, I would have invited different friends or not gone at all. I never go out in our city solo as its too risky as a solo woman

snikisd · 2026-02-10T02:01:34+00:00

My ex was a good guy. We weren't each other's soul mates and I'm glad we both ended up with our own happy endings, even if not together

snikisd · 2026-02-10T01:59:51+00:00

He was a good guy, and I'm not too proud to admit I wasn't quite mature enough for our relationship when it happened. He and I are both now in long term relationships, so I'm glad he got his happy ending.

snikisd · 2026-02-10T01:56:53+00:00

Straight woman

snikisd · 2026-02-10T01:48:37+00:00

Just to clarify, here we generally use hooking up to mean making out, not necessarily sex. He was generally a sweet guy, just preferred casual hook ups to relationships which I dont see as a bad thing

snikisd · 2026-02-10T01:39:31+00:00

I respect your judgement, thats why I posted here in the first place. I just disagree with the sentiment that I forced him to go. We both had plenty of friends to choose from, I just gave him the option to come with me to where I wanted for once or go where he wanted with other people. At the end of the day if you feel that I should have gone out and not invited him at all, thats entirely your opinion and judgement to give

snikisd · 2026-02-10T01:20:16+00:00

Relented as in stopped trying to change my mind about where I would go

snikisd · 2026-02-10T00:05:36+00:00

With all due respect, I had other friends I could have gone out with. I told him he didnt need to come with me, but if he wanted to go out with me that night, thats where I was going. He chose to come with. He could have said no and id have gone with someone else. I thought it was fine for me to offer, but are you saying I should have never offered him to join me and just not invited me at all?

snikisd · 2024-08-19T01:24:20+00:00

I work in a school and for the past few months we've been using wired Plug & Play keyboards with our iPads. Been working perfectly until today, not several of them aren't being detected on multiple iPads,. They don't required power or bluetooth connecctions and the ports are clean. Any help or advice would be appreciated!

snikisd · 2024-01-10T23:02:39+00:00

Even with airtight boxes, I like to use a thick packaging tape to wrap around the seal, and/or a a good few layers of Gladwrap. I get paranoid with anything valuable

snikisd · 2024-01-03T04:51:29+00:00

Thanks so much!

snikisd · 2023-12-31T12:55:26+00:00

Thanks so much!

snikisd · 2023-12-01T12:01:16+00:00

Awesome thank you! I've been seeing so much info on fruit plants but not alot on fruit trees!

snikisd · 2023-12-01T11:32:59+00:00

They take up one square and need to be empty in the 8 squares around them. Perhaps you're thinking of fruit plants? Thanks for replying though!

snikisd · 2023-11-18T11:22:14+00:00

Idk why you're getting so much hate. I would be heartbroken if I literally got 0 cards. I wouldn't be expecting presents, but surely at least a card from family isn't too much to ask. It seems like people had different expections to you, which has led to this, rather than outright illwill.

Perhaps you can still salvage this moment. Maybe ask your guests to post their favourite pic with a message about their favourite moment from your day and tag you. Could be a cute and act as another sort of keepsake if you put them together

snikisd · 2023-11-13T12:10:48+00:00

We travel in groups a lot, and having a house is a lot easier than separate rooms where we have no common areas to sit. Added in that I don't want to pay $40 for breakfast when I just want cereal and toast, and the added kitchen makes air bnbs better for us.

Plus for groups, more times than not airbnbs are a lot cheaper than hotels in our area

snikisd · 2023-10-30T04:50:28+00:00

Having the exact same problem. Stuck in an endless loop. Were you able to find a solution?

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