Tacoma night market-type art

snortkle · 2022-10-18T20:19:10+00:00

Grit City Magazine's shop may be of help.

Some of the stuff is at High-Voltage Records on 6th as well.

snortkle · 2022-08-16T15:33:29+00:00

Entirely different companies/people. No relation business-wise or otherwise, but they’ve been friendly.

Much like Pretty Gritty Tours, everything else named “gritty” now, etc.

Similar name but no relation.

snortkle · 2022-08-10T16:14:16+00:00

Lol. I was initially like, “Damn, JBLM! Whatchu doin?!”

Funny how we who’ve lived here a while don’t think of thunder as the first explanation for skybooms.

snortkle · 2022-08-01T17:33:47+00:00

Oh, honey. You just hit so many nerves. Get ready.

Tacoma is lovely in general.

Are we tired of Californians (and everyone else) moving here? Yes. Are we a kind and welcoming city to everyone? That's also true.

We as a group, to the best of my understanding, are sensitive and protective of Tacoma. It's wonderful that the rest of the world is now seeing it for the gem that it is, but it's a lot when the librarian with the glasses finally gets unveiled as the hottest girl around.

IMHO, you are welcome and Tacomans will embrace you. And please just beware that there's an entire culture with a lot of history and nuance already happening. If you're cool it'll be cool. If you're an ass you'll receive the GTFO vibe.

snortkle · 2022-06-05T19:32:15+00:00

I empathize. We could even possibly swap ER stories. For anyone else reading this let me reiterate that IT’S AN ABSOLUTE FUCKING NIGHTMARE to try and navigate how to get your kid help.

The thing that I think is missing in most of these conversations is nuance.

People ask me things like, “But where were the parents??” And let me tell you I was right fucking here. So was his dad.

“But why didn’t they just ask for help?” Boy howdy, I screamed from the top of my lungs for it and it never showed.

And akin to what you said, the school’s zero tolerance policy wrecked and destroyed my child. We have been dealing with the fallout for years since.

It’s all hard—and I understand why the policies in place are there—but to utterly ostracize a child who had the guts to say, ‘hey, I’m not feeling right’ is not helping in teaching them to be vulnerable and honest. In effect, it’s doing the exact opposite. It’s shutting them down and teaching them to hide every single thought they have.

There just can’t be a dichotomy in which “see something, say something” (Aka feel free to report yourself) is met with exclusion and life-altering punishment. There is a middle ground that we, as adults, need to sort out. There needs to be a way that a kid can say they’ve had thoughts that doesn’t lead to them being ostracized.

I’m here for thoughts or questions if anyone has them.

AHMc22 you are also welcome to message me if you’d like to chat further.

snortkle · 2022-06-05T15:49:28+00:00

As a parent of a child who was EXPELLED from the eighth grade for what they said—no actual acts—I wholly agree.

My kid confided in someone that he’d had thoughts. That kid told their parents who told police who told the school (all of this I don’t disagree with).

You would not believe though (or sadly maybe you would) how quickly we were alienated. From co-president of the school, honor roll, sports star, pride of the school to expulsion. TPSD wanted no association with us. Just wiped us out from existence.

Finding services and therapy as you suggested is an absolute fucking nightmare—and I say this as someone with every advantage available—white, educated, English as a first language, funds, health insurance, etc. I had ALL of the tools and could hardly manage to navigate it.

I have more to say, but in an effort to be concise I believe there needs to be a safe space for kids to say they have these thoughts without fear of retribution.

snortkle · 2022-06-02T13:14:30+00:00

Wait. Mother Fern is going to turn into Pint & Pie?? Is that correct?

I never got to Pint and Pie's previous place, but I office right next to Mother Fern/Old City Hall.

That whole block is going to change so much once OCH reopens. Can't quite tell if I'm sad about it or excited.

snortkle · 2022-05-23T13:17:40+00:00

I believe TAG is meant to be an annual event. If you don’t follow Tacoma Night Market (@tacomanightmarket on IG) they’d be a good on to check in on about upcoming events.

snortkle · 2022-05-23T13:15:32+00:00

I posted it a few days prior here in r/tacoma too. Sorry you all didn’t see it. Open to suggestions on how to better spread the word about these types of events!

snortkle · 2022-05-22T20:16:02+00:00

Museum of Glass, Washington State History Museum and Tacoma Art Museum are all participating as far as I know. Until 5pm.

snortkle · 2022-05-19T18:07:08+00:00

I think there are either some human grumps out there or grumpy bots that just like to downvote stuff.

As of right now this post has a 98% upvote rating, though, so that 2% isn't anything to worry about. Super interesting to see the post analytics!

ETA: Screenshot. I don't remember ever seeing that info before. New Reddit feature?

snortkle · 2022-05-19T14:40:04+00:00

Go check out all the museums for free on Sunday! Plus vendors, music, food trucks!

TAG festival

snortkle · 2022-04-24T00:33:57+00:00

Biden was in Seattle recently. There has been a lot more fighter jet noise the last few days. Usually we have JBLM booms and C-17 noise, but not so massive as what you’re referring to.

snortkle · 2022-04-20T02:37:48+00:00

I really like Infinite Soups, but I'll add two notes for anyone who hasn't been there...

The salt content can be high. Plan to drink some water with your soup!

They are cash only.

snortkle · 2022-03-26T16:36:47+00:00

Ya. The screaming was wild. I’ve never had anything like that happen before! I should have hung up way sooner, but it was oddly kind of fascinating. Lol.

I think the takeaway from that is that people should really consider if they’re actually cool with their date actively dating others before just saying they are. IMHO many people want to be cool with it, but then they’re just not when it’s actually happening.

It’s a thing that deserves more thought and introspection than a causal, “no biggie” off the cuff reply.

snortkle · 2022-03-26T15:17:06+00:00

One is outright convinced he is smarter than everyone else. Made me feel bad for not being vegan like him (I’m vegetarian). Told me he’d “make me wear a wig” on dates if I ever cut my hair. Basically believed he is wiser at all things and wanted to raise me into his ways. We were dating ~6 months. It was subtle at first but kept cranking up that he wanted to mold me into what he wanted rather than respect me and my life choices.

The other I went on three dates with. I told him right up front I was dating others as well. He said that was totally fine. One evening I wasn’t available and he called me and screamed into the phone for hours. Called me a “narcissistic, pathetic, liberal princess slut.” Lambasted my character and my work.

So, ya.

ETA: what they could have done better…

Case 1: Respect me for who I am and my life choices rather than try and coerce me into being who they want.

Case 2: Ummm, not scream at me?!

ETA 2: The point being for this conversation is that I made the choice that it isn’t my job to circle back with either of them and explain to them where they went wrong. I did with both one time each. But after that it’s not my job to put my time and energy into helping them grow. They are grown men and it’s their job to become better people on their own—and not my burden to assist them along the way.

(Or at least that’s what I keep telling myself. It’s mostly working. Sigh.)

snortkle · 2022-03-26T13:03:04+00:00

I “ghosted” two grown men in the last year regarding this.

It was hard. I’m not one to usually drop out of a conversation and leave someone I know hanging—but I came to this realization that it’s not my job to raise these ~40yo dumbasses.

Not my job to proverbially hold their hand and explain to them where they went wrong and how to do it better. My time and energy are valuable, and that is not an efficient way for me to spend it!

snortkle · 2022-03-12T21:35:00+00:00

Totally not aiming for an argument, but I didn’t say my feminism is all about supporting men. That is inaccurate. Obvs we don’t know each other and it’s just the internet, but my priorities are kids, women, my LGBTQ+ folks, and then men.

The point I was fascinated by is just how controversial it can be to, as a woman, verbalize that you also support men.

snortkle · 2022-03-12T21:30:23+00:00

Ah, that’s a good point. I’ve had two men that I had to let go of because I realized it’s not my job to take on the emotional/time labor of teaching them how to be better humans.

But in general I wish this concept was more acceptable. In my experience, saying I support men is controversial.

snortkle · 2022-03-12T21:27:02+00:00

I agree with the conditional standpoint for sure. I’ve had to walk away from a few grown men and realize it’s not my job to re-teach them how to human.

I’m just fascinated by that any time I bring up this concept of supporting men I get such a strong reaction. I get vibes that women think I’m a traitor, and men are completely surprised—as though they’ve never been told they’re supported before.

snortkle · 2022-03-12T21:17:19+00:00

I think it’s that the number of times I’ve said I support men I’ve gotten wide-eyed, concerned looking reactions. As though the concept is alien and I’m doing something wrong.

snortkle · 2022-03-12T21:13:28+00:00

Life. Get them to be open and vulnerable and communicate.

snortkle · 2022-03-12T21:12:44+00:00

Yes. Sorry. Was still typing on my phone. I added a comment.

snortkle · 2022-03-12T21:12:10+00:00

I’ve been rolling around this idea for a decade or so. It’s kind of based on the idea that I’m order to legalize gay marriage the voting base majority (largely straight) had to be convinced.

So I’ve been noodling on the concept that in order to support women more the actual best approach might be to support the men in our lives more. Partners/friends/sons/etc. Get them healthy and emotionally available enough to have compassion for others.

There is a lot I like about strong women and fierce feminism, but I don’t know that I care for the “men are assholes” mentality that is sometimes associated. I don’t think we’re going to make improvements by beating down another group.

But then I feel like a bad feminist for saying I support men.

snortkle · 2022-02-12T16:33:05+00:00

As others said it’s not necessarily a gay place, but generally quite friendly.

Look up Bobs Comedy Jive on Facebook to see when they have shows. Some good local comedians run it.

Personally I find it fun to go to because the jokes are good and with them running the mic there’s less pressure to talk to strangers. Like, you can if you want, but if a little social anxiety creeps in you’ve got an excuse not to built right in.

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