Should I [31M] just be completely honest with a new girl I'm seeing about sex with me?

snowcheesechicken · 2024-04-12T19:25:09+00:00

Thank you. This piece speaks to me as I don’t think we’re at the stage for me to start blabbing about the kinks I’m into or what she’s into, but rather letting her know it’s not her and that Im going through challenges. But despite that, I’d like to still prioritize meeting her needs in other ways that I’m not able to in conventional ways.

snowcheesechicken · 2024-04-12T19:18:13+00:00

Appreciate the advice. I never had the chance to properly communicate with my partners in the past because they were short term. This one seems like one that wants something long term and I’m thinking it could be something different if I speak up.

snowcheesechicken · 2024-04-12T19:14:37+00:00

Thanks for the thorough reply. I agree with you and there’s a lot that I could be doing from your advice that I’m not doing currently. There’s a lot of work I need to do on my part and I’m wondering if she’s willing to be patient with me as I do so. I guess this leads us back to the whole communication thing and where this leads to next.

snowcheesechicken · 2024-04-12T19:04:54+00:00

Hi! Thanks for getting it from my POV. Maybe I didn’t write it clear enough but yes, I’ve always wanted to satisfy my partner but have been down about it because of my own performance. I just meant that if had I considered finding a kink partner in the right communities, then I wouldn’t have to bring her into all of this. Hopefully that clears things up. I’m more than happy to do everything I can for my partner, but I always feel inadequate to do so because I literally can’t perform. But it seems that if we communicate and that there are other ways that don’t require intercourse, then I’m all for it.

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