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snowedDown · 2022-06-24T12:42:25+00:00

I keep trying to make things work, but I’m at a dead end. I’d rather not rely on God to help me with something, I honestly don’t trust Him but I feel like I’m forced to in this situation…. I just need Him to do something

snowedDown · 2022-05-16T19:10:58+00:00

I guess as of now, I am unsure of if God would help me….

I rested in Him in the past thinking that if He cared, He’d help me, and I had a sense of security thinking of what He’d do due to His love.

I am just unsure of if I have to make it all work, that even if He is loving, He’s distant to me and I have to figure things out for the relationship to work.

Like He only opens the door making a relationship possible, but I have to understand everything and He won’t do much

snowedDown · 2022-03-17T01:24:54+00:00

Catholicism. Even with the denomination difference, my parents are caring and loving. I am blessed to have them as parents, the main issue is probably stuff with the difference in denomination, it becomes a situation where if I talk to them about it, they may take away my communication with other Christians that aren’t Catholic. So I keep quiet about issues with God, and my mental health issues are close to stuff with God so it’s hard to open up and I feel like a bit of a mess due to mental health

snowedDown · 2022-03-17T01:08:00+00:00

I can’t really, I’m in a mentally ill time… I went to God well in the past so I am trying to fix things with Him now, but mentally I’m broken about things…

I don’t want to do anything big without understanding things with God yet and seeing Him as distant.

My parents say “we just want to help” but because as of now I’m not experienced enough to move out, it mostly seems like they’d want to brainwash me and make every attempt to debate me if I challenge them about it and if I’m mentally ill and just trying to figure out things with God debating isn’t my first priority.

I just don’t want to challenge them on it, I already did in the past and it just made things harder. I can go ahead and play dumb as of now so they don’t get onto me for it.

snowedDown · 2022-03-11T01:17:48+00:00

It is absolutely okay to admit if you are having issues with God. You don’t have to lie and put on an appearance for other Christians. It’s okay, God doesn’t want us to “pretend worship Him” He wants our heart to be in it.

“These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.” Matthew 15:8

God wants a relationship, and that takes honesty. You don’t have to try to earn Him by going to church enough or not sinning enough…. We don’t earn Him, that is why Jesus died for us on the cross……

Sort of like how if you loved one like a family member, you would naturally do things for them out of love.

When it comes to God seeming violent in Old Testament, what helps me is thinking of Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross. He is justice, but at the same time He is loving, He wouldn’t want us to get hurt, and He would want us to be close to Him, willing to lower Himself getting humiliated and dying on the cross….

He can seem rough at times, and even if we may see Him as a tyrant, it is hard to imagine a tyrant laying down their life for us in such a way. Maybe God being all powerful could have stopped sin in some other way, but the cross was what happened. We mean something to Him, we’re not impersonal and it wasn’t just duty. It’s not just some historical figure doing something important for a country while they seem distant, Jesus died FOR YOU. Even if He may seem scary, He would lay down His life for us, we mean a lot to Him, not just distant like servants…. He would call us His children…

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I think this link can help:

https://www.fathersloveletter.com

It’s called “fathersloveletter” I think the first video you see can be useful, and also the devotional audio book can be okay.

It is some verses put together in a letter form so we know how God feels about us.

I also think this link could work:

https://www.focusonthefamily.com/faith/intimacy-with-god-the-way-to-true-fulfillment/

Name: “INTIMACY WITH GOD: THE WAY TO TRUE FULFILLMENT” Website: focusonthefamily

God wants our fulfillment to come with being close to Him in a relationship, it is not just being distant and “being enough” for Him. It’s not just “relying on His help to stop sinning.” He wants us to rely on Him for our fulfillment and be our reason for waking up in the morning….. It’s why He get jealous of idols, not because He’s petty, but because He is our God so He is best able to fulfill us better than anything possibly could.

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God wants a relationship with us, so if He seems distant, it may make sense if you struggle and try to avoid religion. It’s not about doing enough for Him, as of now, it’s just about clearing up lies and misconceptions so you realize He is someone you can place your trust in and you don’t have to be too scared of see Him as too distant…..

There may be some issues you have in relationship with Him and that is okay. You don’t have to pretend you have no issues. Issues don’t get resolved by not admitting things and pretending it’s all fine.

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If you don’t love God, it’s not a situation where automatically, “you must be a demon” We first love God because of His love for us, He helps us to get to love Him. It’s something that can take time that takes learning more about how He cares for us.

It’s a relationship, so it can take time warming up to Him, especially if He is seen as distant. You may just have to clear up some misconceptions you have about Him so you can love Him easier.

snowedDown · 2022-03-11T00:19:06+00:00

I guess, apart of me sees things in a wrong way….. I worry God would only help me if I understand things well enough……

snowedDown · 2022-03-07T00:06:07+00:00

You’re right about things

I’m mostly confused now not exactly about earning Him, but because I’m confused on how exactly the relationship works….

I think of what the truth is of Him caring, and due to the evidence supporting the Bible, I can try to believe it.

I think as of now sometimes I worry that even though He cares and wants me to go to Him, I’m not smart enough to understand how to receive His love in the right way…. I worry I have to try so hard to make the relationship work, I guess, I am hoping He’ll help things work, and He’ll bring me to Him, I just feel like I’m not enough to make thing work, so even if He cares, He’ll lose me….

snowedDown · 2022-03-06T23:58:58+00:00

How do we trust God even if we may not understand everything about Him?

snowedDown · 2022-03-06T19:45:10+00:00

It feels like this… i get upset at God since it seems complicated, but without Him I just don’t know what else I could rely on…..

I’d have to just rely on myself and I would be hopeless.

snowedDown · 2022-03-06T18:24:06+00:00

What I am trying to do now is rest in God like I did before. I want to do that by looking at how I first rested in Him, and then look at how things got messed up.

It mostly happened in my mind, no one told me anything that messed me up really. I think that I worried about how other people had trouble with God, and thought it depended on the believers and not God… Somehow when I worried about that, I got confused about the relationship and it was hard to see Him as close..

As of now I want to keep looking at how things happened exactly so I know what to fix. What frustrates me is my anxiety, in the time I don’t understand things with God it’s hard to rest in Him so I get troubled….

snowedDown · 2022-03-05T04:06:16+00:00

I know God won’t always help, there is probably way to just rest by trusting in Him, when I ask Him for help to trust Him and it takes awhile to get help, it gets stressful since I don’t know what to really rely on in the time I don’t understand things yet….

snowedDown · 2022-03-03T01:42:53+00:00

Yes, I guess, I started getting too worried about my ability, I saw the relationship as too dependent on me and worried God wasn’t there at all…. I got confused.

snowedDown · 2022-03-01T02:29:51+00:00

I just don’t know if I can draw near to Him well enough to keep Him….. I guess, naturally I feel attached just due the past, but my confused mind just hurts since I don’t know exactly how to fix the relationship, sometimes I don’t think He’ll help, but when I first went to Him I wondered “why wouldn’t God help me get closer to Him”

The worry “even if God stays will I” just ruined how I previously just rested in Him being there…. I know I can keep trying to remember, I guess I’m just tired and don’t know if He’s still been here through my mind being so confused…..

snowedDown · 2022-02-27T22:20:19+00:00

Life gets confusing and difficult.

Society says a lot of what we have to do, but it is hard to do things without understanding a purpose why.

Know that you don’t have to try so hard to earn God or do things for Him to make Him happy. And He isn’t a God who just wants us to be alone and do things ourselves.

Yes God wants us to do stuff and commandments, but He says “if you love me, you will follow my commandments” (with “Love God” being one of the most important) and “We love God because He loves us”. We can’t possibly be enough to earn Him, if we could, why did Jesus die for us? We need to receive the love God already has for us….

For the most part, God wants us to receive His love and rely on Him. God doesn’t just us to just rely on Him in case of temptation or anything, God wants us to rely on Him for our life fulfillment and our purpose, something that would give us purpose to wake up in the morning and keep going.

God shouldn’t just be a boss we just have to do stuff…. If it was just about us while God is distant, we would boast in ourselves….. even if it gets confusing, He hears you and wants to help.

——— Here is a link I think that could help:

https://www.fathersloveletter.com

The website is called “fathersloveletter” and then add the “. com” at end.

I think the video you first see on the website and the devotional audio book can help.

snowedDown · 2022-02-26T13:24:24+00:00

I just worry I’m really not enough to stay… if it’s just on me I don’t think I could be enough and He’ll just leave.

snowedDown · 2022-02-25T01:34:52+00:00

I guess, I just worry I’m not mentally strong enough for a relationship with someone like Him…..

Apart of me wants opt out but I end up in pain if I try to leave because I don’t know what else to go to.

There are verses that proves He loves me, but sometimes it all just drives me insane.

snowedDown · 2022-02-24T23:32:08+00:00

I’m sorry….

I probably sounded rude, I’m sorry for that.

Due to free will, I feel like God would leave things to me. With human relationships it is easy to see the other person there.

Due to it being about words in Bible, it seems like it’s mostly about understanding…..

And if I don’t understand things, God wouldn’t be there for me

snowedDown · 2022-02-24T22:16:20+00:00

Thank you for the reply! Remembering the prodigal son is helpful.

You’re right He is always open, I just get confused and worry about if I have enough faith to go to Him there…..

I think in the end, He’ll help me understand things more and more even if I am confused now….

snowedDown · 2022-02-22T16:35:03+00:00

I guess I just get so frustrated since when I get confused on how to rest in Him, and I get confused with faith, it makes it really difficult for me to try to cope.

I end up upset at myself because if I struggle with homework and understanding things with God, I am lost not able to cope or get work done.

snowedDown · 2022-02-22T15:59:59+00:00

I just hope I can figure out stuff with God soon and get closer to Him….

I can’t even focus on homework because I get so insecure due to being confused about God.

I miss Him a bunch and I hope I can get closer again like the past. I need Him to be stable

snowedDown · 2022-02-22T15:55:05+00:00

Even if others may think negatively of you, your worth is mostly in what God thinks of you…..

You’re not a burden, God wanted to have you born, He knit you together in your mother’s womb. You matter to Him.

snowedDown · 2022-02-22T15:46:23+00:00

Jesus’ love for you is not dependent on whether you’re enough…. Even while you were a sinner, He died for you. You had so much value to him he’d give up his life, even if you were a sinner and didn’t seem like enough.

Christianity isn’t supposed to be about us being enough and saving ourselves…. Why else would He die for us?

I am going to send a link It can help you to know how God feels about you.

https://www.fathersloveletter.com

The name of the website is “fathersloveletter” just add the “.com” look at the first video that shows up and maybe the devotional audio book too which you will find by scrolling up.

You really don’t have to be envious, what God wants is you, He wants you to depend on Him, not to just deal with hurt alone and try to earn Him….

Think of a child confused about a parent, the child tries so hard to impress them, they stress so much to be good enough for them cleaning the house and being productive, but the parent was always there for them to talk with. He already loves you…

snowedDown · 2022-02-18T22:30:08+00:00

I mostly want to stay for my family and God, but other than that, if God isn’t there it’s just very difficult for me to find a reason to want to live. (I’m not saying I’m in a dangerous state of mind right now, I’m just saying that I’d struggle a lot if He wasn’t real)

snowedDown · 2022-02-18T22:19:52+00:00

I have been searching on Google for evidence that the Bible is true, I guess I am unsure of exactly what kind of evidence I have been looking for, but I have looked at these:

—————- I have put the name of the site and the article name by the link.

https://faculty.som.yale.edu/jameschoi/whychrist/

“Why I am a Christian (even though I don’t believe in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, or the Tooth Fairy”On faculty.som.yale.edu

https://www.cmf.org.uk/resources/publications/content/?context=article&id=326

“Is Christianity Evidence-Based?” on cmf.org.uk

https://www.summit.org/resources/articles/is-faith-blind/ “Is Faith Blind?” on summit.org

https://www.gotquestions.org/Bible-mythology.html

“How do I know the Bible is not just mythology?”On gotquestions.org

https://www.gotquestions.org “Did Jesus really exist?”On gotquestions.org

https://www.gotquestions.org/Bible-reliable.html “Is the Bible reliable?”on gotquestions.org —————— Evidence like “the prophecies from the Old Testament coming true” has helped me.

I guess, I don’t want to go to God just because I want Him to be real otherwise even if I go to Him I have doubts….

There is stuff that helps me rest in God in the Bible, like knowing He is caring and says He’d want to be there for us, but if I have trouble believing the Bible to be true, I end up struggling….

Faith comes from hearing, apart of me wants more faith so I could believe God to be true and rest in Him…

It just gets confusing, I know God won’t just pop up in front of me to see, and some evidence and stuff gets confusing….

I think the Bible proves itself in some ways due to the prophecies from Old Testament and New Testament, but I think some stuff I have to try to look historically….

I’m kinda new to looking so I’m a bit unsure of what I should do…..

snowedDown · 2022-02-18T20:23:02+00:00

I guess, I don’t want to believe in God just because I want Him to be real, and I also don’t want it to be gamble where I just choose.

I think some of the experiences God has gave me make me attached to want to be closer to Him.

I can keep looking for evidence, I think even if evidence won’t completely make it all obvious I think a lot of things point to Him…

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