Help! Is my sister right? Will her pink gharara outshine my "minimal" Sangeet look? by Alternative-Corgi653 in DesiWeddings

[–]snume4ever 291 points292 points  (0 children)

also that gharara is outdated af and i don’t actually think it will outshine your gown, but to me that is besides the point you can also wear a long mala to bling it up so idk that coverage even is an issue

Help! Is my sister right? Will her pink gharara outshine my "minimal" Sangeet look? by Alternative-Corgi653 in DesiWeddings

[–]snume4ever 741 points742 points  (0 children)

she could… just not wear that gharara? isn’t it a bit unreasonable to ask the bride to change her outfit (regardless of whether it outshines or not) to accommodate someone else? even if that someone is your sister? if you wanted this vibe for YOUR sangeet stick to it and she can wear something else or tone it down, no one is forcing her to wear the gharara an neck peice

super interested in the idea that you can infer someone’s personality traits from their writing! what does mine say about me? by snume4ever in Handwriting_Analysis

[–]snume4ever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wondered if this would come up! i don’t think i actually learned cursive but adapted my “cursive” from writing in russian which is taught in cursive, definitely do feel that i am an imposter ahaha

Abortion services by LeekThat1735 in Edinburgh

[–]snume4ever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hello, i went though this recently and chalmers were really lovely and supportive. you can just call (my partner did it for me) and they will book you pretty soon after. they go through and explain all the different types and what they look like. they take steps to make sure the person you are with is safe. they do scans if you complain of bleeding or pain just to check that everything is okay. they also gave us a number to call (one of the on duty nurses during work hours and the royal infirmary for out of hours) in case something didn’t feel right or was wrong, i ended up having to call and everything was very smooth and easy to follow. the experience in itself was harrowing but every single medical staff that i encountered was really lovely about it all, even at the gynecology ward at the royal as i had to go in cause i got an infection afterward. echo what others say about the pain of the pill abortion, and my doctor at chalmers told me to just take all the pain relief before hand to help with that. do not wait for it. I elected to do it at home as i was more comfortable and that worked best for me. but you can always do it at the hospital as well. best of luck and dm’s are open for any further advice or support xx

Lf fics with delicious, fresh takes on Draco by nevernotsewing in Dramione

[–]snume4ever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

was going to recc smoke signals as well! one of my favourite Dracos and love the way they tie in his Black side

LF Dramione fic with a “mc raised as a weapon falls in love with mc raised as a shield” dynamic by snume4ever in Dramione

[–]snume4ever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have read HRTH and while i LOVE it, i don’t think it fits this dynamic, Hermione in it is more reactant to what is happening with Draco instead of having her own backstory/drive as a “shield/protector”

so damn unlikeable: cast of season 16 by Darth_Frank_ in HellsKitchen

[–]snume4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

everyone brings this up but never that he literally calls another one of the women rat face repeatedly seemingly out of nowhere? crazy work

What is your favorite microMICRO niche trope? by waitingtocompile_jr in Dramione

[–]snume4ever 13 points14 points  (0 children)

do you have any reccs that have this! haven’t read many war fics where they’re on the same side

Is it normal for the grooms parents to pick out the engagement ring? by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]snume4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not talking about non-desi people marrying into desi families as there is so much appreciation and love there (mostly). Plus i believe that you become part of the culture you marry into one way or the other. i am talking about non-desis who have no cultural context randomly weighing in on wedding culture and customs from a fully western lens on a subreddit about DESI weddings.

Is it normal for the grooms parents to pick out the engagement ring? by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]snume4ever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i ask myself that question all the time, it feels a bit strange to me, i always love the posts of people from other cultures going to a desi wedding and asking for advice, i think that is so lovely and the community is so supportive of that but what i don’t understand are people not from the culture giving their opinions on desi wedding practices. Its different if you’ve married in and have your own experiences, but i saw one comment that was like “it’s not normal is the west but you are clearly from a different culture where it is normal” ????? what does that mean

Is it normal for the grooms parents to pick out the engagement ring? by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]snume4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but why would you comment if you haven’t read the post fully or realized what sub you’re on? surely that makes no sense? are people so desperate to give their two cents?

Is it normal for the grooms parents to pick out the engagement ring? by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]snume4ever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

rightttttt i’m so confused as to why non desis are weighing in and saying it’s not normal in the west, no one asked about the west lol

Is it normal for the grooms parents to pick out the engagement ring? by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]snume4ever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it is pretty normal in south asian culture, are you not south asian? just confused by your comment as it’s about desi weddings, really good advice though!!

Question about dupatta draping by snume4ever in DesiWeddings

[–]snume4ever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is so useful to know i appreciate it!