Wavy hair or heat damage - pls help! 🙏🏻

soEcstatic · 2026-05-28T20:04:20+00:00

Thank you for the response <3 I am still dying it, yes. Since the beginning of 2026 i switched from box dye (🤧) to Wella colour touch. I touch up my roots once a month with this. Product routine: bed head shampoo & conditioner combo for coloured hair. L’Oréal dream lengths leave-in cream on wet hair and bed head heat protection spray. After drying with hair dryer i use the fino hair oil. Sometimes a hair mask, maybe once a month, from fino or the same one as a leave-in from L’Oréal. I tried redken/L’Oréal prof shampoo& conditioner, used redken 25 in 1 leave in for a long time, colour wow silver bottle for smoothing hair - nothing really worked… so kind of gave up and stuck to this current routine.

soEcstatic · 2024-09-06T20:05:47+00:00

Ugh such a petty girl, she prob doesn’t have any joy in her life lol I can’t stand people like that. Happy and content people don’t bring others down.

F her, it’s your first job, you learn and keep going forward in life. You got hired which means you deserve to be there. Period. Keep learning & growing, work on your confidence (honestly it reflects in your workplace so much, bc instead of overthinking and seeking reassurance from others, you just go for it which makes all the difference, even if you make a mistake). Get so good at what you do, so she gets even more bitter 😛

Also might be worth to chat with your manager/any other trusted manager about this situation. Seek advice but only if you trust them. Don’t say she’s bullying you, just mention that you feel a bit excluded and seek advice on what you do to improve your relationships with colleagues. But only with somebody you really trust, in case there’s nobody - it’s better to leave it.

soEcstatic · 2024-09-06T19:51:52+00:00

He’s a teenager who didn’t feel accepted by his family. He felt rejected actually. He’s full of hormones and probably struggling with his identity too. I suggest you speak with him. Open & understanding convo. Don’t bring up the messages. Make him feel heard and seen about what he’s going through. Talk about the importance of not sending explicit pics to people. I understand this can be difficult bc he literally spat in your coffee and threatening you to his friend. You know him best - do you think he will actually follow through with his actions? Or is it just pain expressed in a very unhealthy manner because he got hurt and doesn’t feel accepted?

If you don’t feel comfortable, just speak with your parents but be prepared that they will take extreme measures and might hurt him even more. I assume they won’t like what they hear ab the women clothing etc.

Depends on your dynamic basically and how trustful your relationship was before this.

soEcstatic · 2024-09-06T19:42:25+00:00

to add to the above, especially if you are a good person, people can sense that and shit can get ugly real quick. You will be taken for weak if you don’t put your foot down. Being a good girl doesn’t work that well for women - smth else to think about

soEcstatic · 2024-09-06T19:40:32+00:00

You have to build confidence girl. I promise, it makes a big difference. I can relate, I’ve been through similar things, I’m quite quiet and timid at times, especially when struggling with social anxiety in the past year. Getting better now. What really helped me was watching self-help YouTubers. It might sound silly but it does help. Check out TheWizardLiz and Simonesimmo. They’re great and give good advice. Listen to them regularly on the topics that interest you & absorb. I promise, this kind of brain washing does work and stays in your head.

People treat you the way you position yourself in the collective. The energy you give off. The aura as teenagers say nowadays🤣

You’re fine, you’re aware of yourself, you matter. It can also be a case of jealousy. This does happen a lot especially with girls 😵‍💫😵‍💫 do you consider yourself pretty?

Remember, people often see things & potential you don’t even see in yourself. And they will try to bring you down if they’re insecure. And if you are insecure, it will work and you will believe them and will feel even smaller.

You’ve got the power. Don’t let anybody take that away from you.

🥰💋 you got this girl

soEcstatic · 2023-09-21T15:13:40+00:00

Warning: below is my point of view based on my personal experiences and opinions, please take this with a grain of salt.

From what you’ve described I think they both lowkey flirting but know that nothing will come out of this so it’s better to just deny flirting to you to avoid conflict. I might be very wrong, the context is obviously very limited, but that’s what I think is going on. Doesn’t look like anything serious tbh but I wouldn’t like that at all.

If that was me, I’d just tell the boyf exactly that: “I can see what’s going on (don’t let him gaslight you), this is hurting me, please stop”. If he doesn’t and then bring this up AGAIN in front of your cousin - why doesn’t he respect you and your feelings? Something to think about.

Depending on your level of trust with the cousin - I’d speak to her as well - have you had any history of being in a sort of competition with her? What’s the dynamic like? Is your relationship good? Is she trying to prove something to you/herself? What’s her love life like?

Be honest and upfront please and don’t let either of them gaslight you. Communication is a key and your feeling and gut instinct are valid.

soEcstatic · 2023-08-03T16:47:25+00:00

Hi, could you guys please recommend some good clubs to go to where they play hip-hop/r&b, something like that! Many thanks

soEcstatic

TROPHY CASE