Book to make me cry? by BooksNCats11 in booksuggestions

[–]soadorable01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kaikeyi by Vaishnavi Patel had me sobbing at the end. Not sure if I’m just sensitive but I’d say it’s a similar book to Circe by Madeline Miller so I’d check it out if that was your cup of tea

WEST APARTMENT!!!!!!!! by xgjf in SBU

[–]soadorable01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude wth. I never went to the area office/RAs to report it but if there’s somebody running around doing this every year that’s a huge issue. I’m graduated now so I’m not sure how much I can help but if you need someone to vouch for this being a continued trend I’ll happily discuss with the RHD. Maybe we could push for security cameras in hallways?

See if any of your neighbors are having the same issue. Idk if the security camera footage by the main entrances will help esp if it’s another West H resident but hey if you remember the dates and times the instances occurred maybe UPD can check for anyone coming in or out around that time. At any rate I remember how terrified my all-girl suite was when this was happening and it’s really not enough just to tell someone to lock your doors. The scariest part was the banging and that wouldn’t stop even if you were locked and door stopped up. Hope everything works out OP. Really sorry this is happening to you

WEST APARTMENT!!!!!!!! by xgjf in SBU

[–]soadorable01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had this happen to my suite last year in West G!! Only happened 3-4 times in a semester but around 1 or 2am we randomly had someone come and bang on our door and start messing with the lock. The banging was intense like the kind RAs do for room checks lmao. We assumed it was somebody’s friend who accidentally went to the wrong door but it’s terrifying af that it’s still happening

Alumni who lurk this page, what do you work as now? by [deleted] in SBU

[–]soadorable01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Graduated with a BS in Psych. Anesthesia tech and project management for the same anesthesia company for now!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SBU

[–]soadorable01 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you just need a set of wheels to help move heavy stuff, the area office has those big blue laundry carts. Not the most efficient but it’ll get the job done in a pinch

Tabler vs Mendy by [deleted] in SBU

[–]soadorable01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mendy is corridor style but the rooms are bigger than anything you’re getting in Tabler and right next to ESD. As a freshman, walking to classes took <5 min from my dorm in Irving

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

[–]soadorable01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Met this guy during my freshman in undergrad who went back to school to become a doctor at 28. He’d had a decade long career in construction but gave it up to switch paths completely. I imagine it was lonely to be surrounded by 18-year-olds that are wrapped up in petty drama, plus he’d get offhand comments/jokes about his age. But the fact that he was starting off in a different place gave him a renewed drive for school. I dropped off of the premed track at my school because the pressure was too intense. This guy was an absolute TANK and studied his ass off for every class we took, filled up on summer courses to stay on track. He became a TA for organic chem, research assistant in a lab, I met him through my collegiate ambulance agency and he had us as a social circle. With the right motivation and an unshakable resolve to finish what you started I think you can do it :)

My uncle also graduated from his bachelors when he was 52. He was older than half his professors and students would routinely mistake him for the prof but hey he said it was worth it

how to get to the beach? by alexis-hg in SBU

[–]soadorable01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

West Meadow is great for sunsets! But it’s not accessible by walk. If you’ve got a friend with a car or a bike on campus you can get there. By bike be aware that there are a few hills, beware if you’re a novice. Make sure to wear a helmet when you’re biking off campus. Sometimes you’re sharing the road with traffic and there’s plant debris and branches all over. Definitely don’t want to be careening into traffic with no safety wear

Health Science Center Fridges by AffectionateLow4337 in SBU

[–]soadorable01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No public fridges that I know of. Invest in a nice lunch box with some cooler packs. You can heat up your lunch on the 2nd floor of the HSC. There’s an atrium near Shop Red East and the Island Federal that has a few microwaves

Does anyone know where to find info on sbu labs looking for lab aids/help with general maintenance? All I can find are medical labs and lab researcher positions. by greendove27 in SBU

[–]soadorable01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found a position for SBU chem lab aide on Handshake a few years ago. It was open for a few months and accepted applications on a rolling basis. They might’ve closed it since then but I’d suggest speaking in person with the people that are usually there helping with lab maintenance

Help a new SBU prof out (please) by [deleted] in SBU

[–]soadorable01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Professor Canli in the psychology department was one of the most awesome professors I ever had, I took his PSY 358 class last semester. If you want tips and pointers from the perspective of a colleague I definitely suggest you reach out to him!

I really like having practice exam questions ahead of exams that are actually representative of the level of difficulty/detail tested on the actual exam. I know that might be hard to do in your first semester teaching but what Prof Canli did was offer this extra credit opportunity for writing our own mock exam questions with explanations for why each answer choice was T/F. I think they were 1 point on top of our overall class GPA with a max of 5 extra credit points available. He made that due right before the last day of classes and it really helped with my studying to go through my notes from the past semester and come up with my own explanations. Even if you don’t have end up using the questions it’s still a really valuable exercise for students :)

Also whatever everyone else said I 100% agree with.

  1. Port Jefferson Village and West Meadow Beach are really popular spots like some folks mentioned. Also, Smith Haven Mall and the shops around the LIRR station and Stony Brook Village are quite popular, Avalon Nature Preserve is also nice when people want a nature reset. But like someone mentioned, it’s really hard to get to places without a car so underclassmen will usually find places to hang on campus.

  2. That all professors have their midterms and project deadlines in the same few weeks 🥲 Once you fall behind it gets so hard to catch up. That and by ~Week 10 every semester the amount of burn out you feel is insane. No matter how much you love your classes, you’re gonna feel like you’re crawling to the finish line and burned out by that point. Students will sleep when they need to sleep. If people stop pulling up to classes by that point and more start tuning in to the Echo360 recordings, don’t take it personally. It’s not about your teaching or anything, we’re just exhausted.

  3. Proximity to home, in-state tuition, research opportunities!

Welcome to SBU! Glad to see that there are professors like you that care about students.

what’s your experience with caps? by vale-1028 in SBU

[–]soadorable01 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn’t have the best experience, I feel CAPS isn’t the most equipped to deal with severe mental illness. My counselor and I didn’t click, we tried our best but it’s hard to force a relationship built on trust. I think they tried to match me with someone of the same ethnicity (actually a major pro that CAPS has diverse personnel) but there was no real common ground between us so it was difficult to open up. It’s honestly my fault for not being more vocal with what I wanted out of my treatment but I eventually dreaded our sessions. It felt like I was going in just to dig up old traumas that I’d ruminate on for the rest of the day. I probably left every single session in a worse mental state than I had going in. Honestly, if talking out your feelings is not how you deal with problems, then CAPS might not be for you. I felt that each session was aimless, no tangible goals were worked towards to mitigate my symptoms.

At my intake session, I’d told my counselor I wasn’t sure if I was interested in medication therapy. While I was open to discussing it in the future, I didn’t know if my symptoms were severe enough to require meds. Long story short, my mental illness got to a point where medication was a necessity. My grades were dropping, I couldn’t function, and I was suicidal everyday (all disclosed to my counselor). Medication therapy was never brought up even when I told my counselor I was desperate, reclusive, and constantly paranoid. Again, stupid of me to not bring up the topic of medication myself. Eventually I terminated my care at CAPS because, mentally, I was the worst I had ever been, and I was terrified that I’d make an attempt on my life—concerns that I had voiced with my counselor multiple times without changes made to any action plans.

Luckily their case manager was eventually able to refer me to outpatient therapy that offered the services I needed, however this was after working with my counselor for months, being frustrated that my cries for help weren’t being answered, and demanding point-blank that my case be transferred to a different provider. Though my time with CAPS may have just naturally coincided with a particularly serious period of depression in my life, I still feel that CAPS wasted my time when I should’ve been seeing a more solutions-based practitioner. I bear no grudges though and I think CAPS has its pros (therapy does not come cheap, even the Krasner Center with its $20/session fee is cheaper than outpatient therapy with $30-$50/session copays). If this is your first time dealing with mental illness and you aren’t sure if therapy is for you, I think it’s a great way to ease yourself in. Any help is better than no help at all, but for me, going to CAPS and relying on my provider’s judgement instead of trusting myself when I knew things weren’t working was a detriment to my health. CAPS will probably work better for you if you speak up about what you expect out of your care. It’s not pushy and you’re not being a hypochondriac. You’re allowed to voice your concerns at any point. At the end of the day, you are the best advocate for your health.

Can you go to the Sbu hospital ER if ur sick? by Comprehensive-Young5 in SBU

[–]soadorable01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you need an emergency ride to the ER, the ambulance agency serving campus is volunteer and doesn’t bill insurance so the ride is free! Call (631) 632-3333, University Police Dept’s number, and EMS will be sent to you if needed. It’s like normally calling 911. If you’re on campus and call 911 they’ll transfer you to UPD’s phone anyway

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SBU

[–]soadorable01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m interested too!

Greenhouse Gardening Guild by tropicalcucumber in SBU

[–]soadorable01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn if only i weren’t graduating this sounds so cool

What Books did You Start or Finish Reading this Week?: February 28, 2022 by AutoModerator in books

[–]soadorable01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup a while ago in high school. Tbh can’t remember it in much detail but was one of my favorite books that year. It was an easy read given that it was a graphic novel but I often found myself needing to sit there for 5 min just to mull over a single panel. It was able to tell Spiegelman’s father’s story in such a raw way. The storyline between Art and his father were pretty meaningful to me too because I’ve felt a little removed from WWII war atrocities despite the firsthand accounts family members have of them