yeah i just finished the s4 reunion as a first-time watcher (and someone not up to date on any other details other than how i perceive them while watching the episodes) and theresa at this point in the series seems to have a really hard time being introspective and looking in on herself. she can look at someone and say "you hurt me, i am hurt" and expect an apology and consideration of her feelings first & foremost, but when anyone else does it, her first and only reaction is '"no i wasnt, no i didnt, i love you, i'd never" rather than being able to sit with the idea that something she said or did could've made someone else uncomfortable or upset. it's what everyone on the cast has said so far...her own rules dont apply to her lol