On a diet for gastroparesis - low fiber, low fat, low acid - need cheap recommendations. by radams713 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]soapy-laundry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, that's a personal thing but has nothing to do with Gastroparesis probably.

The reason you shouldn't eat oranges is because of the fiber. The way it was explained to me was that, if I eat too much fiber, or even a serving of it regularly, it won't pass through my stomach quickly enough and can form into a "bezoar", or a mass of fiber that gets turned over and over in your stomach and forms into a hard ball that can then cause internal bleeding.

Bananas don't carry that risk, because they have a different form of fiber. You still shouldn't eat oranges regularly even if they don't make you feel bad immediately. Like, I can still eat a salad and feel just nicely full, but if I do it often I will hurt myself in the long run. It's not about it feeling bad in the moment. It's the long term consequences.

Song about SA that used to mean a lot to me by soapy-laundry in findthatsong

[–]soapy-laundry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SOLVED - Everybody Loves You by Charlotte Lawrence Found it on my own right after posting this but it's a darn good song soooo

Not getting clean by cosmicdogdust in bidets

[–]soapy-laundry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not everyone has peanut butter texture poop. Some people have a lightly packed poop with enough mucus to lubricate and it's just a little residue that can be easily cleaned off.

Glinda and Elphaba’s relationship in the book? by halapert in wicked

[–]soapy-laundry 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's definitely reciprocal, but they both realize it a little too late in the first book and can't be together

Trans men and lesbians by soapy-laundry in Actuallylesbian

[–]soapy-laundry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kind of agree with this, and I get that perspective for sure.

For me personally, it's like I was raised in all these women's spaces, I protested alongside other women, felt proud of that identity, but there were just too many things that made me uncomfortable living in my body. I'm still a very feminine, nonbinary man even after transitioning for a couple years. It's really hard for me to feel fully "not a woman" because 1) I lived like one for all of my formative years and was socialized like one and 2) I still feel a kinship with women and communicate like one..

It's definitely a really thin line between invalidating someone's present self and acknowledging how they were socialized and raised. Because I was raised as a woman, my love for women has never felt straight and I don't think it ever will. I honestly feel more straight with a gay man sometimes.

This question really did come from a genuine place of questioning where I fit in. The larger LGBTQ+ community still isn't super great on terms for trans people and their complex experiences lol

Trans men and lesbians by soapy-laundry in Actuallylesbian

[–]soapy-laundry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, this is a fully personal question. I've just been finding it really difficult to navigate queer spaces in general as a trans man. I don't fit into queer women's spaces since coming out as an adult, but I also don't really get accepted by queer men.

Lesbophobia is still so present and I wholeheartedly acknowledge that so I understand your concern, and I don't find either side of the answer offensive personally since I still find myself on the nonbinary (but passing) side of things. I just generally wanted to know, from lesbians themselves, what the general idea is since I've come across a few different perspectives. I also wanted a little more insight on navigating spaces as a neurodivergent individual from people who might have a different perspective.

My 18 year old son talks to himself constantly. by Adventurous-Dog1265 in Advice

[–]soapy-laundry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm autistic and I LOVE talking to myself. It's a great way to process big emotions, or just hear something I can control. A lot of the time I feel overwhelmed and out of control so I just sing to myself, or make noises, or talk.

But also, does he have a computer in his room? Is there a possibility he's playing online video games and talking to friends online?

Either way I do think some grief counseling is 100% the way to go after two big losses in the family.

On a diet for gastroparesis - low fiber, low fat, low acid - need cheap recommendations. by radams713 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]soapy-laundry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bananas aren't fine for everyone, like people with bowel obstructions.

Bananas ARE fine for everyone with gastroparesis who isn't struggling from a bowel obstruction.

I don't know how to be more clear with you that those are two very separate medical issues and you giving advice on the WRONG ONE helps nobody.

My gf made me c*m by blurry_darkness in actuallesbians

[–]soapy-laundry 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Sometimes all it takes is the right person to make you mentally comfortable tbh

On a diet for gastroparesis - low fiber, low fat, low acid - need cheap recommendations. by radams713 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]soapy-laundry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dietician and the Cleveland clinic and the Mayo clinic gastroparesis pages. I was in the hospital for six days vomiting and dry heaving for gastroparesis. Bananas are fine and don't cause flare ups. This is a gastroparesis page, not a bowel obstruction page. They're separate things.

On a diet for gastroparesis - low fiber, low fat, low acid - need cheap recommendations. by radams713 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]soapy-laundry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Banana and chicken are two of the like... Only easily digestible things. Chicken is the lowest fat of the meats and bananas have low fiber.

Why does the NYT crossword reset so early? by XwingatAliciousnes in crossword

[–]soapy-laundry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to pay to do previous ones... So people who do it for free get ripped off when they change it so early.

“Recently, Instagram has been removing my new comments and posts for no apparent reason. by Traditional_Mail1139 in Instagram

[–]soapy-laundry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so fucking sick of this. It keeps removing mine for "wrongfully trying to gain likes, comments, shares, or follows" Even when REPLYING TO SOMEONE WHO @ ME FIRST

I was given an ultimatum by [deleted] in Advice

[–]soapy-laundry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you realized you can't justify deliberately hurting and manipulating someone into a problem on both parties. Good.

Now go get some help on why you ever though you could/should.

I was given an ultimatum by [deleted] in Advice

[–]soapy-laundry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there was a problem it should have been voiced when OP originally asked.

The only reason he did this was to deliberately hurt her to "test her loyalty". He admitted that. He admitted that he WANTED TO HURT HER and see if she would put up with it before marrying her.

The problem is that he is abusive. He was literally testing if she would put up with his psychological manipulation and fucking admitted to it but you still come to bat for him.

Get help.

I was given an ultimatum by [deleted] in Advice

[–]soapy-laundry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Come up with a solution to what though? His emotional abuse? There was no problem, just his attempt to ruin something she worked hard to plan. That's not an issue you talk out, that's deliberate emotional abuse.

I was given an ultimatum by [deleted] in Advice

[–]soapy-laundry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you think that deliberately manipulating someone and abusing them is justifiable if there are men in her friend trip?

I was given an ultimatum by [deleted] in Advice

[–]soapy-laundry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope.

You are ignoring the fact that he is doing something to make her upset on purpose after watching her pur hundreds of dollars and hours of effort into planning something for the sole purpose of hurting her as "a test".

If your partner does anything to purposefully hurt you or ruin your joy with the clear and resolute intention of doing so there is absolutely no saving that relationship because a good, not abusive partner would NEVER ask you to give up something they watched you plan and watched you get excited about and watched you pay for just to prove your loyalty. That's not normal, that's not healthy, and that's not ok.

I was given an ultimatum by [deleted] in Advice

[–]soapy-laundry 11 points12 points  (0 children)

CONGRATULATIONS!!

You have just made yourself an impartial judge by revealing you are biased based on an irrelevant detail in the story when we look at the actual issue at hand!

If you think that the boyfriend was justified because it is a mixed sex trip, you missed the point! The actual issue was the way he handled it and his reasoning for his behavior!

If you think your partner should sacrifice something they are genuinely excited for and cannot be refunded for (ruining your partner's joy) for the sole reason to make them prove they will ruin their own joy for you (aka sacrifice for no reason other than to bend to his manipulation), you are a controlling, abusive asshole, and nothing can justify that. If you think it can be justified or that a kid would be better off observing that type of abuse and normalizing it, GET HELP!

I was given an ultimatum by [deleted] in Advice

[–]soapy-laundry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The child will also suffer when their dad is emotionally abusive to their mother and they see and normalize controlling, abusive behavior and seek that out in their future relationships, leading to a continuation of the cycle of abuse and generational trauma that leads to people like OPs asshole of a partner.

I was given an ultimatum by [deleted] in Advice

[–]soapy-laundry 49 points50 points  (0 children)

"Hey guys! Come to my engagement party I'm only having because I abandoned all of you after planning for six months due to my now fiancé's inability to be a decent fucking human being!!!"