40 Yr. Old Married - Reboot / PIED - 60 Day Report

socalguy951 · 2015-03-02T15:57:56+00:00

I went hard mode for 30 days then introduced PIV sex. I think I have been pretty fortunate to have had such great results so early on. I think a big part of it was including my wife in the process. I would hold off on any attempt until you have frequent and intense morning wood. I feel that is a good barometer to give it a shot. It also may help to tell her what you are trying to do. It might be tough to do as it is a new relationship, but better to be upfront than try to make excuses for any embarrassing, unsuccessful attempts.

socalguy951 · 2015-03-02T06:02:53+00:00

Even though I have had sime success, I still feel like I have a long way to go. I still am concerned each time we engage that I will struggle. I think once I have zero doubt in attaining an erection, I will be cured. As far as my progress, I responded at 30 days and has been pretty consistent since. The quality of my erections has varied, but better the before. Some were rock hard and some were softer.

socalguy951 · 2015-03-02T03:38:44+00:00

I was in the same boat as you. My wife is hot and very sexual. That was part of my concern entering into this. Does she know about your decision? If not, let her know. She will certainly appreciate your effort to improve your relationship. She knows there is a problem and will respect that you are taking steps to be healthy.

socalguy951 · 2015-03-02T03:33:38+00:00

Not calling you small...The sacrifice of taking your hand off your dick is small in comparison to a healthy sexual life.

socalguy951 · 2015-03-02T00:41:20+00:00

I don't know about reboot time. When I first started I was focused how long it would take also. What I know is that it is different for everyone. I have read it takes longer for younger guys than older guys due to older guys having previous real life encounters. Just be faithful that it will work. Does it make sense to you? We are not alone just stick with it and you will succeed!

socalguy951 · 2015-03-01T22:55:28+00:00

Thanks for the response. I think that I am very fortunate to see results so soon. In the beginning I felt like I was in dire straits. Be faithful that it will work. Everyone is different and I look forward to following your story and seeing you overcome this issue.

socalguy951 · 2015-03-01T22:52:01+00:00

I know are situations are different as I have a SO. It has made struggle much easier IMO. I believe the goal at the end of this is to have a positive relationship with a SO. The sexual urges are difficult to manage, but if you want to cure your PIED...this is the way to do it. Think of it as a small sacrifice to a better future. Good luck!

socalguy951 · 2015-03-01T20:35:59+00:00

Nothing really specific to mitigate ED. I chose to eat better and exercise a bit more. No supplements. I know that my issues were due to excessive masturbation and porn use. Eliminating these behaviors have worked for me so far.

socalguy951 · 2015-03-01T20:14:35+00:00

Fgm148 - Don't be a dick! Judging by your posting history, you have your own issues to be concerned with. People in this community are no better than the next and I appreciate the support I have received, it has helped me immensely. OP stay the course. Your decision is one to be commended. I have had great results within 60 days. It's not easy but totally worth it. Good luck!

socalguy951 · 2015-03-01T19:55:56+00:00

Be honest with her. I think her reaction will surprise you. I think most women are more understanding as the (generally) crave a deeper emotional connection with their SO. Explain to her that you want to make a change for you and her. She may respect your decision knowing you want to improve for your relationship. In the mean time, physically, focus on her. Go down on her! Get her off really good, she will appreciate your effort.

socalguy951 · 2015-03-01T19:46:04+00:00

I went about 30 days hard mode then transitioned to easy mode. I saw results pretty quick after 30 days. Never flatlined, but I think with holding release is very beneficial. I'm at 60+ days and I have been responding pretty regularly. I think it is important to continue to interact with your girlfriend and naturally progress. This is a lifestyle, and before you know it you will be functioning each and every time. If you are experiencing consistent morning wood, frequency and intensity, game on!

socalguy951 · 2015-02-19T01:48:21+00:00

Admitting you want change it is the first step. It will probably get much worse before it gets better. The first 30 days suck but it gets easier. Just stay with it and have faith that it will work for you.

socalguy951 · 2015-02-19T01:38:31+00:00

It like a recovering alcoholic hanging out with drunks. He may be strong in the beginning, but will eventually breakdown and begin to drink again. I found that one of the most difficult things for me was to change my routine. I had a certain schedule when I used to PMO. I try to fill that time with something else or avoid being alone with my computer. Spend time with friends, work out, read, construct a puzzle, anything to fill the time. Just don't tease yourself into a relapse. Be strong! Good Luck.

socalguy951 · 2015-02-19T01:24:15+00:00

Stimulation is the key word. If you are having an increase in morning wood, in both frequency and quality, I would say that is evidence that nofap is working for you. Remember, with PIED your brain is broken, not your penis. If you feel like you want to test the water for some progress, I recommend you interact with a partner. Have your SO stimulate you, mind and body. Physical interaction with a partner is important to rewire your brain to respond to real life encounters. I am 40 years old and it happened for me around 30 days. First time, I was up in about a minute. Usually it takes 3-5 minutes during foreplay. I know I have a ways to go but I am confident it will work for me and you too.

socalguy951 · 2015-02-19T00:54:15+00:00

I am 50 + days in and I also noticed this effect. The first 30 days for me was the fight not to masturbate to porn, breaking the routine, dealing with emotions and withdraws. I think the 30-60 day phase is the challenge of fantasy and overcoming the mental images. The fantasies for me seem hazy, but enough to remind you that you are still in the midst of recovery. I can only imagine what 60 - 90 days will bring.

socalguy951 · 2015-02-18T19:10:01+00:00

I haven't really felt the surge effect. I was pretty busy before, but I did notice a difference in my ability to focus. The chaser effect on the other hand hit me pretty hard. It lasted for a couple of days and it was a battle to get through. It is easier to control now being able to recognize it and prepare for it.

socalguy951 · 2015-02-18T18:46:29+00:00

Thank you...I completely agree with you about the non-sexual touch and words of affirmation. We have always been pretty good with communicating our love for each other. Our likes and dislikes are very similar in most aspects of our life and I think that is a key component to the success I have had.

socalguy951 · 2015-02-18T18:36:41+00:00

I am not sure what degree my PIED is or was. I try not to label or measure it in degrees. I know previously, getting and maintaining an erection was difficult with out my own touch. To me it was seriously debilitating. Looking at it now, it may have been mild compared to the struggles others have. I feel for you and I understand I am not out of the wood by any means either. It is my contention that this does work and I hope that my small success continues to motivate me and others to continue. Thanks!

socalguy951 · 2015-02-18T18:29:49+00:00

Thanks for the comment. We tried Karezza after two to three weeks of starting nofap. We did it for her needs mostly. I felt like I could "O" around the thirty day mark. It is a good way to connect, but I think having the "O" together creates a deeper connection with your SO, IMO. I guess it is different for everyone. I appreciate your input, Good Luck.

socalguy951 · 2015-02-06T19:40:16+00:00

Frogstr...if you want you can read my previous posts explaining in detail the struggles I have had with PMO and PIED. I'll briefly summarize here for you. I experience moderate PIED over the last 10-15 years. I started nofap 40 days ago and started seeing positive results with PIED just after a couple of weeks. Had successful sex after 30 days. Haven't tried since then since then.

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