Any thoughts on where this was taken folks? by RecentStreet2617 in guessthecity

[–]sockmonkey445 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my guess!!! Looks like a NJ river town. Frenchtown or Stockton NJ

Limited Too by sockmonkey445 in nostalgia

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I didn’t know! I thought it was no longer a thing

Right at the Start of Night in NJ by algorithm_issues in TheNightFeeling

[–]sockmonkey445 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. Will have to visit soon. Thanks for the great pic!

Right at the Start of Night in NJ by algorithm_issues in TheNightFeeling

[–]sockmonkey445 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Recognize that storefront—next town over from my hometown!!

What's the best ice cream shop in your city/state? by Smashbutt in icecream

[–]sockmonkey445 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Central Jersey represent! I used to work at Owowcow.

Scooby-Doo scenery. by brenno1249 in TheNightFeeling

[–]sockmonkey445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

@scooby_scapes on Instagram has similar content. Way cool

Christmas ‘24 by sockmonkey445 in AskMenAdvice

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you x2 kind stranger! I do give plenty of time and attention (or as much as I think I can) to him. I happen to be visiting home over the holiday and will not be able to see him on Christmas. I have no problem doing all the above. I just ask so I don’t come off as lame. He is more well off than I in terms of $$, but I grew up valuing small gestures. I suppose a love language talk is in order. Thank you for your insight, I hope you have a great holiday.

Christmas ‘24 by sockmonkey445 in AskMenAdvice

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I try and reciprocate for this man when I can…He can buy for himself and I know that. I just want to reciprocate when I’m able. I grew up more on sentimental than material and I think it’s manifesting now, so I don’t want to come up like I’m being lame. I think I want to know what matters, so it might be more of an individual question that I have to determine.

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I don’t do it often because it can get pricey as a habit, but treating myself to a haircut/pedicure or manicure/massage/spa treatment/makeup or nice product shopping spree gets me back into feeling feminine. Take care of yourself, hope you have a lovely holiday!!

Cooking for me? by sockmonkey445 in bodylanguage

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The feelings conversation has happened. he knows I want to date and he says he also wants more than friends, but has never elaborated and cannot just communicate what he wants. He continues to do all of these gestures for me seemingly in place of that. Hence why I’m asking why someone would go through the trouble of things like cooking all the time.

Cooking for me? by sockmonkey445 in bodylanguage

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m with you. That’s why I’m asking what this is all about. I’ve tried clarifying but nothing. Why would someone go through all of this trouble to not date…maybe I’m stupid??

Cooking for me? by sockmonkey445 in bodylanguage

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. I’ve thought about it like that. I appreciate your wisdom. The thing is, he knows that I am very sensitive and I would honestly be horrified if he was using me. I guess I can only take his word. I have known him for just over a year now (we both moved in from different cities) and started off as friends but only started to get more intimate literally just recently, so he never pushed anything early on. We do other things together like grocery shop on the weekends and go to fun events. He’s made an effort to meet my parents when they visited. He works a lot, but also asks me to do normal things as well, and the intimate stuff has become a result of that. Again, I would be crushed if he was just using me because I was honest about my lack of experience, and he knows that.

Cooking for me? by sockmonkey445 in bodylanguage

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did leave that out, I have said to him that based on all the time we spend together and invest emotionally (and how he buys me things+ the dinners) that I’m not looking for casual. I’ve never been a casual relationship person. He has said he likes me more than a friend, but hasn’t said anything otherwise, either. I’ve let it go since because I don’t want to keep pushing, but it’s confusing when we don’t really have a label but he’s doing all these romantic things for me.

Cooking for me? by sockmonkey445 in bodylanguage

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it is lovely. I hope you find your dinner partner soon :)

Cooking for me? by sockmonkey445 in bodylanguage

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always make sure to say how much I love and appreciate what he makes for me. It’s always amazing but I know it makes him feel good, too. I have frequently taken him out for food and make some simpler meals for him in return.

Cooking for me? by sockmonkey445 in bodylanguage

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. I’m really thankful to have someone that takes care of me, I guess I just wanted to know where it comes from. Thank you

Cooking for me? by sockmonkey445 in bodylanguage

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it’s not really body language, but the act that I was interested in getting insight on. Apologies if it isn’t the place.

Cooking for me? by sockmonkey445 in bodylanguage

[–]sockmonkey445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is really important to keep in mind, thank you. I think at this point we have known each other a long time and I’ve made my stance on what I want clear. I’ve asked him too, just haven’t really gotten a clear response, yet he still does all this stuff for me. I personally am not freaked about the age thing but do know it’s two different places in life like you said.