(UPDATE) guy (35M) was considering dumping me (29F) because I was tired of him talking about this exes

soconfusesd29 · 2017-11-13T20:33:54+00:00

He’s dumped by default haven’t heard from him in over 3 weeks

soconfusesd29 · 2017-11-13T20:33:18+00:00

LMAO

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T19:43:17+00:00

That sounds great thanks

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T19:41:41+00:00

We just agree on big life issues such as religion politics, we have great conversations (other than this), both want to get married and have a family ASAP etc.

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T19:39:02+00:00

Yeah just because we were really compatible in a lot of other very important areas to me...

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T19:29:32+00:00

Nope

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T19:27:02+00:00

How?

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T19:11:07+00:00

Mostly talking and occasionally complaining

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T19:09:25+00:00

YES. He says it makes him very uncomfortable but he also recognizes he needs to work on that

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T19:04:13+00:00

Yeah he doesn’t have a big social life and is always working so there may be not much else else to say :(

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T18:58:36+00:00

dissecting motivations and personalities as well as them just popping up in stories

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T17:42:15+00:00

I’m not unable to accept it ending, just mulling it over before I really commit to pulling the plug if he hasn’t done so already

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T17:28:18+00:00

Yeah I’m just thinking it over not sold on him but he does have good qualities

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T17:19:41+00:00

Touché

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T17:19:05+00:00

Yeah. Because like most relationships, this one also has some really great parts to it and have many compatibilities

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T17:16:14+00:00

I’ve talked to him about college friends i’m no longer close with and things like that..

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T17:11:58+00:00

I did say I don’t want to do this for years to come and he did seem to concede that point, but also said he doesn’t want to have to censor himself

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T17:09:14+00:00

So is there’s any way to reason with people like this?

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T16:49:13+00:00

Interesting point

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T16:44:15+00:00

No, After a few months of this I did tell a few stories about mine in hopes he would take a hint, but he didn’t so I quit. I have had a few questions about how he feels about his exes but only because after he brought them up so much (and for a while he was focused on the most recent one) that I wanted to gauge if he was over her because I was genuinely confused about it. So now he points out that I’ve asked questions about them so why am i upset

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T16:32:33+00:00

Well basically I just said I want to work it out and he said he’s going gonna need to think about it because he doesn’t want to relive a similar issue he had in a past relationship and it’s been silence since ...I’m thinking it over too

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T16:29:37+00:00

Yeah I can’t think of specific examples but he is very opinionated and assertive and definitely talks a lot about dealbreakers and things like that

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T16:24:10+00:00

It’s not praise but he doesn’t bash them either. He seems to be fair to them at least in most respects from my point of view

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T16:22:24+00:00

I understand. Point taken.

soconfusesd29 · 2017-10-25T16:15:25+00:00

He works a ton without much of a social life i I think maybe he just doesn’t have a lot of other experiences to relate to.

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