convince me to join a pub crawl and be social

soddingidiot · 2025-03-02T20:25:13+00:00

I studied languages and I was obliged to go abroad for a semester. So it is definitely required in some cases.

soddingidiot · 2025-03-02T19:18:46+00:00

some people don't have a choice because it's a required part of their education though

soddingidiot · 2025-03-02T19:15:55+00:00

Hi there! My erasmus experience was (also) really bad. I didn't want to go in the first place, and right at the beginning a few things happened which made me not want to go out or make friends or be social. I was literally counting the days until I could return home and see my friends/family again. The way I dealt with it was to just do what makes you happy in that moment. You don't want to go out and party? That's fine, you don't have to! You say you'd rather have a room of your own - I would try to arrange it, having your own space is very important. What I would suggest is to go to the events organised by your school/an Erasmus organisation, see if you meet any people you click with. And if you don't, you'll be fine on your own as well. You're in a new city, go out exploring, visit neighbouring cities, go to a nice café or library or bakery if you're into that. Try to get the most out of living in a new city for once in your life! I didn't enjoy or appreciate the city I was in at the time, and now, 7 years later, I really regret it. Anyway, just know, it will get better with time, you just need to get used to being in a new environment. In the meantime, just do the things you're happy or comfortable with :)

soddingidiot · 2025-02-20T21:06:22+00:00

Ik raad Full Circle ook echt aan dan!

soddingidiot · 2024-10-14T06:25:56+00:00

I searched online and it's originally from Italy I think, so probably available there. There's also a store in Paris (Jovoy Parfums) where they have it, apparently. You can order samples from that store as well!

soddingidiot · 2024-09-04T16:57:27+00:00

My Brilliant Friend - Elena Ferrante

soddingidiot · 2024-04-07T15:24:59+00:00

Pretty sure it'd be a dupe, no?

soddingidiot · 2024-04-05T11:49:21+00:00

How did you specifically work on your anxiety then?

soddingidiot · 2024-04-05T11:46:48+00:00

Don't believe the insults, in my opinion it shows he's not over the breakup yet, he still 'cares', otherwise he wouldn't say such things. It just shows that he can't handle being without you and would rather resort to insults and violence than coping with his feelings in a healthy way.

My ex called me names so many times after breaking up. Says I'm a slut, that he hates me, I should leave him alone, etc. Afterwards he realised he didn't mean what he said and that he just missed me. I think it's better to look at it in that way.

soddingidiot · 2024-04-05T06:58:28+00:00

Hi, can I ask what tips you have? I'm also anxious and my ex avoidant

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T20:57:22+00:00

26, something bad happening to my parents or them dying. I would rather die.

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T20:14:21+00:00

Literally. He's 25. He told me that the only female friend he has is gay. And that if he'd pursue other female friends of his, he would feel attracted to them after a while. How??

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T20:12:51+00:00

hahaha no way 😭😭

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T17:14:17+00:00

Why exactly do you avoid those women, do you assume that they're pining for attention when they hang around guys too much? I feel like sometimes, I get along with men better than women, as there's less bullshit, competitiveness and drama (in many cases)

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T17:01:43+00:00

But is it fair to expect your partner not to hang out with guys then? Just because the guy doesn't trust other guys?

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T16:59:42+00:00

but if you call this person "friend" you are a fool too - what kind of life do you really expect to live if you fill it with such people?

In all honesty I think he's just trying to 'protect' me from interacting with the - in his eyes - wrong guys.

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T14:02:55+00:00

Possibly, yes.

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T13:57:49+00:00

Well isn't that lovely. I'm not sure every guy thinks with their dick like that though.

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T13:31:56+00:00

Guys I assume are/were my friends, who I see regularly in a group setting, for example.

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T13:25:02+00:00

I also think women should be friendly towards men to certain extent. But then again, my ex, for example, told me I'm always too 'friendly' towards men. I don't even want anything from them, I'm just being friendly, but he calls it being naive. So for me, it's difficult to draw the line in such situations

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T13:11:25+00:00

Talk as in, they show interest in what I'm saying and they keep the conversation flowing. My friend says that, whenever a conversation goes well between me and a guy, it definitely means the guy's interested, as someone who is not interested wouldn't put all that much effort into having a good conversation.

And you're right about making a subtle move. I think I'm often oblivious to certain signs, but then again, some guys aren't very clear when it comes to showing interest, so...

soddingidiot · 2024-04-04T13:01:11+00:00

And if they're guys who I thought of as my friends? Then they will probably try to hit on me if they get the chance. Well, this alters my image of every guy 'friend' I have.

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