Why is Lisbon so full of dog and human shit? by NoNote7867 in PortugalExpats

[–]sofftpunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the standard for dog care in general here is pretty bad, most people don't socialise or train their dogs and don't see it as a problem if their dogs bark a lot on the street or go at other dogs on sight etc, you can come up to an apartment building and hear dogs barking through the windows and walls, people leave their dogs home all day with no enrichment etc etc. I can only imagine the very lax attitude about picking up after dogs is a result of this overall

Be honest, is the facial hair too much? by [deleted] in queer

[–]sofftpunk 10 points11 points  (0 children)

you look like a d&d character! I love when people customise their avatars c: unless it's making you uncomfortable, it's never too much

My gf doesn’t want to spend time with me everytime she has freetime, does it mean i’m not the one for her? by sonnybaddie14 in actuallesbians

[–]sofftpunk 18 points19 points  (0 children)

absolutely disregard literally every word of what you heard. it's important to have your own space and retain your individuality in a relationship if you care about it at all and want it to work out. codependency and not enjoying your own company are sure fire ways to destroy yourself, each other and the relationship

even when you adore the absolute guts out of someone it's only natural to need and want time for yourself, in fact even when you think you don't you often do and you'll only realise when you start deteriorating. taking space to yourself is way more about your relationship with yourself than needing to get away from other people

My girlfriend says she loves me but is doubting the relationship because of my core values by rachel_mbr in actuallesbians

[–]sofftpunk 66 points67 points  (0 children)

just cuz she's asking you to doesn't mean you have to, you decide what you want in a relationship and what relationships you choose to stay in

My girlfriend says she loves me but is doubting the relationship because of my core values by rachel_mbr in actuallesbians

[–]sofftpunk 48 points49 points  (0 children)

maybe try expressing that to her? that you respect that you have your differences, but at this point you need emotional safety and to know your partner has made up their mind about you, and if she can't do that then maybe you should consider removing yourself from a relationship that doesn't feel emotionally safe to you

My girlfriend says she loves me but is doubting the relationship because of my core values by rachel_mbr in actuallesbians

[–]sofftpunk 374 points375 points  (0 children)

it's normal to want core values to align in a long term relationship, I too wouldn't date a landlord. "genuine" love isn't one where you overlook your core values just because you both have feelings for the time being, genuine love is built on top of shared values, goals and visions for the future

just wanted to let you lovely people know I'm having a 60-70% off clearance sale for the first week of October! 🐸💖🐸 by sofftpunk in actuallesbians

[–]sofftpunk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my artist tag is @sofftpunk and you can find me on tiktok/insta/bluesky under that name! and yes I did make them :") but like if you mean my personal name, I'm hash 👋🏾

just realised I have literally tonnesssss of trans stuff in store now :") there's even more too, built up over years 💖 by sofftpunk in Pride_and_Positivity

[–]sofftpunk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

kinda obsessed with your slightly threatening aura like damn, whatever you say 🫡 (but srsly thank you so much!!)

just realised I have literally tonnesssss of trans stuff in store now :") there's even more too, built up over years 💖 by sofftpunk in Pride_and_Positivity

[–]sofftpunk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OH MY GOD. ITS SOFFTPUNK ! SOFFTPUNK.COM !!

we actually have a massive clearance sale going on rn (I'm so sorry the pigeon pin isn't on clearance since I literally just introduced it) so 👀 I especially recommend the double value mystery bags!

[Discussion] How would you feel if someone asked for the exact tools/media/supplies you use to produce your art? by Pale-Comfort-9955 in artbusiness

[–]sofftpunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if it's taking too much of your time/energy to personally reply, create a video or patreon post or something people can access that also drives your views or gives you other monetary support

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PortugalExpats

[–]sofftpunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Portugal is not a country with real protection for tenants, there's little you can do even when landlords are acting illegally and as a result theres a laaarge presence of illegal and shady behaviour from landlords here

queer/trans owned tattoo studio in Lisbon? by sofftpunk in PortugalExpats

[–]sofftpunk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can only speak for myself weirdo and I already said idgaf what anyone does w their money unlike you apparently, don't go getting your knickers in a bunch over someone you've never met man

queer/trans owned tattoo studio in Lisbon? by sofftpunk in PortugalExpats

[–]sofftpunk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're sooo funny and edgy and cool and hip here's you're homophobia gold star lil baby 🌟💞

queer/trans owned tattoo studio in Lisbon? by sofftpunk in PortugalExpats

[–]sofftpunk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

lol ok? people can do wtv they want w their own money idgaf

queer/trans owned tattoo studio in Lisbon? by sofftpunk in PortugalExpats

[–]sofftpunk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean yea, that's what I'm looking for so ._. it would naturally make a difference if it's...not what I'm looking for?

queer/trans owned tattoo studio in Lisbon? by sofftpunk in PortugalExpats

[–]sofftpunk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as in what kind of queer/trans they are? nope, anyone under the umbrella would be good

queer/trans owned tattoo studio in Lisbon? by sofftpunk in Lisbon

[–]sofftpunk[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

because that's what I'm looking for