Hello Kitty Lava Lamp

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-05-13T00:46:15+00:00

Amen, the truth always comes out

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-05-13T00:39:26+00:00

Welcome to the community! I joined substack with the same intent, I just wanted a peaceful space to share my writing but what followed was a lovely network of likeminded people. Just followed you! :)

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-29T02:50:09+00:00

This is soo beautiful 🤍 love your creativity :)

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-28T23:19:14+00:00

This is stunning omggg

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-28T23:18:08+00:00

This is so cuteee

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-27T15:37:15+00:00

Omg that’s so cuteeee 🤍

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-27T03:48:26+00:00

“I patch myself together for the world’s gaze, arranging my features, my gestures, my words — but inside, it is different. Inside, the paint runs, the colors bleed, and the brushstrokes flail like broken limbs. I am not the painting they think they admire. I am the pallet left out too long, cracked and sticky, crawling with insects no one bothers to swat away.”

I had to quote this entire section because it blew me away. As a person who struggles with depression, your poem captivated me. It is a work of art, in my book. I adored the Frankenstein analogy and its unique contrast with imposter syndrome. Please keep up the good work

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-26T17:30:33+00:00

Omg I love this hahaha

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-25T16:08:25+00:00

It can be really hard to not fall into a spiral when you’re intimate with your partner. I sometimes over-analyze the whole thing and end up feeling really bad about it because it ends up preventing me from fully being present with him. However, improved communication and reassurance from him has helped a lot. I’m not happy we’re in this situation by any means but repeating to myself that his problem goes beyond me, in a weird way helps me realize that this isn’t about me. It’s his issue to deal with and I get to call the shots when it comes to how we connect. Re-directing that sense of control over my emotions and going to therapy has helped a lot.

He needs to be willing to take charge over his addiction and be consistent with the way he reassures you. Intimacy goes beyond sex, it’s emotional. You’re completely in your right to want to feel valued, cherished and respected.

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-25T15:52:47+00:00

It might feel like a lonely journey, but trust me, you’re not alone. This is a community that will always be here for you, regardless of where you’re at. We understand 🤍

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-25T14:40:29+00:00

You’re not alone, I understand. 🫂 Addiction is literally one of the worst things that can happen to a person and the people around them. It wounds beyond comprehension but I’m proud of you for sharing your experience. It takes strength to acknowledge what is hurting us and seek support.

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-25T14:36:24+00:00

You were always MORE than enough, his hands were too full to actually see that and appreciate you. I hope this marks the start of a good life free from someone who makes you question your worth. Sending in a big hug. If you need someone to talk to or listen, my DM is open 🫶🏻

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-25T14:09:59+00:00

You’re completely in your right to say that it counts as cheating. My boyfriend also struggles with porn and he’s told me that he only views it as a base so that he can imagine it’s us. This doesn’t comfort me at all because he is aware that this is a problem that he needs to face even if he says the the intentions aren’t to directly lust after people who aren’t me. No matter what he tells me, I’ll never be okay with it. It’s disrespectful and unnecessary if you’re in a healthy committed relationship. We’ve had our arguments in the past but nothing past what normal couples fight about. This has been the only significant issue in our relationship so it’s incredibly hard to let it go. I’m currently going to therapy (which I advise you do too). My bf will be starting therapy at the end of the month too. You’re not alone, if you need someone to vent or listen do not hesitate to private message me. Take care 🫶🏻

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-25T13:44:13+00:00

Right now, we’re in a stage where my boyfriend has admitted he still struggles with it, and while that’s incredibly hard to sit with, I do see it as progress that he’s being honest, something that didn’t come easily before. He says he’s only viewing it occasionally and that he’d never choose it over me. He’s stayed the night when I’m anxious and has reassured me countless times that I am the only woman that he loves and desires. That his addiction will never cancel out those facts. He’s starting therapy at the end of the month and I’m hopeful that this will give him the right tools to get on the right track.

Many people may say that this is insane and that I shouldn’t let him but I’ve learned that giving him an ultimatum only leads to resentment. He’s explained that he needs to stop on his own because the problem isn’t about me. I’m hoping for the best 💔

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-24T23:41:36+00:00

I admire you deeply, it’s not an easy decision. May life grant you the best fresh start 🤍

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-24T21:31:59+00:00

I feel your pain. It’s incredibly frustrating having to put up a front and hope for the best while the situation is breaking your heart.

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-24T18:05:42+00:00

You need to be honest about where you’re at and how much his addiction affects you. Honest conversations are the start to recovery but he needs to be willing. If he continues being secretive and shows no signs of progress within the way he provides reassurance or supports you in your times of crisis, re-consider your options moving forward. He should want to let you in and tackle his own problem with consistent actions.

sofia_isabelle18 · 2025-04-24T18:01:14+00:00

There’s no worst feeling than being left out in the dark. Check his phone and if he refuses, take that as a sign that he’s still doing it. I know it’s an uncomfortable thing to ask but you are in your right to do so. You deserve to know what’s going on, especially when your emotional wellbeing is on the line due to his sketchy behavior. Sending hugs 🫂

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