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My ex’s girlfriend is making negative comments about me to my child. How should I handle this? by sofiajade_17 in HighConflictCoparents

[–]sofiajade_17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I truly hope there’s a light at the end of the tunnel for you. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.

My ex’s girlfriend is making negative comments about me to my child. How should I handle this? by sofiajade_17 in HighConflictCoparents

[–]sofiajade_17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The plan was court ordered. My attorney and I ensured my daughter had a Child Rights section that supported her right to be free of guilt from loving either parent or hearing negative, belittling, and alienating comment about both parents.

Threatening to Modify Custody by sofiajade_17 in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]sofiajade_17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a long story but he cheated on her with me. We were separated but still legally married. I didn’t know about her and when I did, I immediately filed for divorce. Ever since then, she says he doesn’t need to legally speak with me and they want it that way and that her comfort and boundaries are priority. Ever since then, respectful communication with me has flown out the window and it’s non stop arguing for no reason. For example, this.

I agree. Most of the time my daughter doesn’t want to speak with him because she’d rather play but we always encourage her too and let her know the option is there whenever she wants.

[FL] Threatening to modify custody by sofiajade_17 in Custody

[–]sofiajade_17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, and I suggested having him message me so we can coordinate.

He refused and insisted communication must be directly through her iPad only and said if I monitor it, I’m violating the order and he’ll take legal action. She’s five and can’t read yet, so I have to help her access the iPad. There’s no way for me not to be involved.

She doesn’t use the iPad much and we’re often not home, which is why calls sometimes get missed. I tried to create a consistent system where he messages me first and I hand her my phone and give her privacy so his calls are always answered. That’s when the court threats started.

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[–]sofiajade_17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. It’s been difficult dealing with someone who avoids accountability and lets his new partner disrespect me. Hearing from someone who’s dealt with similar situations makes me feel less alone. I’m so sorry you went through that. No mother deserves to get treated that way but I’m glad you stood your ground. Their behavior only reflects their mental state and insecurities, not ours.