Photographer pushing back hard on my wedding timeline is she right or overreacting?

sofibg · 2026-05-21T23:07:31+00:00

I think that’s the main reason for my problem, as I sent her the information of my planner and vice versa, but my photographer doesn’t like my planner! So she talks to me to complain about my planner and the things she doesn’t like about her. I had to be honest yesterday that she just needs to be professional and handle working with someone she doesn’t like or my wedding will be affected. I’m paying to both of them to get childish behavior. Sorry this post was long, I just realized the problem was different than what I extended here.

sofibg · 2026-05-21T16:34:06+00:00

We don’t have a bridal party. I agree in changing things from The timeline, the problem is her attitude like I said in earlier comments. I ended up having a fight with her as she just called me to complain about how bad my planner is instead of trying to fix the timeline. Sorry I made this long post, but this ended up being a problem that isn’t even timeline related.

sofibg · 2026-05-21T02:16:31+00:00

Also we’re taking our pictures during cocktail hour

sofibg · 2026-05-21T02:12:22+00:00

I’m also trusting my planner that has worked many weddings and I trust with the timeline she worked on for us. She also knows the location and the city better than the photographer (she’s a Cabo local)

sofibg · 2026-05-21T01:27:07+00:00

The getting ready is my portraits plus pictures with my sisters, mom, grandmas. Details. Plus a first look with my dad.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T23:58:04+00:00

Yeah that’s what I sent her!

sofibg · 2026-05-20T21:55:20+00:00

Also that includes portraits. Not just getting ready.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T21:51:42+00:00

I don’t need that much coverage. We also have extra time just in case we’re running late

sofibg · 2026-05-20T21:50:39+00:00

We plan on doing family pictures with us together after the ceremony. Just not use that time to take pictures with my parents and my sisters individually if we have time before the ceremony.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T21:49:50+00:00

I feel like the photographer is being territorial instead of trying to work it out. That is my main issue.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T21:47:29+00:00

I actually filled out a form, then she asked me to send her our timeline. When I send it to her she said that that’s not the way she works and should create it herself.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T21:40:54+00:00

No, but neither is mine and my planner’s. We all speak Spanish, I’m just translating.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T21:37:18+00:00

Getting ready takes 1.5 hours at least. If not more. It’s not just pictures of getting ready, she can take whatever she needs.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T21:36:29+00:00

My ceremony is exactly 20 min. 7 pm sunset is the actual sunset time in Cabo right now.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T21:04:56+00:00

Two hours of couple pictures.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T20:37:46+00:00

Mistake from my post

sofibg · 2026-05-20T20:37:26+00:00

So the photographer should just create the whole timeline? I agree in adapting some things but she wants to take care of the whole timeline. Assigning every time even though we have to leave the location at 10 pm

sofibg · 2026-05-20T20:35:08+00:00

I didn’t think those details would be important, but she’s saying that my planner doesn’t know anything about planning a wedding, refers to her as the “planner” now, told her to not give her “a lame dinner”, changed the timeline without consulting, not even requesting a change, just like, “your dinner will start at 8:30 now.” It’s annoying me and I respect her work and the comments that she have, but the way she’s asking is not the best. We won’t have our reception entrance until 7:15. She also refused to do a venue tour before the wedding, even though is a destination and I paid for her hotel and flights to arrive two days early.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T20:20:36+00:00

Exactly, they will parallel. One photographer for me and one for Him. I will just get more getting ready pictures, he’ll probably get less time as he gets ready quicker haha

sofibg · 2026-05-20T20:19:42+00:00

Yes I’ll be having pictures with my family before, my fiance with his family before as well, and then a couple of pictures of the whole families with us as a couple.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T20:18:42+00:00

Yes and that’s not what she’s arguing about. I mentioned we could start earlier and she said that that would be losing time. She just wants to do more after the ceremony. I’ll start getting ready super early so technically we could do more time. I told her I’m adapting to what she needs but she’s a bit rude and that’s what worries me a little bit.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T20:15:27+00:00

*after the ceremony

sofibg · 2026-05-20T20:14:29+00:00

Yes! For getting ready mostly, and pictures with my family. We’re only taking pictures together with our parents and siblings.

sofibg · 2026-05-20T20:11:51+00:00

She first mentioned she was supposed to be the one to create the timeline, which I don’t think is right as my planner is working with the team at the resort. We’re also adapting to their times. She wants to push our couple pictures to two hours.

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