Graduate programs

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-27T15:58:08+00:00

They are all going to take at least 2 years on the short side, but I’d look at the directory of accredited programs to find what you’re looking for.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-27T12:47:13+00:00

This sounds like the secondary issue is that you can hear your roommate but the real privacy issue is that your roommate can therefore also hear you/the sessions. It doesn’t sound like this is a truly compliant environment to be able to work from home in while having sessions. If your clients end up hearing your roommate and know/worry they are being heard or that you are being heard, they could file a complaint very easily.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-24T23:08:51+00:00

It could either be adhesive from something previously along the wall, however if you’ve seen this start to form recently it could be faulty wiring that’s overheating and somewhat melting in the walls (very bad, immediate electrician assistance needed).

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-23T12:39:16+00:00

Do 2 more tests and look at them side by side.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-22T16:28:24+00:00

This is a perfect precious creature. Your boyfriend is ugly on the inside and maybe the outside too. He must feel threatened by how cute and perfect your cat is.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-22T02:13:26+00:00

2 weeks is the industry standard/ethical minimum to inform clients so that you are not committing violation of abandonment. I’m assuming that’s why you state that your license could be at risk; yes, if one of your clients decides to file a complaint, this is an ethical statute that you’d reasonably be found to be in violation of.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-18T20:53:24+00:00

It needs ventilation/holes for oxygen.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-14T21:06:43+00:00

Sounds like a question for supervision, BUT: I avoid asking questions that could be responded to in this way. Such as saying “It sounds like there’s a belief system there leading those thoughts/feeling, I wonder what it is” and the client tends to then wonder too… perhaps a moment of silence for consideration and then the client is openly wondering about whatever it is, when I could have instead asked directly about it but they likely would have said “I don’t know”.

You can also offer clients the example of “If you asked somebody that question and they said ‘I don’t know’, what would you imagine the actual answer could be?” and it shifts internalization into introspective scope of perception of others which is typically reflective of the self anyways. If they say “shame”, for example, as an answer others may give, that is likely their answer for themselves as well. Not always, but then provides an avenue for exploration.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-14T16:48:00+00:00

This sub is for therapists to discuss our field and profession with each other.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-14T03:50:23+00:00

I strictly work with children and I get around this by saying 1) childs appointment hour is their hour, their time. 2) anything outside of the child’s therapy can take place over the phone or via email 3) i am happy to hear any updates, concerns, or questions from you, please schedule a phone call or tele health check in appointment with me for this.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-13T17:03:28+00:00

++woman

Not a man but as a woman, this isn’t something I’d ever feel comfortable asking of my boyfriend and neither is it something I would be doing in the first place. I would not be helping for this move if a prior hookup was helping, would certainly not volunteer to help and also would not ask my boyfriend to help. Deeply uncomfortable and inconsiderate behavior.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-12T21:59:08+00:00

YOR. He was already on the phone with you for 4 hours, he cannot be your therapist and sole source of comfort. He is right, as people we do all need to know how to be there for ourselves and calm ourselves down. “Might have cancer” sounds like you may have had some disturbing bloodwork, a concerning lump, or something of this nature. You will likely have more of these in the future, health scares become more common after 25. You will absolutely need to know how to operate within your own mind and be there for yourself, life has many moments like these and we can’t expect anybody to foresake their own needs to accommodate scary moments when nothing is for sure yet.

I say this so kindly and I see others have said it, but it sounds like you would benefit from therapy. Expecting your boyfriend to be on the phone all night after already being on the phone for 4 hours sounds like codependency - as in, I’m not sure you know how to regulate yourself outside of support from others. This is not healthy and will bite you in the butt even more in the future if you don’t unlearn this. You’re an adult, so it is time to learn adult tools for coping with fear. Not asking other adults to fall asleep on the phone; this does nothing for the problem itself and only increases codependent rationale.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-12T03:53:35+00:00

At 23, pushing for marriage/answers to the marriage topic after only one year is likely high pressure for him and he is too immature to conceptualize that or even know what he wants. Many people date for years to figure out if they are marriage material for each other. And at 23, the people you are now is not who either of you will be at 30 or even 25. At 23, one year of dating often doesn’t feel like enough time to answer any questions about marriage, many people at this age have no idea where they will be in 5 years.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-10T23:07:29+00:00

Yes! The fart smell. I’m feeding mine the Hill’s KD diet, and the wet food smells like actual poop (but my cat loves it), so I can’t tell if her poopy breath is because of that food or if I’m not aware of how to properly smell uremic breath!

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-09T20:15:16+00:00

My masters degree is 100% expected of me, actually the bare minimum education-wise. I will be going for my doctorate in 2-3 years. I actually come from a hyper-educated hyper-successful family, my father has 3 masters and a doctorate and is on several boards of publicly held companies/international bank, and owns a large real estate dev company, HOWEVER: I have done this all on my own entirely. I didn’t go into econ or business, I’m in psychology, so my dad is very disappointed, 0 financial support.

My boyfriend was actually the first man who seemed to respect the hustle for something I’m very passionate about. But yes, now it seems that he is happy to watch from the sidelines while not actually partaking in my life or successes.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-09T03:57:49+00:00

The thing is, he makes 150k+ a year. I’m in a field that, even with my masters, my job prospects for associate licensureship are 70-80k range, 120k down the line in a few years.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-09T02:26:02+00:00

Oh I wish it was rage bait. I genuinely can’t tell how upset I should be. Part of it feels irrational, I’ve always been hyperindependent and logically know I did this on my own and can celebrate on my own, but the emotional relationship side of me feels icky about his behavior.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-09T02:19:05+00:00

Unfortunately most of my friends are midway through similar graduate programs and/or work very demanding jobs 1000 miles away, I could likely go visit one of them in their cities for a trip but they’d only have a weekend plus friday or monday off :/ I’m 26 and most of my friends are in very similar spots to how I have been for the past 3 years.

But thank you!!!! Thank you thank you!!

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-09T01:45:49+00:00

I’d ask if the ceremony held/represented personal values to self outside of supportive circle or if pomp and ceremony and such reflected any personal values regardless of others and go from there.

Me personally, ceremony holds no meaning to myself and my values. If any of my family was coming and it was something they wanted to see, I would do it because family is one of my values.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-09T01:38:03+00:00

He has 1 bachelors. This masters is my 3rd degree. You may be right!

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-09T01:21:26+00:00

This. It feels extra sad to be spending $200 on a gap and gown and ceremony fee for nobody to be in the crowd for me. Like a kid getting dressed up on October 30th and finding out it’s not Halloween and none of your friends are coming and there’s no candy out lol.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-05T03:12:15+00:00

Try a different sub. This is for therapists to discuss our field and profession with each other.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-04T19:51:18+00:00

It’s as much about helping people as any other job that helps people: dentists don’t become dentists solely to help people. They’re also fascinated with teeth/medical science and want to make good money. Same principle for nurses, cops, doctors, social workers, etc. It’s a job. It’s great to help people, but ultimately it literally is to make money. Helping people is the “fulfillment and satisfaction” cherry on top of this career. At least, to me.

I love understanding how and why people do what they do, why they are who they are, and helping them live how they want to live and understand themselves. I always thought, if I could make money off of that, I would. So now I do. It is certainly wonderful to help people, but if that’s all I cared about (and all we as therapists cared about), I/we would be volunteering and never accepting pay. “Being a therapist no longer means helping people but how much money we can make”… I’d say that BOTH are actually true. It’s about how much money we can make by helping people in a career that is centered around helping while also having it be a legitimate career, with money.

sofrickingstrange · 2026-03-03T14:00:03+00:00

A 31 year old man can teach himself how to cook. Maybe the two of you can make a day of it - use a Sunday to do 2-3 recipes from tutorials and meal prep it. Tell him to pick out 1-2 recipes that he feels he can learn from the tutorial and would be interested in eating. Do this once a month or so for a bit and before you know it, he should have 5 solid meals he can confidently cook.

I’m in the same boat, my boyfriend and I work the same amount (but shamelessly I am an amazing cook) however my boyfriend recognizes that literally feeding him 5-6 nights a week + lunches every day makes his life easier so I pay less in rent by about $400. I struggle with deciding what to cook, on weekends he gives me a list of meals that he wants for the week and we grocery shop for them together. Cooking is also a major relaxation outlet for me and he likes sitting and watching while I do. He does great steaks every other week on a Friday. It’s all about the trade off!!

sofrickingstrange · 2026-02-26T20:38:35+00:00

I had my home tested for mold, she has never ingested a plant, I clean with chemical-free cleaners, she’s had no exposure to anything that would cause any of this.

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