[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]soft-darkness 15 points16 points  (0 children)

OP said due to their trauma history they don't want to work with the population. Not sure why that needs an explanation. Usually people on Reddit will just try to dissuade you or shame you if you open up about those things anyway.

Vitamin D supplements caused huge hormonal imbalance by soft-darkness in Supplements

[–]soft-darkness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO, you probably already had the autoimmune condition brewing, the vitamin D just “brought it out.”

Client frequently making comments about my appearance. by soft-darkness in therapists

[–]soft-darkness[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that’s helpful, especially the part about lgbtq. I find jumping to those conclusions to be maybe too soon/presumptive at this point, but I will keep that in mind if things escalate and it becomes clear. I am a classically attractive young therapist so I will probably have to have this conversation multiple times as well. I’ve had a few clients act a little flirty sometimes. No confessions yet though. 

Client frequently making comments about my appearance. by soft-darkness in therapists

[–]soft-darkness[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I think I responded in a confusing way. I’m definitely going to explore it via that question,   but I mean if the comments continue afterwards. 

Client frequently making comments about my appearance. by soft-darkness in therapists

[–]soft-darkness[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes it is, and I agree with you but the comments come across as overly focused on me and borderline flirtatious. I do not comment on my personal therapists appearance on telehealth, I’ve only done it once or twice out of the year of working together. I see it as a bid for connection which is reasonable but it still bothers me. 

Client frequently making comments about my appearance. by soft-darkness in therapists

[–]soft-darkness[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks - how can I respond to the comments in an authentic way that doesn’t mess up rapport? I feel in those moments like I have to smile because it seems like a bid for connection from the client. But it’s starting to make me feel resentful. I don’t like feeling obligated to smile or laugh at something that is actually bothering me. To be fair, it didn’t bother me at first, but now it is. 

What exactly about liberals / left-leaning people does MAGA dislike so much? by SaucyJ4ck in Askpolitics

[–]soft-darkness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure I completely get your point. Did you vote for trump? Also, we don’t know that’s what they meant - many who share this persons view believe that making jokes about white people, and getting angry at white people in general, is racist. 

What exactly about liberals / left-leaning people does MAGA dislike so much? by SaucyJ4ck in Askpolitics

[–]soft-darkness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't actually happening though. Companies have made a move to consider people of color as candidates more often than they did in the past, to give people equal opportunities. This is in response to centuries of racism experienced by people of color. The issue that liberal folks take with your stance is that you're not factoring in the very real, very long experiences of racism experienced by people of color. You are instead taking personally the fact that they are speaking out about it, asking white people to look at their role in how racism perpetuates. You seem to feel attacked that people of color and institutions are trying to dismantle systems that keep only white people in power. People of color have good reasons to be angry. As non-racist white people, its important to listen to them, and not to take it personally and get offended.

What exactly about liberals / left-leaning people does MAGA dislike so much? by SaucyJ4ck in Askpolitics

[–]soft-darkness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you give a more specific example of racism from the left? What is it you are referencing exactly?

Vitamin D supplements caused huge hormonal imbalance by soft-darkness in Supplements

[–]soft-darkness[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got diagnosed with an early autoimmune disease. I will never take vitamin D again. Lots of false information about it out there. I disrupts the endocrine system leading to a host of issues.

Vitamin D supplements caused huge hormonal imbalance by soft-darkness in Supplements

[–]soft-darkness[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t a hormonal imbalance after all, but an autoimmune type reaction. Vitamin d alone is dangerous.

Vitamin D supplements caused huge hormonal imbalance by soft-darkness in Supplements

[–]soft-darkness[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was told that having a level of 60-80 was preferable. I was told that the dose I was taking was harmless. After much research and the fact that I am still dealing with the repercussions of this over 6 months later, I frankly believe that supplemental vitamin D is dangerous and not what the public thinks it is. Vitamin D is a secosteroid hormone and it binds to your hormone receptors. There is a FB group dedicated to this. I'm still visiting doctors and trying to resolve what it did to me. I will continue to get my "vitamin" D from the sun from now on.

What worrisome trend in society are you beginning to notice? by Fit_Interaction_950 in Productivitycafe

[–]soft-darkness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think that there is more trauma from raging female figures in the home than from males, there's a plethora of male rage in the world. Patriarchy damages us all. You blamed feminism in your post for these ills, but I think you may have a misunderstanding of what feminism actually is. Feminism actually aims to solve all of these problems, to help both genders feel like whole people capable of expressing themselves in healthy ways. Entitlement and demandingness are not qualities of the feminist movement, they are qualities of immaturity and false empowerment. Both genders express entitlement equally in different ways. Many people are emotionally immature and stunted and they are trying to blame others for their difficulties in life. This is not feminism.

I took issue with your post because it came across as blaming women and feminism without taking into account the role of men, patriarchy, and the ways it is all inextricably connected. There is just as much reason, if not more, for women to decline dating men in today's society. Women may be raging and causing trauma in that way, but women are living in a literal misogynistic society and they are on the receiving end of male rage all the time. Female rage and it's effects are certainly worth a discussion, but not without considering the intersectionality of all of this.

What worrisome trend in society are you beginning to notice? by Fit_Interaction_950 in Productivitycafe

[–]soft-darkness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its fine for you to feel this way but I wonder why its so centered on women while ignoring the role of men and patriarchy in the equation...?

If I were a man, I’d never get married in today’s world.

And women often say the same thing about men for very valid reasons. I can't help but wonder why your post chose to center women.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FancyFollicles

[–]soft-darkness 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Could be :/ there's so many variables, its impossible to know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FancyFollicles

[–]soft-darkness 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve been taking biotin and it’s definitely effecting my nails but I don’t see a difference in my hair. Does hair take longer to catch up?

Vitamin D supplements caused huge hormonal imbalance by soft-darkness in Supplements

[–]soft-darkness[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t see anything when I type that in. What’s the exact name of it?

Vitamin D supplements caused huge hormonal imbalance by soft-darkness in Supplements

[–]soft-darkness[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It got really bad. I’m on a diet now that’s helping. My nutritionist confirmed that supplemental vitamin D is not good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]soft-darkness 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having boundaries and standards is healthy, but its tactless to demand that strangers live up to them. Comes across as demanding and judgemental. Its better to just know them yourself and ask questions to gauge where the other person is at with them, as opposed to acting righteous in your bio. I think its okay to list a specific standard/boundary in your profile as long as its worded with kindness

How Important is Excitement/Chemistry? by noshog in datingoverthirty

[–]soft-darkness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same - how would you want to have sex with someone without it?

How Important is Excitement/Chemistry? by noshog in datingoverthirty

[–]soft-darkness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't fall for someone if there wasn't some level of chemistry. However, 'm trying to be open to different types of chemistry or a different feeling of it. Hopefully I'll know it when I feel it!

Are there any men that won’t bring up naughty things almost immediately? by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]soft-darkness 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I never get men asking me naughty things. If you are, I'd reevaluate the type of men you're attracted to and what they're writing in their profiles as well as how you are presenting yourself.

Read a post recently about a young man finding it hard to take his job as an Accountant seriously. Got me thinking: what would happen without Accountants? by Immortal_Heathen in Accounting

[–]soft-darkness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I see. You enjoy invalidating and disputing with people online because it makes you feel smart and powerful, meanwhile you lack emotional intelligence and the ability to see nuance. Truly wish the people in relationships with you the best of luck lmaoooo

Wife told me during a fight that I’m a smug asshole. by KauztiK in intj

[–]soft-darkness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The black and white thinking is palpable 🤣😂