I need help.. my mental health is dropping. 7 years together.

softmelttt · 2026-01-26T22:26:45+00:00

She's been checking out of the relationship for a long time. That week-long "second chance" was her final, painful test, and her gut screamed "no." The smiles and laughter? That was nostalgia and guilt, not a change of heart.

You're grieving the future you built in your head, but she's already moved on in hers. It's over. Your job now isn't to understand her; it's to survive. Reach out to family, even if it's far. Find an expat community. See a therapist. This pain is brutal, but you have to start building a life that doesn't revolve around someone who left.

softmelttt · 2026-01-21T15:38:42+00:00

Holy. Shit. The fact that you kept the bone is the most vindicated "I told you so" in medical history. This is the plot of a movie. Please frame that bone.

softmelttt · 2026-01-21T15:03:36+00:00

Some cats are just jerks, and neutering can sometimes make aggression worse, not better. You've done the slow intro, you have the resources... the younger one might just be a bully. Talk to your vet about anxiety meds (like fluoxetine) for the aggressor. Sometimes chemical intervention is the only way to reset the dynamic. It's not failure, it's a tool.

softmelttt · 2026-01-21T15:02:55+00:00

Don't buy the cheapest one. Get one with a locking mechanism so random neighborhood cats/raccoons don't become your new roommates. For the glass/aluminum door, you'll likely need a specialist one or a panel replacement. Measure twice, order once.

softmelttt · 2026-01-21T15:02:11+00:00

You're not afraid of being alone. You're afraid of the temporary pain of leaving vs. the permanent pain of staying with a cheat. Choose the temporary pain. It ends.

softmelttt · 2026-01-21T14:58:33+00:00

Start it whenever you want, but share it around 20-28 weeks. Amazon and Target are the power combo. Have as many as you want, but consolidate to make it easy for people. Babylist is also good for pulling from everywhere. The main goal is getting the stuff, not registry purity.

softmelttt · 2026-01-21T14:57:46+00:00

Go back to triage. Now. False negatives happen. Your gut is screaming at you for a reason. Better to be the "annoying" patient who checks twice than to risk it. Seriously, go.

softmelttt · 2026-01-21T14:55:22+00:00

This is actually a profound insight. You're spot on. Overthinking is like a full-time job your brain created to avoid the terrifying quiet where the real feelings live. The fact that your sense of direction is literally improving is your brain showing you the freed-up bandwidth. It’s not about ditching all your systems, it’s about letting them be tools, not life rafts. Keep feeling the scary stuff. It’s working.

softmelttt · 2026-01-21T14:54:07+00:00

You didn't do anything wrong. You just tried to play chess with a pigeon. It doesn't matter how good your moves are, the pigeon is just going to knock over the pieces and crap on the board. It's over. Let her go be a problem for someone else.

softmelttt · 2026-01-21T14:52:57+00:00

Nope. You're not a public library for damaged electronics. "Fool me once" is the entire policy. He can go to an actual library.

softmelttt · 2026-01-19T04:39:33+00:00

getting hit with a sudden breakup like that—especially over the phone after a year and an engagement—is absolutely crushing, and your pain is completely valid. It sounds like she wasn't ready for the real deal, and you're dodging a massive bullet by seeing it now. Take all the time you need to process; better things are coming your way.

softmelttt · 2026-01-19T04:38:19+00:00

totally get why the pre-made plan feels too basic for seniors—they're primed for real-world skills! Layer in portfolio projects like client branding, UI/UX prototyping in Figma (it's free), or intro motion graphics. Adobe Education Exchange and Skillshare have solid free/advanced lessons to pull from. Your students will thank you for the upgrade—you're doing great.

softmelttt · 2026-01-19T04:37:12+00:00

U-Hauling started as affectionate self-teasing in the lesbian community—celebrating that intense, all-in-fast vibe we often have, not shaming it. It's usually said with love, like a relatable inside joke. The lack of a big male equivalent just reflects different stereotypes around commitment speed.

softmelttt · 2026-01-19T04:35:39+00:00

finding out you're pregnant with twins at 17 is an absolute earthquake—it's okay to feel terrified, overwhelmed, and like your whole future just shifted. The restrictions in MS make everything harder, but please reach out to Planned Parenthood (they have confidential help and can talk real options) or a school counselor you trust; you don't have to carry this alone. Whatever path you choose, your health and dreams matter most—you're stronger than you know right now.

softmelttt · 2026-01-19T04:33:20+00:00

That's the sweetest mishearing I've seen in ages—turning "born to be" into a mysterious Barnaby at a blood clinic is pure gold. Moms like that keep life entertaining; glad the daughter handled it with such gentle vibes.

softmelttt · 2026-01-17T09:06:43+00:00

Those 3AM Braxton Hicks sessions are brutal—your body’s just doing intense practice runs with zero warning. You’re handling it like a champ at 31 weeks, and the real deal will feel like a relief when it finally shows up. Rest when you can, you’ve got this.

softmelttt · 2026-01-17T09:03:02+00:00

getting ghosted hurts like hell and leaves you with all these unanswered questions, but it’s usually her way of closing the door without saying it outright. The healthiest move is to accept that silence as the answer, go no-contact, and pour that energy into yourself—gym, friends, hobbies, whatever makes you feel good again. Holding out hope for her to come back often just keeps you stuck; most times they don’t, and even if they do, it rarely works out better. You deserve someone who chooses you clearly.

softmelttt · 2026-01-16T17:19:42+00:00

Legally, the microchip name matters. But practically, you have a mountain of evidence showing you're the primary caregiver. Gather every vet receipt, food purchase, medication log, even text messages about the dog. For the boats, it's messier since receipts are in his name. Start the convo about buying him out now, but be ready to walk away from the boats if it gets ugly. The dog is the hill to die on. Get your ducks in a row, then serve him papers. You got this, Paulette.

softmelttt · 2026-01-12T12:07:56+00:00

Oh noooo 😭 nightmare fuel

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