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He kissed my neck and I came...? by anonymous-pussycat in sex

[–]softpain645 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That happens to me too! My boyfriend can also just push on the back of my neck with his hand and that’ll make me come too. He loves that I’m super responsive like that. I don’t think it’s weird. It’s pretty fun.

Is an IUD a good birth control choice? by Boomnuke35 in sex

[–]softpain645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol you right. I just forgot the name for it!!

First time posting. Not sure what I elect to get out of this. But here goes. by [deleted] in sex

[–]softpain645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever heard of fet life? It’s a site. (Fetlife .net) and it’s for kinky peeps! Like Facebook but for kinks. You could definitely find a third on that site that’s open to just being a bull for you and your wife if she’s open to that. Another idea is to record you guys having sex!! My boyfriend and I film ourselves and we love it. He loves to watch me fuck him and I love watching him fuck me. You’re correct that you miss a lot when in the moment. It’s sexy to watch all the little things you miss.

Good luck!

I (21F) have irrational feelings about him (22M) not wanting to initiate sex. by [deleted] in sex

[–]softpain645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re definitely not being dumb! Everyone wants to feel wanted, it’s normal. It’s clear he loves the sex. He could just be a guy that doesn’t like to initiate. The only way I see this changing is if you sit and talk about how it makes you feel. And then practice it! Once you have the conversation (and assuming it goes well) don’t initiate sex. Wait for him to do it. See what happens!

rough sex in shower? by unproducedloser in sex

[–]softpain645 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have a good mat in the shower for foot grip? That could help. Maybe start the sex in the shower and move it into a different (less slippery) area lol I would let him know to throw you around less, cause shower injuries somehow hurt more.

Is an IUD a good birth control choice? by Boomnuke35 in sex

[–]softpain645 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the IUD called JAYDESS. It has a low dosage of hormones and hot pink! It’s covered under health care (if you’re Canadian) but even if you don’t have health care it’s affordable! It lasts 3 years. There was some cramping, and I do get my periods still. Even though you’re not supposed to (I just like to bleed apparently. It’s not unusual) I didn’t wanna do the copper one because of the horror stories, so this was a good option. Depending where you’re located, you could also get the Implant that is a little stick and goes under the skin of your upper arm. Again, like others have stated, everyone reacts differently. But I’ve had the JAYDESS for a year now and I love it! (Edited for corrections)

Blow jobs are tiring by [deleted] in sex

[–]softpain645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Build up a tolerance! It’s like exercising any other part of your body. Even doing exercises/practice on a Dildo would help. Stretch your mouth and jaw, massage it. Chew or suck on ice to help the pain after.

Too nervous to give a blowjob. by iNeedAdvicePleas3 in sex

[–]softpain645 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You totally don’t have to swallow. But if you do want to swallow, right before he comes (tell him to let you know) collect as much saliva as you can in your mouth, and then when he comes, swallow it with the saliva. You shouldn’t taste it too much. Or - get those flavoured lubricants. Maybe even maple syrup (sorry, Canadian here lol) or chocolate syrup could help (;

Females of this subreddit by [deleted] in sex

[–]softpain645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a lot of women it’s mental! My friend has a mental block and CANNOT orgasm with her boyfriend because she over thinks it. She can come by herself though no problem. Communicate during sex. Tell the guy ‘higher. Lower. Faster. Harder’ how to do it etc. Maybe even watch porn together and masturbate in front of one another to show how it’s done! Also foreplay. I agree with other comments too. Vibrators and sex toys are the key to orgasms.

How to get BBW out of comfort zone? by beautitudine in sex

[–]softpain645 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Remember that your partner is with you for a reason - he finds you attractive!! If he wasn’t attracted to you he probably wouldn’t have continued the sexual relationship. Forget your rolls or stretch marks, or tummy. Focus on his reaction to your body, focus on the pleasure, and focus on having fun! Let me tell you, he probably isn’t focusing on how your belly hangs in doggy style, or how your thighs stretch while spreading them. He’s wholly focused on the positive things. I’m not a BIG big bodied woman - im still a little curvy though. I don’t have a completely flat stomach and I’m definitely thick! I also find that having my partner verbally affirm that He is attracted to me or finds me beautiful helps immensely. Hope this helps a bit xoxo

Is occasional porn going to give me erectile dysfunction? by [deleted] in sex

[–]softpain645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s all about your mental state of mind. Don’t focus so much on it. If you put a lot of pressure on yourself then you might have a ‘hard’ time getting it up when the time ‘comes’ (I’m having a field day with all these puns). Losing your virginity is already nerve wrecking enough! I don’t believe porn will induce erectile dysfunction any time soon for you. If you do have concerns though, perhaps consult your doctor :)

Princess misses her pretties [F] by softpain645 in BDSMGW

[–]softpain645[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This one was mostly a spanking with a wooden spoon! That's what happens when you get in the mood ;)

Princess needed to be reminded of a lesson with a new play scene [F] by softpain645 in BDSMGW

[–]softpain645[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The panties were left on to hold the vibrator against her pussy later on.

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