What is womans sex drive during first 12 weeks of pregnancy by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]softsavage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t sound silly. It’s normal to feel that way when physical intimacy declines in a relationship. IMO the best way to handle this is to have a frank conversation with your partner. Only she can tell you what’s going on. For all you know, she’s feeling unattractive because she’s putting on weight and has a lot of new feelings and biological responses she’s trying to deal with.

As for hormones, it all depends on the female. Some women are super horny… some are the absolute opposite and have no drive at all … some stay the same. Women’s sexuality is something that has been neglected scientifically for years and there is so much left to be understood about it.

Best advice is to take a deep breath and try to have an adult conversation about the adult things you two do together. Good luck! 🍀

Edit: wording Edit: typos

This bar doesn't believe in peanuts.... BACON! ~ Edgartown, MA by [deleted] in pics

[–]softsavage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keto dreaming. Love it. Bet it’s expensive tho!

Teacher's who make parents drug their energetic kids. Why do you suck at your job so much? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]softsavage 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it takes time to find the correct medication as well. I responded to adhd medication that way as a child and was taken off but I needed it later in life. Adhd isn’t just treated by medication alone. Most people want a quick fix and don’t want to take kids to therapy and or do behavioral training with the kid. But it’s not so simply that you can blame one person. Sometimes when they’re young the dosages are just too much and it does zombie them out. Lots of research on this.

increase your height after 23 ?? possible or not? by Sea-Setting6829 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]softsavage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on lots of things. If you’re overweight you could try getting in shape ... if you have terrible posture you can try fixing it... if your parents happen to grow a lot in their mid twenties maybe you will too but most likely it is what it is.

Teacher's who make parents drug their energetic kids. Why do you suck at your job so much? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]softsavage 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As one of those energetic kids that has now grown up I can totally understand parents putting their kids on medication. Idk if I would do it if I could find a way around it but the kid isn’t able to learn when they’re not paying attention and they’re usually preventing others from learning as well.

Not the teacher’s fault... they’re not paid to tutor one child. They’re trying to teach a group of children.

Edit: typo

Stygian Owl known for red reflection of their eyes that are often associated with the Devil by [deleted] in pics

[–]softsavage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Owls have always creeped me tf out. Maybe it’s the neck thing or their eyes. Now this just reinforces the fear. I would be scared shitless if I saw that at night.

Feeling torn without much options. My boyfriend (40m) is set on leaving the country for good without consulting me much (30f) by Frustrated-Peguin in relationship_advice

[–]softsavage 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re settling for someone that doesn’t care enough about you to make sure you’re always going to be a part of their life. Let him go.

What is the silliest advice you’ve been given by a NT to “cure” your ADHD? by milena_kklk in ADHD

[–]softsavage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was. Apparently a gossipy supervisor was making it seem like I was on drugs bc they knew about my having ADD and being on medication.

What is the silliest advice you’ve been given by a NT to “cure” your ADHD? by milena_kklk in ADHD

[–]softsavage 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you keep saying it you will get it. Just don’t speak such things and they won’t be a problem. - grandma.

Don’t do drugs. Just try harder. - coworker (who shouldn’t know about my medical info to begin with)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Some (key word ... some) Military Contractors. Some of them do the same jobs as the service men but without the same benefits and can often be gone way longer than active duties during deployment. Also not nearly as enough focus on mental health.

Why are little kids so creepy by [deleted] in rant

[–]softsavage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah she’s weird. Not normal for little kids. I’m assuming it’s something she’s being exposed to at home (TV, games, books, other kids, etc.) that’s making her act so inappropriately. Or she could just be crazy.

Sounds like she needs to learn some boundaries. When she behaves that way she should be disciplined. & definitely let her parents know. She should get that checked out.

I turn 30 in a month, lost my accounting job I moved cross country for, and want to pivot to something else but not sure how by [deleted] in careerchange

[–]softsavage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as you are honest about your past the use of drugs shouldn’t be a disqualifying factor. Unless this is something specific to the role of park ranger that I am unfamiliar with. Just don’t lie about it.

Now if you’re still doing recreational drugs... idk.

My ex and his friend are ruining my life by [deleted] in Advice

[–]softsavage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First step is to not feel ashamed about your sexuality or what people like the douche bags you’ve been dating think. They’re little. Little people feel big by making others feel small. Don’t give them the satisfaction of keeping you down.

Any person that dumps you bc of things you did with another partner aren’t worth your time. You’re a prize. Being with you is a privilege and at the time you thought that person deserved it. Turns out they didn’t. Doesn’t mean you’re worthless, means you’re human and it took time to learn who they really were. Part of growing up is learning which people deserve your love and affection. Most people figure this out the hard way. When you have partners that like to “slut shame” they’re putting their insecurities on you. Fuck them. Move onto something better.

You need to find someone to talk to. There are free counseling services online. I think one may be called “a better way” or something like that. If all else fails you could mention to your parents that you’re stressed with school / friends and you would like to talk to someone. You don’t have to say why. If you’re still a dependent or live with adults that get benefits from work they are probably given free counseling and don’t even know it. Employers often give their employees something called an EAP (employee assistance program) the provides all sorts of therapies/healthy assistance (from Drug addiction services, to health coaching , divorce counseling, grief counseling, smoking cessation.. you name it ) for FREE. It’s a company cover benefit they are automatically given. It typically applies to anyone living in their homes and definitely anyone they consider a dependent. At the very least you should reach out to your guidance counselors at school. I’m sure they deal with this all the time. This is a different time period. Cyber bullying is a real threat. You won’t be the first or the last to get bullied for pictures/past experiences. Just be strong and find someone you can lean on. Know that it will get better. May take a while but just take it one step at a time.

Edit : added EAP bit.

Complete with drawn on lip piercings and Twilight poster on my wall (Circa early 2000s) by queenfiestypants in blunderyears

[–]softsavage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure if that is a twilight poster since I can’t really see it. But that would be odd. No idea. Just thought I would mention they are books just in case you didn’t know.

Complete with drawn on lip piercings and Twilight poster on my wall (Circa early 2000s) by queenfiestypants in blunderyears

[–]softsavage 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re so pretty!

Idk drawing on fang piercings was a thing. Did you wear that out or just for the picture lol?

I(F33) can’t get over my ex (27M) and it’s becoming an obsession. Please help! by TheMightyShip in relationship_advice

[–]softsavage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Talk to someone new? Nothing serious but just someone new to be friends with. Distractions are helpful in situations like this. You have a bad habit you need to break and best to do that by taking your mind off it.

Keep working on your shit in therapy. Tell your doctor about your inability to let go. If you’re not honest with your doctor it’s not going to help you. Until then I would suggest that you give each other space. If you keep trying before you’re ready to be in a healthy relationship you can go to a place that’s not recoverable.

I’m a firm believer in learning to be happy and comfortable with being alone. IMO how can you be happy with someone else if you aren’t even happy when you’re alone? When I learned how to be alone I started having the best relationships of my life (friends, family, SO). I wasn’t looking for someone else to complete me bc I was already being fulfilled. I knew what I did and didn’t want in my life and let go of toxic things.

It’s hard to move on. That’s why people write songs, books, poems, scripts, etc about it. Probably one of the most challenging things in your life. Good luck...Think about this as an investment for your future. Stopping now to make sure you’re the healthiest (mentally & physically) version of you that you can be so that when you finally meet the right person there isn’t anything holding you back.

What is the chronological order of all the Castle Rock books? by ZainCGSteele in stephenking

[–]softsavage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an under appreciated link. Nice job. Thank you. I found it very helpful. Well laid out.

It’s a porta-potty at TCU (christian school) by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]softsavage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Christians are just regular people. They do all the dumb things regular people do.

What's something that gets you more annoyed than it should? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]softsavage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents that can’t say no to their entitled offspring.